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To not want this woman on my street "helping" with my bins every week?

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LittleBoPeepHasLostHerShit · 29/09/2022 13:38

A woman on my street (about 5 doors away - don't know her name, she doesn't even say hello if she sees me) rushes out to put all the neighbours' bins back after the binmen have been. (Not sure how many other houses she does but it's not just mine.) I don't like it because she goes into my drive to do it and she can see into my house through the window. It just feels unnecessary and intrusive. I'm guessing she wants to be helpful and clear the pavement for others and thinks we are all to slow putting them back. Would it be ungracious to pop out and tell her thanks but there's no need?

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Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 29/09/2022 15:11

Coastalcreeksider · 29/09/2022 15:08

Someone putting my bin away Monday would have saved me having to pick it up where the wind had blown it over, right across my drive and the public footpath so I couldn't park the car. My neighbours aren't friendly in that way where I live now unfortunately. 😩

and with people thinking/posting as the op has done, such neighbourliness will continue to dwindle and we all miss out on better communities and easier lives.
Seems a fair number agree with the op though.

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LaughingPriest · 29/09/2022 15:12

You need to come out as non-binaway

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JOFFCV · 29/09/2022 15:13

ferneytorro · 29/09/2022 15:00

Christ no I’d hate this. Who made her bin monitor. Get off my drive.

😂

I have no idea why but it would annoy me too.

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pompomdaisy · 29/09/2022 15:14

My neighbour puts my bin back every time. We get on. I do it for her when I can.

In our old house a nasty neighbour used to do it then when she was having a go about something she would say 'and I put your bin away' I never asked her to or wanted her to!

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hellcatspangle · 29/09/2022 15:14

LittleBoPeepHasLostHerShit · 29/09/2022 13:48

I forgot to put my bins out once so the bin men didn’t take them, wouldn’t have minded her on my street on that day!

She doesn't put them out, she puts them back after they have been emptied.

Maybe she knows some people who are visually impaired or using mobility scooters who really struggle to get by when people don't get their bins in.

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NotQuiteHere · 29/09/2022 15:15

Again one of those threads about help we are not asking for.

No, you are not unreasonable if you feel uncomfortable. No, you don't need to explain why you don't like it. Just ask them to stop.

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Novum · 29/09/2022 15:17

If you're that bothered about her seeing in, just wait to open the relevant curtain on bin day until she's come and gone.

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JOFFCV · 29/09/2022 15:17

Our shared drive neighbours do it for us and we do it for them though but I find it odd she's doing it for everyone. Is it because she doesn't like to see the bins and wants the street to look tidier?

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Thurst · 29/09/2022 15:17

Weirdly, this would irritate me too. She probably doesn’t want the bins left out because it looks messy and I’d interpret it as a bit of a passive aggressive accusation against all the slatterns. Nothing you can really do about it without looking like a dick though.

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AryaStarkWolf · 29/09/2022 15:18

LaughingPriest · 29/09/2022 15:12

You need to come out as non-binaway

😂

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Emotionalsupportviper · 29/09/2022 15:32

girlmom21 · 29/09/2022 14:17

What a ridiculous suggestion.

What?

What's ridiculous about it?

I think it's inspired!

(You made me laugh out loud with this suggestion @GlassDeli)

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N0RKS · 29/09/2022 15:33

LaughingPriest · 29/09/2022 15:12

You need to come out as non-binaway

Genius!

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Repetitivestraininjury · 29/09/2022 15:34

I think I know her name, its Mrs Bucket.

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Emotionalsupportviper · 29/09/2022 15:34

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 29/09/2022 14:23

My father and his next-door-neighbour have an ongoing battle to get the other’s bin in. Their bin battle is particularly impressive when Dad gets to NDN’s bin before them, only for them to grab his bin. I did suggest it might be easier to just take their own bins in, but as Dad said, where’s the fun in that?

Homestly, the quicker bins are off the streets/pavements, the better for everyone.

😂😂😂

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OhMerde · 29/09/2022 15:35

Go one step further and stand in your window wearing a fig leaf and nipple tassels when she's bringing the bin back. As she gets closer, you could do a little shimmy. That'll put the fucker off her bin duties.

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slappery · 29/09/2022 15:36

What's your opinion on Royal Mail

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purplecorkheart · 29/09/2022 15:44

I wonder is she doing it to help wheelchair users/people pushing prams/people out walking or people trying to walk past rather than actually doing it to help the neighbours.

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Snazzysausage · 29/09/2022 15:47

As a compromise could you ask her to leave them at the end of your drive/path but so they're just off the pavement?

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Emotionalsupportviper · 29/09/2022 15:47

LaughingPriest · 29/09/2022 15:12

You need to come out as non-binaway

Under-rated post.

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MintyGreenDreams · 29/09/2022 15:49

Get her a hi viz vest with Bin Warden on it

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Sophieleigh26 · 29/09/2022 15:49

Mine does it too, but not in a nice way. If I haven’t bought my bin back in by midday she drags it and leaves it touching my front door or in the car park and I have to go on a mission finding it. It’s rude tbh

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LunaNova · 29/09/2022 15:56

This would drive me nuts, mainly because our bins are cleaned after they've been emptied and if they're not at the end of the drive in the afternoon when the cleaner comes it doesn't get cleaned but we would still have to pay. The bin cleaners put our bin back on the drive after they've cleaned it so it's out for around 4 hours after being emptied.

It might seem "neighbourly" and yes, it's nice to do things for neighbours, but not without prior agreement.

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emmathedilemma · 29/09/2022 16:05

I'd be delighted if someone put all our bins away!

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LetHimHaveIt · 29/09/2022 16:05

Depends. I move bins if they're blocking a public highway, and don't give a fuck if so doing makes the owner uncomfortable. If they're not blocking anything, I'd think it was a bit intrusive, yes. Because then you're in Hyacinth Bucket 'They're so unsightly!' territory.

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Pr1mr0se · 29/09/2022 16:07

Honestly....first world problem. Use this offer to help from your neighbour to get to know her. Nice neighbours need to be cultivated not slxgged off on mumsnet

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