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To not tell DH what the dog has done.

206 replies

fruitstick · 26/09/2022 09:47

We have a dog. He's my dog which DH never wanted but I insisted.

He loves him now, but he's still definitely my dog.

DH works from home and his office is off our living room.

I'm always telling him to keep things off the floor etc but it's completely full of crap.

Recently he bought a limited edition print. It wasn't super expensive (£25) but signed and he was really pleased with it and it can't be replaced.

It was in a poster tube in his office waiting to be framed.

The dog took it into the garden this morning and has eaten it. Both ends of the tube (and print) chewed.

I swiped it before DH could see and tried to get a replacement but they are sold out.

Shall I just hope he forgets he ever bought it? Or fess up?

OP posts:
perfectlypickled · 27/09/2022 19:25

Go on the offensive. “You set the dog up!!”

Missingpop · 27/09/2022 19:34

Tell him it’s his stupid arse fault for not keeping his stuff cleaned up hopefully he’s learnt his lesson tge hard way.

Shelaydownunderthetable · 27/09/2022 19:55

That’s great! Who was the artist?

oakleaffy · 27/09/2022 19:59

fruitstick · 26/09/2022 10:23

The print is ruined. He's chewed the signature!

The dog is only allowed in our main living space (not upstairs etc) but DH's office is directly off it and he leaves the door open.

The dog is 18months. So not a puppy but still a bit of a pain in the arse.

My dog is 15 months old, very well behaved, apart from chewing!
She has umpteen things to chew on, but a thick cardboard mailing tube is the king of dog chews.

Like curry to a pisshead.

oakleaffy · 27/09/2022 20:03

@fruitstick I posted too soon..
Fess up and be honest.

It’s your partner’s responsibility to keep the door closed.
I have a family member temporarily staying, and said to him “Keep your room door shut! Dog can and will chew stuff”

I’ve never had a chewer before- Mind you, her teeth are gleaming! Shredded tassel.

To not tell DH what the dog has done.
AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 27/09/2022 20:06

Terrific resolution, OP. He must've known he was in the wrong.

Insanelysilver · 27/09/2022 20:13

Keep defo quiet if I were you. Save yourself the agg about the dog. I know you said it can’t be replaced but can you get a replica ? 😂

Lovely13 · 27/09/2022 20:13

We learn by our mistakes. It will teach him to close his door and not leave important stuff lying around. Husband that is, not dog.

Vynalbob · 27/09/2022 20:19

If it wasn't for the MH issue I'd say fess up.... but I'd be sorely tempted to get someone to copy it & frame it as a gift until you can get an original (mention dog to sellers it might urge them to look harder.

Get someone to put a spring on the office door so it's not left open. Another 6 mth and hopefully the dog will chew less.... meanwhile silicone (looks like silicone but probably not) bones or denture sticks might help.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 27/09/2022 20:22

fruitstick · 26/09/2022 10:25

He will be cross about it. Not abusive or demand we get rid of the dog, but will complain a lot and there might be some sulking.

He's not good at being responsible for stuff and loves someone/something else to blame.

It's about time he learned actions had consequences and got himself in the real world then isn't it. 🤨

I understand he feels the world is against him but that's how it feels when you chronically refuse to accept any personal responsibility for your own actions.

If you feel this will tip him over the edge, I suggest your husband gets either a. Therapy or b. A grip.

ScruffMuffin · 27/09/2022 20:28

That's brilliant! How lovely the artist has been. I'd love to know who it is!

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fruitstick · 27/09/2022 20:31

I'd love to share the artist and the dog but terrified of being outed by the Daily Mail Blush

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LovinglifeAF · 27/09/2022 20:42

Oh dear, I’m sorry but I laughed. I’d probably stay quiet until and unless he mentioned it, but I’m a shitbag.

Isaidnoalready · 27/09/2022 20:45

Say nothing try to get it replaced

Or successfully get a replacement and tell him what happened so he is more responsible next time

PyongyangKipperbang · 27/09/2022 20:54

Good result although it would piss me off that he actually saw the dog with the damn thing and did nothing. I would suggest that you remind him that when he leaves the door open and the dog gets in again, that is on HIM (DH) and any damage the dog does it his problem.

TheHumanExperience · 27/09/2022 21:03

fruitstick · 26/09/2022 10:23

The print is ruined. He's chewed the signature!

The dog is only allowed in our main living space (not upstairs etc) but DH's office is directly off it and he leaves the door open.

The dog is 18months. So not a puppy but still a bit of a pain in the arse.

Remember you can NEVER punish a dog for so.ething it has done in the past. Even if it was just 1 minute before you discovered it. A dog lives in the present, here and now. It will make no connection to destroying the tube, even if you show it the tube. It will feel the aggressive energy from you /him and become fearful. The dog will learn to fear you. Not that it has done something unwanted. You must catch a dog in the middle of the act, to break or distract awY from the behaviour.

If things were left on the floor or within reach of the dog. It is 100% your own fault. Take it as a lesson and move on.

CoffeeThisInstant · 27/09/2022 21:18

I love a happy ending!
Any chance of a photo of your dog?

CheshireCat1 · 27/09/2022 21:19

Dogs chew, especially young ones. I’d tell him, it’s done now.

angelfacecuti75 · 27/09/2022 21:25

Tell him straight.
Men do not do hints.
Say "dog did this. Told u not to leave stuff on floor. I have warned you mutiple times not to do it. But you still did it. I hate to say i told u so , but i did. You are responsible for your own stuff, you should have looked after it and not left it on the floor. So go sulk by all means , but you are responsible for your own stuff & i am not your mother so do not go and blame it on me or the dog as it knows no better and you should. You may think i am being harsh but i did try and warn you. Take responsiblity. "

Kate0902900908 · 27/09/2022 21:26

Wait till he asks if you have see it. Chances are it will be a while if at all.

When/if he does I would just be like ow don’t know last time I seen it it was on the floor?!

….. just me but wouldn’t say a thing

Iloveringos · 27/09/2022 23:10

UrsulaPandress · 26/09/2022 10:29

Do not confess. Say you have no idea where it is.

DH is still searching for the shoe that BastardSpaniel#2 shredded in the garden over two years ago.

🤷‍♀️

🤣🤣 love this

pinkstripeycat · 28/09/2022 06:00

Dog is still considered a puppy until 24 months

TVK9 · 28/09/2022 09:16

18mths is still a puppy in my opinion. 2 or 3 years would be an adult dog as far as I'm concerned. I've had 50+ years of experience with dogs, not an expert but lived with dogs all my life.

Fireflybaby · 28/09/2022 11:12

Not only I would fess up, I would also tell the husband off ; lesson to learn not to leave stuff on the floor and close the door if you don't want the dog in. Not the dogs fault, obviously 🙄 😒 ...

AdobeWanKenobi · 28/09/2022 11:35

It's really quite simple.....

To not tell DH what the dog has done.