To not tell DH what the dog has done.

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We have a dog. He's my dog which DH never wanted but I insisted.

He loves him now, but he's still definitely my dog.

DH works from home and his office is off our living room.

I'm always telling him to keep things off the floor etc but it's completely full of crap.

Recently he bought a limited edition print. It wasn't super expensive (£25) but signed and he was really pleased with it and it can't be replaced.

It was in a poster tube in his office waiting to be framed.

The dog took it into the garden this morning and has eaten it. Both ends of the tube (and print) chewed.

I swiped it before DH could see and tried to get a replacement but they are sold out.

Shall I just hope he forgets he ever bought it? Or fess up?

Prints are just that, prints of the original - so there usually are many available. I’d offer a replacement of it or a similar equally wanted print, I’m sure he has a few he is after if he is a collector? I’d also get it framed so it looks nice even if signature not visible, explain! If you are worried he will react very badly then maybe this is not a good relationship to be in, accidents do happen.

Why on earth do you have a dog in a house where one person doesn't want a dog? Selfish as fuck

Or prioritising a bit of peace over a cheap poster. Her DH has issues & will go on & on about it. Causing upset for a £25 poster, that he'll probably forget he bought.

@Prokupatuscrakedatus

there's s bit of a difference between lying about fucking the neighbour & just not mentioning the dog chewed a poster.

he may not have wanted the dog, but he agreed/accepted it. Of course he shouldn't leave things on the floor that the dog might chew or close the bloody door. It's ridiculous to say the OP needs to supervise the dog 24/7 in their home because DH can't be expected to shut the door to his office. 🙄🙄

He'll learn he was right to not want a dog, certainly.

A lot of victim blaming on this thread.

@TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination the OP doesn't need to supervise the dog 24/7 she just needs to train it. The dog is 18 months old she has had plenty of time to train it to not destroy things left lying around. Anything beyond 6-9 months is far too old for that type of behaviour.

Hopefully the OP will learn to supervise her dog better and keep him out of places he's not meant to go 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'd start with some like,
"This will make you laugh..."
or
"Those limited edition prints increased in value today. There's a reduced number of them now..."

Sorry, I'm not really helping am I?😳

Not actively lie, just never mention again.
When mine were pups they shredded new lino that had been down a day. I couldn't hide that, but his trainer, well I never mentioned it and neither did he. He also sighed heavily at the lino. On here recently I saw someone be told that if their puppy chewed something , they should roll up a newspaper and smack themself on the nose for being so stupid as to leave it out where the puppy could get to it. I agree.

In this case if there is a door, keep it shut, if no door then a safety gate and as a first line of defence keep stuff out of reach, until these things happen, you cannot blame the dog. And 18 months is prime time for chewing.

It's not victim blaming. It's the reality when you have a dog. You accept that sometimes things get damaged and if you didn't leave them in reach it wouldn't have happened. It comes with the territory. Same as toddlers.

i spend so much time teaching and reminding my children to put their things away and not leave them lying about. Surely a grown man should manage this? Yes the dog shouldn’t have been in there, are you meant to follow it round and Micromanage it’s day. It’s not up to you to pick his stuff up. If it were me I’d not leave stuff that meant something to me lying on a floor dog or no dog!

young dogs take some training to not chew. My boy is certainly out of that stage but he loves to shred so nothing is left after previous passport mishap when he was a pup. It’s just cost my son £90 to replace so expensive mistake, should I have paid for his new passport because he left it lying about? People don’t seem to want to take responsibility for their stuff anymore it’s always someone else’s fault

I'd tell him and he might then shut the door to his office. Don't waste everyone's time with him looking for it or asking if anyone has seen it anywhere, I'd be more annoyed with that then the fact the dog chewed it.

Yeah, maybe he should have shut the door. And maybe the OP shouldn't have foisted a dog on him when he didn't want one. Lots of maybes.

If he’s that messy I’d feign ignorance.

Feign you have no clue and suggest the tube got accidentally binned.

I suppose when he does notice I would admit what happened and then tell him why you didn't want to tell him. - or taking responsibility and the sulking.

It could have been far worse in monetary terms!

I'd just tell him. And let him rant a bit and offer some (limited) sympathy.

This is based on the fact that I would also be annoyed and rant a bit if the dog ate my nice thing, even if it was my dog and my fault. In fact I'd probably be more annoyed if I knew deep down it was my fault (e.g. I left the door open).

But my sympathy would have a limit. After allowing an initial rant I would be shutting down any further grumbling with "Yep I know, it's a shame it got chewed. But we know [dog] chews stuff so we'll have to make sure we keep the door closed won't we"

i never confessed to throwing away the stopper from the food processor years ago - but we managed

It's his fault too for keeping stuff on the floor. I'd tell him and blame him😂

Will telling him now be good for him? (If he is searching for the lost print it probably would be but if not ... )

Would waiting a while (until you know if it can be replaced) do any harm?

Family rule from childhood: Tell the truth unless it is kinder not to.

Once you have the replacement it would probably be best to tell him - because honesty between you is a good thing and because it might make him more careful with the study door and leaving things around.

I'm away with the fairies probably ..

Could you buy an unsigned print and perhaps sound out the artist to see if they'd consider signing a small plain card to your husband with a message saying something like... 'Really sorry to hear your hound had a chewing session and limited edition x/25 of (picture title) is no more.' It is a big ask but there's a chance they might. You'd need to sort out the logistics though.

Then you could frame a non-limited edition of the print with the explanatory card in the same frame just below it. It won't make it a limited edition but it will be one of a kind :)

Or you could just frame what remains of the LE print with the card below. It would make the picture a talking point, if it wasn't already!

Victim blaming. FFS.

Stop being so ridiculous. Suggesting someone takes care of their belongings is NOT victim blaming.

I wouldn't tell him. Its his own fault for having the office accessible to the dog and for leaving things of value on the floor. I would try to replace it but I wouldn't be taking any responsibility for him not minding his own things. When/if he finds out he might be in a better place to see its inevitable that these things will happen. Also don't let him use the fact he didn't want a dog 18 months ago against you.

replace it
whether or not you tell him i cant decide

@user1471457751

snother poster said she should have been supervising the dog.

18 months is still quite a young dog & I did suggest training.

I can't quite believe some of the responses on here. The guy didn't 'leave it lying around'. It was in his own office FGS. If my DH got a dog I didn't want, then didn't train it not to destroy stuff in the house, I'd be pretty unhappy about that.
If said DH then also lied/hid the truth from me I'd be livid.

Haha hope you manage it. Practice lots!!