To not tell DH what the dog has done.

[fruitstick]

We have a dog. He's my dog which DH never wanted but I insisted.

He loves him now, but he's still definitely my dog.

DH works from home and his office is off our living room.

I'm always telling him to keep things off the floor etc but it's completely full of crap.

Recently he bought a limited edition print. It wasn't super expensive (£25) but signed and he was really pleased with it and it can't be replaced.

It was in a poster tube in his office waiting to be framed.

The dog took it into the garden this morning and has eaten it. Both ends of the tube (and print) chewed.

I swiped it before DH could see and tried to get a replacement but they are sold out.

Shall I just hope he forgets he ever bought it? Or fess up?

[MrAutumnal]

Are you gonna tell DP that you chewed it? 😂

[Hoppinggreen]

A friend advised me when I got a puppy that if it ruined anything I should roll up a newspaper and whack myself on the nose with it for leaving said item within reach.
If you have an animal that chews and you leave something out or a door open then tough shit

[NiqueNique]

@SerendipityJane

Another no is victim blaming. Or so I'm told.

Again for those at the back:

Victim blaming means a very specific thing.

It does not translate to ‘nothing that happens to me is ever my own fault or my own responsibility and if you try to advise me that I maybe could or should’ve done something differently to avoid this situation, you’re just victim blaming’. No. That’s not how that works.

[MinimumMadness]

@Hoppinggreen

A friend advised me when I got a puppy that if it ruined anything I should roll up a newspaper and whack myself on the nose with it for leaving said item within reach.
If you have an animal that chews and you leave something out or a door open then tough shit

I like your friends thinking. 😉

[fruitstick]

Update!

The artist came back to me.

He's sending another!

I sent a photo of the print and the dog.

So now I can tell DH

[SerendipityJane]

Victim blaming means a very specific thing.

At a guess something involving blaming victims ? Seems specific enough to me.

[User57994]

@fruitstick

Update!

The artist came back to me.

He's sending another!

I sent a photo of the print and the dog.

So now I can tell DH

That's great but I personally wouldn't tell him all, no harm done and he doesn't need to know it was ever an issue!

[tortiecat]

@fruitstick

Update!

The artist came back to me.

He's sending another!

I sent a photo of the print and the dog.

So now I can tell DH

Love this update! You/DDog wont be in the doghouse now!

[Mummyoflittledragon]

That’s brilliant. 😊
I would tell him, I know others disagree. A kind of lesson learned - for him, not you.

[NiqueNique]

@SerendipityJane Nuance. Again, an important concept and one which many seem to lack a complete understanding of.

Sometimes things are, in fact, the fault of the individual themselves. It is not victim-blaming to state that fact.

Please tell me that you actually do understand the difference between something being one’s own fault (at least in part), and being a victim of something serious/violent which is not something one could ever have reasonably prevented. The concept of victim blaming applies in one case but not in the other.

Example one: there is a dog in my household. I have a favourite pair of shoes. I know that my puppy doesn’t yet understand fully that they are not allowed to chew shoes, so I always put them away. One time I forget to put away my favourite pair of shoes and when I come downstairs in the morning I find them chewed up. I can only blame myself, as the dog doesn’t know any better.

Example two: I am out for the day and decide to go to town for some lunch. A drunk person in the queue ahead of me gets angry because there isn’t any fish left to go with his chips. He gets agitated, staff try to calm him down but he just gets more angry. He turns around and punches me. I am not to blame for being in that place at that time just going about my own business.

[NiqueNique]

@fruitstick Great update, glad you managed to sort it out.

[luckylavender]

You have to tell DH though or he'll never learn.

[MrsLargeEmbodied]

oh phew op
that is great news

[Glittertwins]

Nice work OP!

[CuriousMama]

Great news

[cosmiccosmos]

Isn't the dogs fault, your DH left the door open and the tube on the floor. I wouldn't tell him and then deny all knowledge, huu it Ed he going to find out!

[cosmiccosmos]

Sorry didn't read to bottom - great result OP!

[NoSquirrels]

@fruitstick

Update!

The artist came back to me.

He's sending another!

I sent a photo of the print and the dog.

So now I can tell DH

Brilliant - great result.
Do tell DH as he does need to learn to close the office door!

[WildFlowerBees]

It's not the dogs fault and I hope he wouldn't shout etc, I'd have to tell my dh but given yours seem emotionally immature I'd be tempted to say nothing until he asks.

[fruitstick]

It gets better.

I have told DH what the dog did and that a replacement is on its way.

He was fine about it and actually quite sheepish because he did see him with the poster tube this morning and just assumed he'd fished something out of the recycling bin,

Lesson learnt for him, and for me to not bother trying to cover for the dog!

[mamabear715]

Brilliant! :-)

[holidaynightmare]

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

If its his work space, separate from the rest of the family home, then he can keep it in any state he likes. The dog shouldn't be in there.

I agree
And I don't dislike dogs but I wouldn't have one myself but if my partner bought one then it trashed my stuff I'd be really cross and probably ask him to get rid of it tbfh

[Moonatics]

@mam0918

To not be able to relax, own nice things or just act normal in your own house sounds miserable.

I grew up with dogs, had several of them and not 1 ever did anything like this... its not part of 'owning' a dog its just some dog owners take no responsability to train their animals so blame everyone else doing normal things for their out of control pet.

You cant have nice things and a pet like a cat or dog. The two things dont go together. See also cant have nice things and young children.
I seriously doubt you had dogs growing up from puppies and they never did any damage.
All bar two of my lifetime of dogs I've had from puppyhood. All of those from puppies have destroyed something. From original skirting board, to post through the door.
It takes time to train them out of it, and while that training goes on you have to remove temptation from easy access.
They are hardly out of control, it's exactly what puppies do. If they are still doing it at 3 I may agree.

[Johnnysgirl]

@HebeSunshine

Is he likely to notice its missing? If not I’d keep quiet and one day in the future when he realises it’s gone you can just feign ignorance. Things get lost in houses all the time don’t they?

Do people really behave like this? . Grow up.

[Daisybuttercup12345]

Just don't mention it. He should have shut the door.