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To not tell DH what the dog has done.

206 replies

fruitstick · 26/09/2022 09:47

We have a dog. He's my dog which DH never wanted but I insisted.

He loves him now, but he's still definitely my dog.

DH works from home and his office is off our living room.

I'm always telling him to keep things off the floor etc but it's completely full of crap.

Recently he bought a limited edition print. It wasn't super expensive (£25) but signed and he was really pleased with it and it can't be replaced.

It was in a poster tube in his office waiting to be framed.

The dog took it into the garden this morning and has eaten it. Both ends of the tube (and print) chewed.

I swiped it before DH could see and tried to get a replacement but they are sold out.

Shall I just hope he forgets he ever bought it? Or fess up?

OP posts:
SunscreenCentral · 26/09/2022 19:16

I'd say nowt

BattenburgDonkey · 26/09/2022 19:28

Daisybuttercup12345 · 26/09/2022 19:09

Just don't mention it. He should have shut the door.

She mentioned it and it was resolved hours ago. You can click ‘see all’ and read all the OPs posts even if you don’t want to RTFT

MrAutumnal · 26/09/2022 21:00

Thats great OP - although I was hoping to read an update about how you tried to take the blame for the chewing so the dog remained innocent 😂

WiddlinDiddlin · 26/09/2022 22:12

Oh good result OP - in my house, if you don't want it 'dogged' then you put it away in any of the multiple places dogs CANNOT go due to the door being kept shut.

If you can't be arsed to shut the door, put it away, whatever, then it's your own fault whatever it was got chewed up/taken outside/etc.

It has taken my OH quite a long time to figure this out (17 years and counting but he's not an arse to me or the dog about it when it happens!).

ThinWomansBrain · 26/09/2022 22:42

if his 'office' is such a mess he probably won't notice

but VBU not to incluse a photo of almost still a puppy

Brigante9 · 26/09/2022 22:42

Cardboard tubes=dog crack. I keep the utility room door closed or mine nick empty loo rolls/boxes in the recycling. He should have put it out of reach.

KingCharlespen · 26/09/2022 22:48

fruitstick · 26/09/2022 10:25

He will be cross about it. Not abusive or demand we get rid of the dog, but will complain a lot and there might be some sulking.

He's not good at being responsible for stuff and loves someone/something else to blame.

It almost sounds like you chewed the poster. Don't enable him to behave like this, he was careless and this is the result. I don't understand how he could blame you in any way.

Heatheroo · 27/09/2022 18:04

Depends on how he'll treat the dog. My tendency would be to feign ignorance and if he keeps on about it tell him that if he tidied his work space he might find it. If it was so valuable to him, he should have looked after it, but maybe don't add that bit. Dogs will be dogs but some non-doggie people don't understand that!

RedAppleGirl · 27/09/2022 18:35

girlmom21 · 26/09/2022 12:44

I can't believe how many people are encouraging lying.

I can.
People are regularly encouraged to lie, about affairs, money, etc. This is no different.

Sylvaniandream · 27/09/2022 18:39

This is EXACTLY why some people don't like dogs and don't want dogs. (I have a dog). You'll have to tell him, but he is not being unreasonable AT ALL if he is angry that the dog he didn't want went into his office and chewed something precious that he left in there. So what if it was on the floor? His stuff, his office.... Not his dog, but it has become his problem. Why did you push for something as dusruptive and expensive and as time consuming as a dog if the person you live with didn't want one????? WHHHYYYYY? I did the same thing, OP. the dog is a sore point in my house, and will be for at least another 10 years. I was VERY stupid. And now I am poor and stupid with a lovely, but irritating dog, and and permanently annoyed husband.

Sylvaniandream · 27/09/2022 18:41

And you said he wasn't v responsible for the things he loves. Ummmm, OP, you love the dog and it's yours and you weren't responsible enough to keep an eye on where it was and what it was doing. Leaving a print in a tube in his own office probably felt fairly responsible.

QueenoftheFarts · 27/09/2022 18:42

Deny all knowledge and tell him if he wasn't so untidy he would know where he left it.

HarryBlaster · 27/09/2022 18:47

18 months is still a puppy.

Favouritefruits · 27/09/2022 18:47

Chuck it in the bin, dispose of the evidence and pretend you have no clue where it is. Try to buy a new one and buy it fir him ‘just because’ yes it’s not honest but it’s what I would do to avoid an argument.

SoupDragon · 27/09/2022 18:51

Maybe make the effort to read all the OP's posts, including the update?

NiqueNique · 27/09/2022 18:51

And while you’re at it, cancel the cheque!

TiaraBoo · 27/09/2022 18:52

Good result, but if he allows up into his office, he should keep it puppy proofed, rather than making you feel like it’s your fault.

TiaraBoo · 27/09/2022 18:52

Not up, pup!

SpidersAreShitheads · 27/09/2022 19:05

ThinWomansBrain · 26/09/2022 22:42

if his 'office' is such a mess he probably won't notice

but VBU not to incluse a photo of almost still a puppy

Great update OP, and delighted that the artist has been so helpful.

But @ThinWomansBrain has an excellent point. I feel as if we need to see a photo of guilty doggo. Pretty please.

Solonge · 27/09/2022 19:12

WhiskerPatrol · 26/09/2022 11:32

Both you and your dog sound like arseholes, frankly. Why did you get one if DH didn't want it?

Really? Is that how you normally speak to people? People are put off of using Mumsnet because of the amount of toxic abuse. It’s not ok to be this unpleasant.

imtoooldforthiscrap · 27/09/2022 19:15

I'd be saying to my husband that I've told you to keep your stuff off the floor, and this is what happens when you don't!

ThunderstomsAreComing · 27/09/2022 19:16

he left the door open. His responsibility. My DC had many many dolls and toys with 'disabilities' as one of our dogs was a chewer. They were told to put things away and close doors - but frankly if they didn't it was down to them.

If he mentions it that's what you say. If he doesn't mention it then it's not that important to him.

Mamamoo12 · 27/09/2022 19:17

I would deny all knowledge 😂

CambsAlways · 27/09/2022 19:17

You should fess up I wouldn’t be happy if our dog had destroyed something and I wasn’t told more angry with the person than the dog, young dogs if chewers will go after poster tubes, it should have been put up so not really the dogs fault

KiraKiraHikaru · 27/09/2022 19:20

Moonatics · 26/09/2022 19:01

You cant have nice things and a pet like a cat or dog. The two things dont go together. See also cant have nice things and young children.
I seriously doubt you had dogs growing up from puppies and they never did any damage.
All bar two of my lifetime of dogs I've had from puppyhood. All of those from puppies have destroyed something. From original skirting board, to post through the door.
It takes time to train them out of it, and while that training goes on you have to remove temptation from easy access.
They are hardly out of control, it's exactly what puppies do. If they are still doing it at 3 I may agree.

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What a loads of crap. I’ve had dogs, cats and children and I absolutely do have nice things and none of the animals or children have ever ruined anything because they are taught how to behave