Boyfriend to give a friend a lift home

[MumLife90]

My friend has come over for some drinks. We were originally meant to go out but I couldn't afford it so she came to mine instead.

She said she'd get a cab home, but we live in a village and when it came to booking she was having issues.

My OH was awake as our DS had woken up. I asked if he could take her home. He was no happy about it and said he'd find a cab. My friend had already tried 3 so I said can you please just take her home. She's a female and needs to get home safe. He reluctantly agreed and is now pissed off at me!

Am I being unreasonable to ask this of him?

[VroomVrooom]

@melj1213

A boyfriend/husband is not "sub standard" just because he was initially annoyed at being asked at 11.45pm (whilst already in bed) to drive the OPs friend home. Especially as the OP posted this practically the second he walked out of the door, so by the time he got back he had got over his annoyance so this was all a mountain out of a molehill

You can both do the right thing in driving the friend home while also being annoyed at being asked to do something inconvenient to you, it's not unreasonable to not be 100% happy at being volunteered for a task at the last minute.

I have done many favours for people because it was the right thing to do but it doesn't mean I can't grumble about being voluntold to do them when they're inconvenient.

Which is exactly what I said in my first post on this thread….

I can understand why he is annoyed. He’s tired, wasn’t expecting to have to haul ass into the night at a late hour.

But ….

My Dh would do this without hesitation.

In fact, he’d be mortified if any of my friends saw him as being anything other than completely willing to make sure they got home safely.

And likewise, I have had friends’ husbands drop me home, and they’ve never been anything other than unquestioningly happy to do it.

I know much of humanity - including much of MN - thinks men are all hopeless drop-kicks, expected to operate at a standard of behaviour so far below women, they might as well be a different species…

But actually, all the men I know are good, decent, considerate and thoughtful.🤷🏻‍♀️

[PugInTheHouse]

Being a bit irritated is a normal reaction, I would be myself, DH wouldn't let it bother him at all but both of us would do this to ensure someone got home safely. I do think it's sub standard to have someone so cross they won't speak to you. If taxis are usually easy to get then the friend wasn't unprepared FFS.