My friend has come over for some drinks. We were originally meant to go out but I couldn't afford it so she came to mine instead.
She said she'd get a cab home, but we live in a village and when it came to booking she was having issues.
My OH was awake as our DS had woken up. I asked if he could take her home. He was no happy about it and said he'd find a cab. My friend had already tried 3 so I said can you please just take her home. She's a female and needs to get home safe. He reluctantly agreed and is now pissed off at me!
Am I being unreasonable to ask this of him?
AIBU?
Boyfriend to give a friend a lift home
MumLife90 · 24/09/2022 23:46
pfs · 25/09/2022 09:43
She's a female and needs to get home safe
so would it be different if it was a male friend? AI think yabu for pulling the gender card, to go out alone at night is dangerous for anybody male or female.
Midnights · 25/09/2022 09:15
This thread is just a mountain out of a molehill!!
Of course he's allowed to be annoyed that at midnight, whilst up dealing with your DC he then has to deal with two drunk women who are unable to figure out taxi booking or alternative arrangements. You put him in an awkward position, he did you the favour, and you said when he was home he wasn't annoyed anymore. Surely there's no big deal?
FWIW I'd do the same for my DH and he would for me, but we plan ahead and don't drop it on each other at midnight!
wheredidIleavemystyle · 25/09/2022 10:12
Don't be ridiculous. Men sexually harass lone women. Women do not do this to me. We can stop "playing the gender card" when men stop doing this.
pfs · 25/09/2022 09:43
She's a female and needs to get home safe
so would it be different if it was a male friend? AI think yabu for pulling the gender card, to go out alone at night is dangerous for anybody male or female.
wb3 · 25/09/2022 12:09
God you really can actually feel the pleasure some posters are getting from typing such judgemental comments.
Someone's plans went a little bit wrong. Someone was a little bit inconvenienced.
Some MNers really do love to stick the boot in.
Nymeria6 · 25/09/2022 02:50
He shouldn't be peeved off he's being out of order. Rise above it
DirectionToPerfection · 25/09/2022 12:17
It's really nasty.
God forbid a man might occasionally be asked to do his partner a favour.
Surely everyone puts themselves out from time to time to help out friends and family? It's give and take and part of having healthy relationships.
wb3 · 25/09/2022 12:09
God you really can actually feel the pleasure some posters are getting from typing such judgemental comments.
Someone's plans went a little bit wrong. Someone was a little bit inconvenienced.
Some MNers really do love to stick the boot in.
MumLife90 · 25/09/2022 00:43
Can I just make things clear he was NOT asleep, he left the house at 11:45 and for back at 12:15. It's not wildly late, my friend couldn't stay because she has a child she needed to get back to and whilst pre booking a cab was a good idea in hind sight but we didn't do it.
I'm just glad she's home safe, my partner has no longer annoyed and knows for a fact I'd do the same for one of his friends!
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VroomVrooom · 25/09/2022 23:48
Sorry for all of you on this thread with such sub-standard boyfriends / husbands.
VroomVrooom · 25/09/2022 23:48
Sorry for all of you on this thread with such sub-standard boyfriends / husbands.
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