Guys who slide into DM's

[madasacatter]

I had a guy slide into my DM's twice and whilst this isn't the first guy to or even that bad in what he said, something about this one irked me and I feel like as it's obvious from his profile that he has a long-term partner/wife that I should send a screenshot to her.

YABU - It's none of my business, don't send anything
YANBU - Send her a screenshot, she deserves to know about his behaviour

I'd never heard this expression before. For those who think this makes me unusually ignorant, I've just used the Mumsnet search box and apparently this thread is the only one in the past year that contains the expression.

It might be interesting for people to say where they have come across it. I don't do Facebook, twitter or instagram. Apart from mumsnet i'm on an investing forum, and I use Youtube, that's about it.

Bullshit. Most of the women I know on Twitter get unsolicited DMs on Twitter, including me, and none of us have profile pictures like that at all.

OP, I know exactly what you mean and it happens a lot. The same guy did it to me and about seven or eight other women I know on social media and he is married with children, which is clear from his Facebook but not on Twitter. He also knows that most of the women he DMs have partners too. He also got arsey when we asked him not to DM us.

I'm guessing this is an expression mainly used by women under 30?

... among themselves

Im 37 and have never heard this phrase. I asked DNiece (teen) and she shrugged at me and didn't know it either so i suspect its less widely used than people think and is only common among the small subset of people who devote a massive amount of time to social media.

Do fuck off with this victim blaming crap

Nope. I’m late 40s.

Another in her 50's that understands the sentence. I don't do social media (outside of MN) nor do I watch much live current telly and I don't know young people. So, where are the rest of living that you don't understand the sentence!

Strange description but I know what you mean I’ll tell you what I did. Had some weirdo message me, didn’t have a clue who he was. I looked at his (not very secure) profile, he’d got engaged about a month before. I told him it was weird to just message women like that and he still tried it on. So I screenshot it and put it on his page. Also under a few recent posts. Then blocked him so he couldn't see the post but others could. Don’t know what happened after that.

Dudsville where have you heard it then? Where does it get widely used?

I wonder if its a regional thing. Im in the south east (London commuter belt).

This is the problem isnt it, all the smirking and sneering about people who dont understand it, the problem is easily solved by using universal language rather than phrases and words applicable to a particular demographic

As someone else said, this is a very large forum, not a site which uses 'teen speak' or slang or different dialect or anything like that

So dont then be surprised when the majority of responders dont understand what you're talking about as has happened here

There are some horrendously annoying acronyms and abbreviations used on this site too which I dont use personally and even they make reading posts difficult at times. Slang is not helpful

God wtf is wrong with people, are they new to the internet or something. Leave it op, not your problem.

The irony of Mumsnetters - whose entire language consists of tedious abbreviations like ‘DH’, ‘LTB’, ‘AIBU’, and ‘TTC’ - sneering at other people for using social media shorthand as if that makes them terribly silly and common is incredible. Get over yourselves.

You missed https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4521426-Still-on-dating-app this one from April this year. There is also https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/3393974-a-scary-time-for-boys this one from 2018, but it might not count because it's a song lyric.

the problem is easily solved by using universal language rather than phrases and words applicable to a particular demographic

What, like ‘DH’, ‘MIL’ and ‘DC1 and 2’, you mean?

Manateefair those are mnet specific abbreviations and there's a guide to them provided on the site.

Yeah tell her. She can decide what to do with it. The world would be better if more women told each other what their partners were up to.

Did you actually read my post where I specifically say how unreadable those abbreviations are

But even if I dont like them or use them, the fact is I am on a specific site whereby that is the language used so I cant really complain and continue to use the site can I.

I wouldn’t bother I usually just block straight away, they’re all sleazes, last one was offering me over a grand to meet him, why not just go to a prostitute, doesn’t give me a great view of men tbh

I get the DMs part (although unsure how it differs from just a plain old M which is different to commenting on your feed, say), it's the "sliding in" bit which makes me smile as it's not how people generally talk.

I'm trying to think of a comparable phrase used by over 25,s but can't.

I do realise I'm not the target demographic though

But unwanted comments or advanced are always sleazy and grim. I wonder how these desperate Dan types will communicate in a way that make girls skin crawl in 10 years. Yuck.

Which is NOTHING like insta or TikTok so what point were to trying to make exactly?

I have zero desire to watch Love Island. Pointless load of meaningless drivel. No need to sound like an idiot, when we have common language. English.

There's no desperation to be anything, it's a particularly stupid phrase, when a perfectly normal one would do. It's more like an aching desperation to be 'too cool' to use English.

Maths not your forte either?

If it’s clumsy and cringe-inducing, is it known as ‘trampling all over the DMs’?