Guys who slide into DM's

[madasacatter]

I had a guy slide into my DM's twice and whilst this isn't the first guy to or even that bad in what he said, something about this one irked me and I feel like as it's obvious from his profile that he has a long-term partner/wife that I should send a screenshot to her.

YABU - It's none of my business, don't send anything
YANBU - Send her a screenshot, she deserves to know about his behaviour

Just lock down your privacy. If you have an account and DMs open to all the scum of the earth will congregate. Why would you engage? Just delete and block.

aching desperation?

a touch far fetched, non?

I’ve been giggling away (as a fellow old and ignorant one)

Nope. Neither.
Not so common as some would like to think, judging by the amount of confusion on this thread!

Anyway, sounds more like blundering than sliding to me.

I'm almost 46 and knew what it meant though have only learned it recently!

Grief. I'm cringing at these comments. wHaT dOeS iT mEan?!😅 Yep, as a pp said, don't bother messaging the wife/partner. Just block him.

I've only ever seen the phrase in a similar post on here. No one there understood either. I'm nowhere near 70... am old enough to have teens but I don't.

This is Mumsnet. There are a lot of easily confused adults here.

"What do you mean you borrowed her your umbrella? I dON't UnDErSTaNd wHaT thAt MeANs."

Why are people’s replies being so disingenuous? This is a well-known phrase, as explained early in the thread, so why continue to claim to not know what it means?. It is unpleasant and unsettling when people use a social media platform to attempt to cosy up and make direct contact for personal chats. I use LinkedIn and Twitter for work, and only for work, so my direct messaging (DM) is open. Similarly here on Mumsnet my dms are open. But I don’t expect or want people to sidle in and attempt to strike up social chats with me, and it’s irritating when men (and it’s always men) do so to chat me up.

This week, someone from uni DM’d me when she saw on LinkedIn I’d got a new job and wanted to reconnect with me - appropriate use. Someone else contacted me to offer a professional service - appropriate use. A randomer dm’ing me to tell me I’ve beautiful eyes - inappropriate use.

Omg 🤣🤣🤣

Nope definitely 20 years younger than that and never heard that phrase.

Well it is bloody stupid to be fair! Also, the apostrophe doesn't help either.

Thought she was advocating for her Dear Mom…some sort of car incident???

For the posters saying they don’t understand what OP is taking about, try posting some thirst traps on Instagram, you’ll soon understand.

BTW, I’m not saying OP was doing this, but it is a quick way for others to learn how people “slide into one’s DM’s”.

For “thirst traps” think any normal photo of a woman. They don’t even need to be remotely sexy for men to have a crack. They need little to no encouragement.

Why are some people being hypocritical on here? This is coming from a site where users use acronyms such as DM, DH,FIL etc!
Op - this occasionally happens to me and I just block and move on! No point messaging their partners !

Just block them. I get DMs from people trying to sell me crypto currency. I just tell them I'm not interested. It could be that it's a marketing tactic. If it's more personal, just block them. Hilarious the number of "US military" or "doctors working overseas" who slide into DMs...

Yes, sent her a screenshot and then block him.

No, I'm not privileged at all. Fortunate definitely, but I've worked very hard for a long time to pay for my rock (and I still do, since my rent isn't going anywhere).

A key part of both my job and the roles I have outside it is clear, concise communication that the majority of people can easily understand; this includes not using jargon and slang because doing so excludes others as the thread shows. Not everybody talks/writes like this, but they can understand people who do - if I didn't, I would likely have no clients and no work. I'm sorry if my preference for plain English is as alien to you as your preference for internet-speak is to me but that's all it is, although I have my doubts about your 90% claim.

You might also want to learn how to use the '@' and/or the quote button, since had you included either I would have known you were replying to me when you did. I've made it clear that I don't use or know how to use Instagram/Twitter/Facebook/Tik Tok and so on, but when I'm not trying to it doesn't matter.

@Garlicpotatoes 🤣🤣🤣Ffs

How do you send a DM "slickly and coolly?" Surely there are only two ways of sending a DM 1. You send one 2. You don't send one.

"Hey bb. U look like 🔥😍Want to see my todger? 😘"

Except sometimes they don't ask first.

@picklemewalnuts

@@Edinvillian

I'm feeling quite young as I knew what it meant 😂😂

Me too! Properly chuffed. It's rare!

And me, has made an old fart very happy.

I'm sure I have heard "slide into my DMs" in song lyrics and I think it is a song title too

Personally I would stay out of a stranger's business. But how would you get her info anyway?

Don't take note of the cattiness OP, Dick is either angry about something, or just showing her/his age!

'Sliding into DMs' has been a phrase for years.

People are more caught up in the phrase used than your question here.

I wouldn’t bother contacting the wife. Don’t get caught up in this creeps personal life. Just block and put something on your profile about no direct messages.