To not want to look after someone else's drunk DC?

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As title says.

DD went out tonight with her friend and the plan was for him to sleep at ours, he's done this loads of times before so I agreed as I didn't think they'd be too drunk, DD is fine, her friend however isn't, he's been sick a few times and I can't even get a conversation out of him, I messaged his mum and she said she's on holiday and she'll try and call his grandad but that was about half an hour ago and I've not had a message from her.

Aibu for not wanting to look after someone else's drunk child?

@worriedatthistime Of course your DD will be drinking at uni and so will my DD next year. Just as you and I did.

But parents are allowed to have some house rules and mine didn't want me or my friends coming to their home drunk. DH's parents were the same.
Coming home tipsy was fine, paralytic, no. I got drunk at university and when I had my own place.

It's not an unreasonable expectation and I'm genuinely surprised that it's unusual for parents to expect this.

the reason the ambulance service is rushed off it’s feet is because there aren’t enough of them

oh sigh. 🙄@ people who think they know what is wrong with healthcare.

Comparatively speaking, very few drunks need hospital treatment. Very few of those that need hospital treatment need blue-lighting. Not great to use an exceptional case to advocate for the frankly piss poor advice of a pp

It's one of those things you do when you're the parent of a teen.

You say this is the first time he's needed your help, so... just do it.

Would you not want someone to help your daughter out if she got herself into such a state?

If it happens more than once then maybe tell him he can't stay over anymore.

Your DD sounds is an immature idiot and I would be telling her that her friends are not welcome to stay from now on.

At 17 I would expect her to be.

OP said that her DD is not underage, so as an adult should be looking after her own bloody friend.

@TakeawayManAlan ·

Most teenagers are drinking in fields and then sleeping outside in this state happens organically. Nobody dies

Sadly, sometimes they do

I agree. Many of them already know how hard they are going to have to work to get grades to get into Uni and then to buy a house.

They have goals and dreams and don't waste their time every weekend getting drunk.

Much less alcohol consumption seems to be the norm than when I was a teen. More use of weed but again that's only certain groups. Many of my DC friends are very sporty and really know about nutrition, hydration and wellbeing. Way way more well informed and determined than many adults!

Alan is being a bit of a windup knob on many threads - all "I'm so hard innit" desperate to goad people into responding.

I agree with @Aubriella stat and @Cameleongirl - many teens these days rather despise the "mum in the kitchen at wine o'clock while dads down the pub" culture. The laddishness of the 90's is not cool for them at all.

without question you should look after him and ensure he’s safe. You would hope people would do the same for yours.

My mom would’ve been like “you think it’s funny? Then you can clean his sick up!”

Lessons have to be learnt.

It’s not fun, but you’d want another parent to look after your kid if the situation is reversed. And it most likely will be

I would have a conversation with him when he sobers up and the Mother when she returns from holiday. Tell them this is the first and last time.

Yanbu. But you’ll have to deal. You knew they were off drinking, what did u think would happen. Put a bucket by the sofa or bed. Water and paracetamol.

but if you don’t like it,say no to your daughter in future.

DatingIsDifficult ·
He's 17, DD won't look after him as she finds him being drunk amusing!
Tell her it won’t be so amusing if he chokes on his own vomit.”

this. With friends like that ……..

Absolutely!

My middle DD learned a valuable lesson at a party at 17, when one of her friends got really drunk on a bottle of Vodka that his Mum had given him to take to a house party. He downed the whole thing in under an hour, and was choking on his own vomit when thankfully the party hosts parents arrived home just to cast an eye over them all........ all the other kids were drunk too and no one had noticed that he was face down on the ground. This kid nearly died and was in hospital for the best part of a week. The Mum put an epic rant on FB the next day about parents giving their kids spirits and letting other parents deal with the fallout.

How would u feel if u we’re on holiday and ur child did this would u hope that there friends mum would look after them…. Kids/teenagers do stuff. It wasn't urs this time but next time it mite be. I totally agree it’s not ideal

Why does he need looking after, give him a bucket, water and let him sleep it off.

Don’t ring an ambulance.

Just this

Are you serious…heart attack victims wait for ambulances absolutely do not waste paramedics time ffs!! OP it’s a drink kid not the best but honestly get a grip,that could be your child one day!!

That's really good if you. I won't encourage it but I hope my boys and their friends know I'll always look out for them. x

Part of the parcel I guess, looking after him would be the compassionte thing to do and set a good example imo. The Mum owes you one! X

You need to look after him - he's a guest in your house. He is also underage. And he is a friend of your daughter's (who sounds pretty immature). I can't imagine why you think you don't owe him a duty of care, in moral terms at least.