To not want to look after someone else's drunk DC?

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As title says.

DD went out tonight with her friend and the plan was for him to sleep at ours, he's done this loads of times before so I agreed as I didn't think they'd be too drunk, DD is fine, her friend however isn't, he's been sick a few times and I can't even get a conversation out of him, I messaged his mum and she said she's on holiday and she'll try and call his grandad but that was about half an hour ago and I've not had a message from her.

Aibu for not wanting to look after someone else's drunk child?

What awful generalisations. I thought this infantile thinking had gone out the window decades ago.

Here is the actual statistic:

older people are still most likely to drink, while those least likely to drink are aged 16 to 24, with 26% of that age group fully teetotal.

amp.theguardian.com/society/2022/jul/24/gen-z-for-zero-tolerance-why-british-youth-are-turning-off-booze

My teens don't drink. They are far from nerdy. They see it as embarrassing. I hate this narrative of teens getting drunk being a rite of passage. Most of MN seems happy to shove fruit ciders into their 15 year olds hands because they believe otherwise they'll get too drunk when they leave home. Societies attitudes towards alcohol are a fucking shambles.

They're 17, so presumably they're quite often unsupervised. They're less than 12 months away from moving out of home and starting university, where there will be no parents to look after them. They need to get on with it themselves, either with your DD looking after him, or noone looking after him. He's not your responsibility, he just happens to be in your house. By all means make sure he doesn't choke on his vomit and die, but it's there that your involvement should end. You don't need to make him feel better with tea and toast. He's your DDs friend, if she was a decent friend she'd be looking out for him, it's nobody's parents responsibility at that age. If his friends don't do that for him, he need to stop getting drunk.

Suck it up and hope the favour is returned if you go away. What goes around comes around.

I think your DD needs to grow up....

Then she’s badly misjudged what going out with your DD means.

I don't think the MN posters pushing that narrative are representative. It's like the ones who scream all young teens should be having sex with their parent's blessing. Their agendas are dodgy af.
Luckily teens don't hang out on Mn (except in the holidays) so they won't see the idiots trying to normalise underage drinking and underage sex. And pulling the 'oh it's sooooo cool to get drunk and you're just a nerd if you don't' bullshit favoured by groomers everywhere.

We had this with my sister and her mate when they were about the same age.

My parents made sure no one was in danger, left the both of them in my sisters bedroom and went to bed.

Next morning dad chose to mow the lawn very early and when they did surface took the piss out of them until drunk friend departed.

After that they were too embarrassed to repeat the incident at our house. So was I.

I'm not sure what else you need to do? It's not as though an ambulance needed to be called was it?

Dont waste anyones time by calling an ambulance. Just look after him until hes ok and tell him thats the first and last time you will do that.

Thanks

Kids have enough to contend with.this added pressure to be in the “cool” group only if you drink and want to party has been a pushed narrative since I was young! It was horrid for kids then,I thought or hoped we might have moved on.
I looked up to my sister so much.she had a group of solid mates who came round and snuggled ha,played trivial persute,hot choc and movies.they were Deff not sad or nerdy. And they were the type of close you could only wish for.25 years later still the same group still like family.except now they hire barn conversions in the country to stay at together.😜
there’s a few models
nhs
national trust
it consultants
bankers
vets
property developers
teachers etc etc they are the least nerdy people I no and they never felt the need to go out and get blind drunk.

Yes if you want him to asphyxiate on his on vomit. Very irresponsible,

My DD (17) and her friends (17-18) have the odd beer or cider, that's about it. Definitely not socially awkward, they're always out!

Many of them play on sports teams and know more about healthy living than I do! I think going out and getting drunk seen as very Gen X/early Millennials now, i.e., dated. 😂

I think OP is very selfish. Surely you see a person in need, who is a friend of your daughter and you help? Wouldn’t you want someone to help your daughter if she was in the same position? Or would you like another parent to whinge and whine on a public forum about whether or not to take care of her while she sobers up?

@Plmoknijb123 Don't you think it's disrespectful to bring a really drunk friend home and just expect your parents to look after them? I've never done this, and I wouldn't expect my DC to do it either. It's hugely disrespectful.

@Cameleongirl its a teenager thought. What teenager thinks like that? They’re young, you go out, bring a friend home to crash. It’s not like he’s moved in, its one night and he’s just drunk too much. Surely young people make a mistake every now and then, or go out and drink too much without thinking through the precise consequences or whether they will be an inconvenience.

@Plmoknijb123 Every family is different and some of my friends definitely did this, I remember one puking all over someone's kitchen table! In my family, it was a boundary we knew not to cross, and so far, my DC (17 and 14) haven't either. Don't get paralytic and don't bring paralytic friends home for us to look after. 😂

@Cameleongirl mmm my ds had just started uni and I would say a fair amount of drinking is going on

@Northernsoullover oh do there just judgemental then instead

@mam0918 yes exactly 111 sent an ambulance for my son and he was kept in hospital
He was hyperthermic etc and very very ill
( we think drinks were spiked with vodka etc ) so he had drank more than he realised and wasn't a drinker either

Not ideal but just look after him, and hope someone looks after your dd if the situation is reversed sometime in the future. Please don't ring an ambulance just because you have a drunk teen in the house.

@Bluelightbaby you do know not everyone drives and on that night rarely i had drunk 2 glasses of wine so could bot drive
The ambulance did a fair big for him to be fair and I wouldn't of even been able to get him in a car if I could of driven
The drivers had no issue with it due to how bad he was
Maybe it does depend but a lot of this just let them sleep it off in another room etc isn't the safest either , you must be aware of that

Also the reason the ambulance service is rushed of its feet is because they do not have enough of then but the like the NHS all over really
Lets look at where the problem lies , yes I get some call them needlessly but surely thats for call handlers to assess
But if we had an appropriate amount for the population and the beds at hospitals so that people could be taken out of the ambulances that would be a big help

@mam0918 its scary how people are so judgemental do this do that when they don't appear to be aware of the dangers that can happen

If it's the first time just look after the poor bastard. If have a good chat in the morning whilst he feels mortal. It's part and parcel of becoming an adult and it might happen to your DD one time, I'd hope the parent of her friend would do the same

If its often, he's not to stay.