To really want to be a SAHM

[Wanttostayhome]

I work PT, but I really don’t want to, I’m saying this here as I can’t stay at home. It wouldn’t be good for my career or pension and there are so many sensible reasons to work. But I don’t actually want to! Does anyone else feel the same?

@3rdOfHisNameBreakerOfPens i think it a disgrace that the people who we are trusting to be responsible for our most precious people, we pay the least.

But then that opens up another massive discussion on funding, schools, teachers etc etc

We just dont put enough value on the care and education of our children, but don't want to de-rail thats another thread for another day.

There's a bit more ti raising a child than 'parental responsibility.' If your mother or MIL or a nanny has your child from 8am to 6pm every week-day for years, I'd say she's had a large part in raising that child.

Bless you, this is so lovely and I wish I was like this. I found whole days looking after pre schoolers incredibly difficult and was always relieved to drop them off at nursery. I used to think that if I had her money I'd be exactly like the queen and not do any of the childcare drudgery myself!
It led to a lot of guilt throughout my early parenting days but now mine are older I love hanging out them so I think I'm just not cut out to look after little kids!

@thecrunch

Teachers too.

There's a bit more ti raising a child than 'parental responsibility.' If your mother or MIL or a nanny has your child from 8am to 6pm every week-day for years, I'd say she's had a large part in raising that child

I agree with the Ethos it takes a village to raise a child. Everyone who spends a large amount of time with a child influences how that child is raised.

I know the level of inputt from family, friends, nursery etc varies. But i think the more people around our DS that love him or are positively invested in him, the better.

I think you'll find childcare workers have to have parental responsibility signed over to them before they take on children.

And often expect childcare practioners to meet key areas that contribute to the overall development of the child, including social, communication, part of the community.
All things that a good parent would do.
Gone are the days when childcare meant watching them..practioners now have key responsibilities in raising the children whilst in their care.
That does not devalue the job parents to at home, it only works as a team effort.

Anyway, very tired of you twisting words. I've said repeatedly all choices should be valued and outlined the reasons why people might make choices you may not approve of.
I hope op finds a practical solution that fits her lifestyle. I'm sure whatever she chooses is right for her.

Ofsted not often.

think you'll find childcare workers have to have parental responsibility signed over to them before they take on children.

News to me.

I certainly didnt agree to take on PR for any of the kids I looked after.

Fuck that

I think a very good reception teacher could be said to play a part in raising a child, if the child has a strong identification with that teacher. It is mitigated by the fact there are 30 children in the class though. It's not like a nanny who is 1:1, or a relative or even a child carer or nursery worker who has maybe three key children for years.

I think a very good reception teacher could be said to play a part in raising a child, if the child has a strong identification with that teacher. It is mitigated by the fact there are 30 children in the class though. It's not like a nanny who is 1:1, or a relative or even a child carer or nursery worker who has maybe three key children for years

On the whole i agree with this, i think by school age most of the basics should already be instilled in them. But I think sadly, the role of a teacher has changed, where they were the educator and concentrated on nurtured the childs education.
Their responsibility has grown so much, its not helping reinforce the values parents/carers have already instilled, in some cases, it is teaching them these values like manners, kindness, potty training, using a knife and fork etc which is a shame as it is deviating from the job they need to do.
They are also acting as social workers in some cases and some simply can't teach because they have children whos needs cant be met in that school, theres no funding for 1:1s so it disrupts the whole class and takes out the TA.

But i digress sorry, yes i dont think teachers play as much of a role in the raising (as in instlling those values as it should have been done or heavily on its way by then in most cases) but more trying to help reinforce those values..

DH has to support me as I have chronic health issues I did not foresee. No one knows these things in advance. Shit happens.

I have been a SAHM for years and unlikely to ever return to my previous career.

The DC understand why I didn't return to work when they were small but also know why I won't be returning any time soon.

@Notplayingball your situation is very different to someone who could work but chooses not to. Ill health takes away choice and I'm sorry that has happened to you

I wouldn't want a man who could support me and the kids but chose not to. I'd think he was a tight arse.

Wtf are you chatting about

Childcare workers do not have to have PR signed over to them, what planet are you on

I think you'll find childcare workers have to have parental responsibility signed over to them before they take on children.

No they don't!!!!

Loling at the idea that childcare workers have parental responsibility signed over to them. I better contact my nursery to question why their staff haven’t been taking my child to their numerous medical appointments and I’ve had to do it instead! Pure madness

I think you'll find childcare workers have to have parental responsibility signed over to them before they take on children.

I don't think that have parental responsibility, I think it's like school where they act 'in loco parentis' which isn't parental responsibility.