Page 27 | Would you lie on your bed in the clothes you've been wearing all day?

blueskyeve · 2022-09-23T10:24:11+00:00

My dh got home from the dentist yesterday afternoon (he had a wisdom tooth taken out), he was in a bit of pain and discomfort so went to lie down. I went to check if he was ok/needed anything and saw he was lying on our bed fully clothed with the clothes he had on all day. I told him that was disgusting and could he remove them please, but he didn't understand why. He said (via text as he couldn't talk) 'But where have I been sat? The dentist? Where everything is famously clean?' That day he had also been sat in the car, been to the shops, taken our dc to school. If it was me I would always remove jeans etc. and put on pj's or clean leggings/joggers before lying on the bed. Who is right?

Florathecat · 26/09/2022 09:21

I think this is a case of what people feel comfortable with and how they were brought up rather than what's right or wrong. I come from a country where most people take pride in their houses being clean and tidy and have certain unwritten house rules. For instance no shoes indoors EVER, they are usually left in the hallway, right by the door and especially when you have carpets or rugs.

I used to have a friend who lived in a hot country for 5 years, think hot and humid all year round. I visited her a few years ago and I was taking a shower every morning and sometimes in the afternoon or evening as I was sweaty and hot most of the time. I lived feeling clean. She found this OTT. She would not shower for 2, 3 days at a time and she was of course 'smelly'. She didn't mind herself that way and I minded my own business. Of course she thought I was OCD and I could feel the judgement. Who was right, me or her??!

Mothership4two · 26/09/2022 09:51

Probably her @Florathecat because I expect she was having to conserve water in the hot and humid country

Florathecat · 26/09/2022 10:10

Mothership4two · 26/09/2022 09:51

Probably her @Florathecat because I expect she was having to conserve water in the hot and humid country

She was not doing it to conserve water, that thought wouldn't even cross her mind.

btw it rains a LOT in that country.

MsRosley · 26/09/2022 10:47

I dunno how I have managed to get through my whole life not having 'outdoor clothes', other than a coat.

BAZWHEAT · 26/09/2022 11:09

What is new ?

SleepingAgent · 26/09/2022 13:39

Reimu · 24/09/2022 23:11

I would never get on the bed after a long sweaty day. It's not just bacteria, dead skin cells, oils and sweat, you then take a shower and lay on a bed where you once again marinate on that filth that you left behind earlier.
On that note, if someone is tired, they can just be replaced. Or get one of those topper thingies to remove at the end of the day and one can lay ontop of it if one must.

How much "filth" do you genuinely think the average adult human will secrete into clothes and then through clothes onto a bed in one day?

Bonkers.

BellePeppa · 26/09/2022 13:41

Florathecat · 26/09/2022 09:21

I think this is a case of what people feel comfortable with and how they were brought up rather than what's right or wrong. I come from a country where most people take pride in their houses being clean and tidy and have certain unwritten house rules. For instance no shoes indoors EVER, they are usually left in the hallway, right by the door and especially when you have carpets or rugs.

I used to have a friend who lived in a hot country for 5 years, think hot and humid all year round. I visited her a few years ago and I was taking a shower every morning and sometimes in the afternoon or evening as I was sweaty and hot most of the time. I lived feeling clean. She found this OTT. She would not shower for 2, 3 days at a time and she was of course 'smelly'. She didn't mind herself that way and I minded my own business. Of course she thought I was OCD and I could feel the judgement. Who was right, me or her??!

Your first sentence about what people are comfortable with is fine - if they live alone or with like minded people. The problem is when this ‘comfort’ is foisted on other people who have to appease them at the expense of their own comfort. I notice you didn’t force or expect your friend to shower as much as you to match your comfort levels as you obviously understand that you can’t just foist or demand other people fit in with your own wants and demands. I’m currently lying on my bed right now watching a bit of Youtube as I’m on a break from housework and gosh horror I haven’t changed my clothes 😁

Novum · 26/09/2022 22:45

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 23/09/2022 12:01

Are you OCD? Seriously.

No-one is OCD. You cannot be a disorder. You can however have OCD.

animalprintfree · 26/09/2022 22:50

Its interesting to read people calling OP ‘deranged’ and the like, when I come from a country where an entire nation of people would agree with her. No outside clothes on the bed ever. Cultural differences, eh.

Shauny098 · 27/09/2022 00:20

Fairislefandango · 24/09/2022 18:52

This post makes my laugh as my husband knows he isn’t allowed to “relax in jeans”….it makes me uncomfortable 🤣🤣. We laugh about it but it genuinely brings me out in a cold sweat! And don’t get me started on ppl watching tv whilst wearing shoes 😷

Just when I thought MN couldn't get any more weird... Has your husband not suggested you get some help for your phobia? Or told you to stop controlling his (perfectly normal) behaviour? I certainly wouldn't be laughing if my husband started dictating what I could and couldn't wear to relax in my own home! Why does your discomfort trump his?

Jeans ain’t comfortable stop lying to yourself Fandango! I bet you watch tv in 3 piece suit and heels you freak.

PrincessAnnaOfArundale · 27/09/2022 00:28

Is this a wind up? I mean I’m all for having a clean and tidy house but this is something that I wouldn’t even register as being wrong. Especially as he was in pain. You seem completely neurotic.... again to even come on here to see who is right or wrong? Your husband was in pain... you cared more about your sheets and now trying to prove that you are in fact correct for doing so. I lay on my bed all the time with clothes on. Unless there was visible dirt and grime then I wouldn’t ever think to remove the clothing to simply lay on the bed. You seem very unreasonable and quite uncaring.

Luredbyapomegranate · 27/09/2022 00:29

Sure. Not in it, but on top of the duvet, yes.

eleanorsmellstrop · 27/09/2022 00:35

Yes I would. What a weird question. You weren’t very nice.

BAZWHEAT · 27/09/2022 11:28

Who is right? Not you! Poor bloke in pain, who are you to berate him? How would you feel if he berated you for lying on your bed suffering from period pains, waiting for the effects of medication to kick in, before continuing with normal life?

OnTheBoardwalk · 27/09/2022 22:11

Am I missing something???

@blueskyeve said on page 1 she admitted she was being unreasonable and would apologise

7 pages later there are still people posting how unreasonable OP is