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blueskyeve · 2022-09-23T10:24:11+00:00

My dh got home from the dentist yesterday afternoon (he had a wisdom tooth taken out), he was in a bit of pain and discomfort so went to lie down. I went to check if he was ok/needed anything and saw he was lying on our bed fully clothed with the clothes he had on all day. I told him that was disgusting and could he remove them please, but he didn't understand why. He said (via text as he couldn't talk) 'But where have I been sat? The dentist? Where everything is famously clean?' That day he had also been sat in the car, been to the shops, taken our dc to school. If it was me I would always remove jeans etc. and put on pj's or clean leggings/joggers before lying on the bed. Who is right?

Mothership4two · 25/09/2022 05:24

Not overly worried about bringing 'germs' in to the house. Just use standard hygiene. Inside and out there is bacteria everywhere. Doubtful you would bring in a virus on your clothes. I'm pretty sure there have been of studies about farmer's children having less allergies etc because they are exposed to dirt, etc? Have YANBU posters never been camping?

Used to be a thing for people to throw their coats on a bed at parties - nobody died

MysteriesOfTheOrganism · 25/09/2022 05:52

YABVU. The guy's just had dental surgery and you're giving him grief about not adhering to an extreme hygiene protocol? Shame on you.

alilstressed · 25/09/2022 06:00

In out home, we all put on houseclothes when we come in, so I don't think you ate unreasonable, OP.

GloriousGlory · 25/09/2022 06:37

Peoplethesedays · 25/09/2022 04:29

I feel the same way tbh it's gross the amount of germs transferred from outside into our homes.. everyone in my house hold knows to put fresh PJ's or clothing on if there not planning on going back out.. common sense.. some of you lot are mad for allowing a someone who's been in dirty public places lay in a bed in the very same clothes they wore out all day..

I'm sorry but you're the mad one! Do explain how you know how many germs come into the house on clothes, can you see them? Can you hear them? Can you smell them?

And if you allow outside clothes to remain on if people are going back out, then it makes a mockery of your bay shot crazy regime.

GloriousGlory · 25/09/2022 06:41

@PetalLeaves I don't think you've a right to tell a nurse that she's disgusting because she doesn't agree with your ridiculous situation dead? Clearly she's proven that the ridiculousness of people during covid and their made up rules of various things, one being that health professionals must change their clothes isn't required.

I'm hoping that one day we won't have the "but covid" crew still bleating on about it, it's over.

Nonicknamesleft · 25/09/2022 07:27

@Peoplethesedays I'm really fascinated by this. Did your childhood home have these protocols or have you developed them as an adult? How did they come about? I hope you don't mind me asking, I'm just really curious. You'd find my house disgusting, no doubt about it, but I honestly didn't know this was a thing.

AliTheMinx · 25/09/2022 07:32

This seems very OTT and extreme to me. I wouldn't have a problem at all.

vickylou78 · 25/09/2022 07:51

I'm also interested how these 'rules' on outside clothes came about....did your parents teach you these rules or is is something you've taken on as an adult. it's odd and what are you trying to avoid - catching a virus? What virus would you catch? It's all so very odd.

SudocremOnEverything · 25/09/2022 08:03

I think I have a different concept of ‘outdoor clothes’ to many people. What people are calling ‘outdoor clothes’, I just call ‘clothes’.

When I think of outdoor clothes, I think of this kind of thing.

Would you lie on your bed in the clothes you've been wearing all day?

VWCJW · 25/09/2022 08:28

I had no idea some people thought it was gross to lie in bed in your clothes.

Notplayingball · 25/09/2022 08:33

Poor guy. Hopefully he feels better soon. Lying on top of the bed with clothing is fine. I do this regularly to rest in the afternoons. I don't lie under the covers with clothes on though.

vdbfamily · 25/09/2022 08:35

yes I would, unless I had been cleaning drains or digging the garden.

mydogisthebest · 25/09/2022 09:31

Peoplethesedays · 25/09/2022 04:29

I feel the same way tbh it's gross the amount of germs transferred from outside into our homes.. everyone in my house hold knows to put fresh PJ's or clothing on if there not planning on going back out.. common sense.. some of you lot are mad for allowing a someone who's been in dirty public places lay in a bed in the very same clothes they wore out all day..

Again, the OP said her DH was lying ON the bed not in the bed. Hardly the same thing are they?

I can sort of understand about someone laying in the bed but being annoyed because someone is laying on the bed is just crazy

orangeisthenewpuce · 25/09/2022 09:33

Peoplethesedays · 25/09/2022 04:29

I feel the same way tbh it's gross the amount of germs transferred from outside into our homes.. everyone in my house hold knows to put fresh PJ's or clothing on if there not planning on going back out.. common sense.. some of you lot are mad for allowing a someone who's been in dirty public places lay in a bed in the very same clothes they wore out all day..

Fresh PJ's? Do you mean they wear newly washed pjs every day. Would they get changed into them if they've been out in the morning for half an hour but aren't going out again?

kilo · 25/09/2022 09:43

Ha ha this is hilarious!! Are you serious OP?? I routinely chill on my bed fully clothed at the of the working day watching YouTube etc ( no shoes, they’re left at the front door). Had never occurred to me to think about germs being transferred from different places…. all of us are hardly ever ill though so can’t be too dangerous

PeachyPeachTrees · 25/09/2022 10:03

YABVVU
As long as he's taken his footwear off and not muddy or in painter's overalls etc, then it's perfectly fine.
I've had wisdom teeth out and know how awful this is. Your behaviour is the last thing he needs.

Arwen7 · 25/09/2022 10:10

vickylou78 · 25/09/2022 07:51

I'm also interested how these 'rules' on outside clothes came about....did your parents teach you these rules or is is something you've taken on as an adult. it's odd and what are you trying to avoid - catching a virus? What virus would you catch? It's all so very odd.

Never been a rule for me because I grew up with it, it's just what my parents did so we did too. Don't remember ever having an explanation or reason for it and not particularly worried about any sort of germs (I mean I work in a hospital!) but I do feel cleaner if I change into 'house clothes' as well as being comfier and I do keep my house very clean so that may affect our habits too (and for those worried about our immune system glad to say it is perfectly fine and we also have 3 pets in the house). Sofa and stuff is ok if the clothes are relatively ok - its a no no if public transport though, I find those buses vile but I do not impose it onto anyone, I just feel yuck myself on those clothes and so it happens to be my DP is the same so it helps.
I see many people here using the bed during the day, we hardly do that mainly due to lack of time tbh! So bed is usually only used at night hence there are no issues about whether we are clothed or not.
For everyone asking what kind of germs we think will go in the bed, that's not the point. We just feel cleaner in ourselves and in bed if we don't use clothes that have been out and about as honestly not everyone follows basic hygiene and I do consider the bed a unit so it would be the same whether on/in the bed. Also if I had been to the shop and back I wouldn't consider them being dirty but again as it is a habit I don't really think whether I need to get changed or not, that would be very complicated, we just do it out of habit and then it covers all situations and it's not a chore.
Seriously, same as people here have never thought about getting changed, we never think about not. Yes maybe it takes us 5min extra per day but that doesn't make us so crazy I think. It definitely doesn't feel complicated, or a chore, or do we ponder about it and definitely not stress about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

honeylulu · 25/09/2022 10:42

It is dawning on me reading some of these replies how much washing people must do. So outdoor clothes every day for leaving the house, pjs/leisure wear for inside the house and then different pjs for bed. The repeated use of the word "fresh" suggests that none of these garments can be worn more than once. (What if you pop in and out of your house numerous times a day? Is it a fresh set every time you change???) Do you change sheets and towels after a single use too?

That's at least 3 outfits a day, per person, going into the laundry. Electricity, water, detergent ... no wonder the environment is fucked. Not to mention the expense! And the time it must take! I am baffled.

I'm amazed some of you are mothers. Snogging, sex, nappies, snotty noses and d and v bugs ... how do you cope given your obsession with sterility? Does your husband have to sterilise his donger and scrub his mouth with bleach before he is allowed near you?

Though perhaps you just have a mental block about the "right" sort of germs. I know someone who is in therapy for diagnosed OCD because she is obsessed with cleanliness and germs. But she recently got a miniature dog that she carries around in her handbag. Mucky paws that have been trotting around on the pavement, unwiped arsehole and all ... in her handbag with her lipstick and stuff. I think that is gross but astonishingly she manages to give it not a moment's thought.

Mirabeladawer · 25/09/2022 10:49

Arwen7 · 25/09/2022 10:10

Never been a rule for me because I grew up with it, it's just what my parents did so we did too. Don't remember ever having an explanation or reason for it and not particularly worried about any sort of germs (I mean I work in a hospital!) but I do feel cleaner if I change into 'house clothes' as well as being comfier and I do keep my house very clean so that may affect our habits too (and for those worried about our immune system glad to say it is perfectly fine and we also have 3 pets in the house). Sofa and stuff is ok if the clothes are relatively ok - its a no no if public transport though, I find those buses vile but I do not impose it onto anyone, I just feel yuck myself on those clothes and so it happens to be my DP is the same so it helps.
I see many people here using the bed during the day, we hardly do that mainly due to lack of time tbh! So bed is usually only used at night hence there are no issues about whether we are clothed or not.
For everyone asking what kind of germs we think will go in the bed, that's not the point. We just feel cleaner in ourselves and in bed if we don't use clothes that have been out and about as honestly not everyone follows basic hygiene and I do consider the bed a unit so it would be the same whether on/in the bed. Also if I had been to the shop and back I wouldn't consider them being dirty but again as it is a habit I don't really think whether I need to get changed or not, that would be very complicated, we just do it out of habit and then it covers all situations and it's not a chore.
Seriously, same as people here have never thought about getting changed, we never think about not. Yes maybe it takes us 5min extra per day but that doesn't make us so crazy I think. It definitely doesn't feel complicated, or a chore, or do we ponder about it and definitely not stress about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Totally agree with this

mydogisthebest · 25/09/2022 11:12

Peoplethesedays · 25/09/2022 04:29

I feel the same way tbh it's gross the amount of germs transferred from outside into our homes.. everyone in my house hold knows to put fresh PJ's or clothing on if there not planning on going back out.. common sense.. some of you lot are mad for allowing a someone who's been in dirty public places lay in a bed in the very same clothes they wore out all day..

Not common sense at all. I think the ones thinking lying ON a bed in clothes they have been out in are the the mad ones. Laying in a bed maybe but not on one that presumably has a duvet cover on which doesn't touch you when you are in bed.

As another poster asked, when you say you put "fresh pj's or clothes on" does that mean fresh every time you have been out?

Itstarts · 25/09/2022 11:21

Do you lick your duvet cover?????

Why on earth would it matter?

BellePeppa · 25/09/2022 11:25

VWCJW · 25/09/2022 08:28

I had no idea some people thought it was gross to lie in bed in your clothes.

It’s not even in bed, it’s on which is even more bizarre.

BellePeppa · 25/09/2022 11:51

honeylulu · 25/09/2022 10:42

It is dawning on me reading some of these replies how much washing people must do. So outdoor clothes every day for leaving the house, pjs/leisure wear for inside the house and then different pjs for bed. The repeated use of the word "fresh" suggests that none of these garments can be worn more than once. (What if you pop in and out of your house numerous times a day? Is it a fresh set every time you change???) Do you change sheets and towels after a single use too?

That's at least 3 outfits a day, per person, going into the laundry. Electricity, water, detergent ... no wonder the environment is fucked. Not to mention the expense! And the time it must take! I am baffled.

I'm amazed some of you are mothers. Snogging, sex, nappies, snotty noses and d and v bugs ... how do you cope given your obsession with sterility? Does your husband have to sterilise his donger and scrub his mouth with bleach before he is allowed near you?

Though perhaps you just have a mental block about the "right" sort of germs. I know someone who is in therapy for diagnosed OCD because she is obsessed with cleanliness and germs. But she recently got a miniature dog that she carries around in her handbag. Mucky paws that have been trotting around on the pavement, unwiped arsehole and all ... in her handbag with her lipstick and stuff. I think that is gross but astonishingly she manages to give it not a moment's thought.

Don’t forget ‘dressing for dinner’ that must happen too judging by some of these posts😬

Itloggedmeoutagain · 25/09/2022 13:13

No wonder there are so many on here complaining they don't have time for this that and the other!
All this getting changed, creating all this washing.
I have a dog, he's allowed on the sofa, I have it covered with a throw but whatever. I don't leave my shoes at the door, I don't have indoor and outdoor clothes except pj's for bed etc.
Somehow I'm a fully functioning adult and my house isn't filthy and I rarely get ill.

Scottsy100 · 25/09/2022 13:26

I think you sound completely unreasonable, I would lie on or in my bed in the clothes I’ve worn all day if I wanted too, what terrible fate do you think will befall you 🤣