To let 13 year old dress like a drug dealer??

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DS is 13 and suddenly has taken an interest in ‘fashion’ which mostly seems to be dressing in all black sports logos and puffa
jackets. Nike trainers, puma joggers, north face hoody - you get the idea.

oh, and calling us ‘fam’ every frigging minute,
innit bruv.

given that he’s a white, MC kid, in a MC area at a MC school ( state but uniform with tie/blazer/shirt etc) with all that comes with that, I think it’s annoying/amusing and that he’ll grow out of this fake ‘street’ phase.

DH on the other hand thinks that he’s dressing. like a drug dealer and we should go buy him some Boden or something.

AIBU to just let 13 year old to dress how he likes??

No, there are plenty of white drug dealers around (pretty much all of them around here are white). They just think it's cool to copy the speech patterns of their favourite gangsta rap artists.

Nice thread OP - classist and racist in one shot. I'd be interested to know which "hood" you and your husband grew up in before you became "MC" racist snobs.

This is very true!
Jeans are back here.

I’ve never heard of roadman had to look it up

Didn’t you do the same/similar at his age though? Dress like rest of your peers, try & be cool (even if that means speaking “street” now). It’s all part of growing up.

Surely OP was objecting to the cultural appropriation of her son with his affected accent rather than saying drug dealers are black?

The clothes are how she imagines drug dealers dress and the accent is "Jamacian". She didn't say anything about black drug dealers.

You refer to your partner as DH at work? How odd!

Yes, jeans, cargo trousers and much less black. Sportswear has gone back to football kit type shiny tracksuits

Haha yes that's been my favourite bit too 🤣

@quitecontrary123 Projects in Philly for DP and an inner city U.K. estate for me, the word ‘hood’ I was using ironically cos of the way our boy speaks at the mo. I knew of lots of white drug dealers when I was a kid ( from a very white part of U.K.) and they did pretty much dress like our kid.
There something funny/sad/strange about having a DS who is emulating the kind of ‘life’ that we worked to leave behind TBH.
still, turns out loads of boys his age think it’s cool
so …
maybe I will go down the ‘famalam’
route and see where it gets us!

What? You mean you aren’t gassed by his fresh new garms? They’re well peng, blud!

You bare vexing, be chill, innit.

Be safe, fam.

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To be honest the only dealer I know is 50, with floppy hair a la Hugh Grant in the 90s, Levis, t shirts he picked up free at hacker festivals, and New Balance trainers. No man bag, he has a huge satchel though that never leaves his side. He only deals weed though, so maybe the full road man get up can only be worn legitimately if you diversify? Or are middle aged dealers too old for the uniform? 🤔

My DS asked for new clothes for his 13th birthday last month. We could only go to JD Sports apparently and it had to be Nike. He made a beeline for some grey Nike trackie with quite distinctive, black stripes/pockets on it and I nearly passed out at the £150 price tag - more than I’ve spent on my own clothes for about a year. But fine, it’s his 13th, and he was obviously delighted with it.

Later that evening, I was flicking through the local news and saw a picture of a roadman leaving Woolwich crown court where he’d been done for assault. I’m praying for a growth spurt.

In the exact same trackie I should have added….

‘What? You mean you aren’t gassed by his fresh new garms? They’re well peng, blud!

You bare vexing, be chill, innit.

Be safe, fam.’

son, is that you??

Neither would mine.
My teen probably doesn’t know what a “roadman”
is tbf. ( Neither do I. The first I heard of term
was on Munya’s clip on the heatwave earlier this year)

YANBU. Men wearing suits have caused far more social problems and committed more crimes than those in puffa jackets.

Yabu

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You know the capsule that contains the toy in a Kinder Egg?

You'll never look at one the same way again.

Thanks to this thread, I've just spent 20 minutes PMSL at the roadman definitions on Urban Dictionary. This was my favourite.

I wouldn't care about the clothes in themselves. I'd be a bit wary of him getting caught up in a situation like that lad in Reading did though, where you've got kids posturing as roadmen, glorifying knives and then having an argument that leads to death or serious injury. Still unlikely to happen with most kids, but more of a danger with wannabe roadmen than others because of the glamourisation or knives, patterning, revenge attacks and all that.

‘You refer to your partner as DH at work? How odd!’
well, I know everyone thinks only the disabled lesbians of colour get the top jobs these days, bring your whole self to work etc but unfortunately the reality is completely different, and I do sometimes expend a lot of time and energy disguising the fact I have a wife and kids to clients in certain parts of the world.

Also OP, don’t rely on his uniform being ‘safe’.I caught mine the other day with his school trousers hanging low, proudly displaying the waistband of his (Decathlon) sprint shorts. He also had pants on under those. Can’t imagine how sweaty and uncomfortable that must have been 🤢

Same here op, ds 11 and ds 16. Particularly the older one, they both have the man bags too.
They keep phone, key and bank card in them btw, no drugs.
It’s all bruh and fam and tings which sounds ridiculous from pasty faced Scottish children but they’re all doing it.