To think daddy/daughter kinks are weird af?

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Been dating a what I thought to be lovely man for a month and a half. Last night we were talking about our fantasies etc and he basically told me he has a daddy/daughter fantasy and likes being called daddy. I said 'daddy' in a laughing way and he was like 'mmm say it again' dead serious.

Now I'm all for people being into what they are into whether I like it or not. But what especially grosses me out here is the fact that he has a daughter! I just think it's so wrong! And it's sadly put me right off the more I think about it. It seems perverse.

AIBU?

It's really not about pedophilia or incest. There's also plenty of men who like being a "little" while a woman takes care of them. It goes both ways

Creepy. Bin him.

What, men playing at being Kevin the teenager?

There’s absolutely no way I’d see or interact with someone after I knew this about them. Sexualising a parent/child relationship is totally fucked up and wrong whoever instigates it. Who cares if it’s male or female, there are other ways to fantasise about dominance and being submissive without bringing in incest and children into role play. This has child abuse red flags all over it, especially if he has a daughter of his own.

Of course it's about paedophilia, it's disgusting and sick.

Do you think women who were abused by their fathers think it's mild?

Wise up

Who cares what way it goes. That way is also fucked up. Sexual fantasies about a mother figure - psychotherapists would be all over that.

Is that you Mr,fritzel?

Men who are into this are sick in the head.
Women who think they're into it need therapy for whatever deep trauma they've suffered, or they're pretending because they know it turns their partner on.

I'm all for kink shaming, men's sexual perversions are too normalised already.

You are not grasping basic sexual attraction though. If you are a straight woman, someone can dress like a man, be called a man's name etc, but you won't find them sexually attractive. The same as a totally straight man won't feel desire for a man in a dress. An actual paedophile will not be aroused by an adult woman.

This fetish is about power exchange in a loving context as opposed to a master/slave type context. It is entirely different to paedophilia.

YANBU. I'd be absolutely explicit with him about why you're no longer interested in pursuing it too.

I’m afraid I can’t agree so we’ll have to disagree on that one
plenty of people close their eyes during sex and imagine someone else. Ex partners, Brad Pitt etc etc. Calling someone daddy etc can facilitate that imagination and takes you someone where.

Yes you’re right. Imprisoning and raping your daughter for years is the next step from answering your girlfriend’s question about sexual fantasies with ‘I like being called daddy as a role play’ - I don’t suppose your boyfriend has a knack for DIY op? He’s obviously told you this because he’s about to build a basement bunker to keep his own daughter in, since he isn’t really a normal person. All the men who partake in this and every time you’ve ever seen a joke made of this on TV are actually a cover for all the men keeping their daughters in the basement to torture, rape, and impregnate them. There’s no difference at all.

Oh god no. That would be the end for me. That's not a bit of fun fantasy, that's extremely worrying. Couldn't look at them in the same way again.

What a load of tush. Paedophiles often have families of their own, made through sex with adult women. They can fancy both.

In the same way someone who likes a kink can still enjoy vanilla sex sometimes.

A man who is with a woman can still find children attractive (whether they act on it or not) and just knowing that that's a thing would be enough to put me off.

If someone wants power play, they can play that out in so many ways without including the notion of sex with children and children for whom they have parental responsibility to keep safe

God yes I missed that part of the pp. A paedophile won’t be aroused by a women?? Come on. Plenty of paedophiles are married and having sex with their wives and having children.

I couldn't be into it at all too weird for me.

However are women that enjoy breastfeeding their partners and enjoying that kind of role play also paedophiles?

Not that I'm into that either!

Frankly I find the whole 'play' terminology problematic in general. Infantilises very adult activity. When I have sex, I'm not fucking playing. Never have been. I know it's probably mean to indicate that the sex is fun, lighthearted, not serious etc - but 'play' (plus assorted euphemisms) just seems incredibly cringe to me.

Fully agree.

Funny how the same names keep appearing on the sex and or gender threads wanting to shut down any discussion on how rank some of these fetishes are. Almost as if they have an agenda...

Feel free to point us in the direction of a published and peer reviewed psychology paper that backs up your view that anyone calling their DH or DP 'Daddy' is pandering to their paedophilic tendencies and needs to 'wise up'.

There is nothing in the OPs post to suggest there is any connection between her BF liking being called Daddy and him having a daughter, except in her own imagination.

There is a whole other fetish of grown men who like to dress as infants, be bottle or breast fed, have their nappy changed and talked to like they are a baby. Are the women facilitating the nanny/mother role paedophiles?

Are the women who like to stick a cat's tail butt plug up their hoop, don a set of ears and drink from a saucer of milk while getting their tummy stroked by a man in desperate need of counselling? Is the man indulging this fetish by playing the cat owner role a short step away from beastiality?

Completely agree. When I see the term breath play it makes me so angry. Like chocking you’re partner is a lovely lighthearted game.

yup....the men are here. Stop whinging girls, avert your eyes until you can get proof of scientific official studies. Same old, same old.

Op, you are not wrong.

@ArcticSkewer

I know a few people who are really into it as a roleplay. They are totally normal people.

Apart from idly chatting about their sexual fetishes with you in a (presumably) non-sexual context.

Who knows, but I wouldn’t want them anywhere near me. 🤮

Get rid of him OP.

That sounds horrible for you. I would feel the same.