To think daddy/daughter kinks are weird af?

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Been dating a what I thought to be lovely man for a month and a half. Last night we were talking about our fantasies etc and he basically told me he has a daddy/daughter fantasy and likes being called daddy. I said 'daddy' in a laughing way and he was like 'mmm say it again' dead serious.

Now I'm all for people being into what they are into whether I like it or not. But what especially grosses me out here is the fact that he has a daughter! I just think it's so wrong! And it's sadly put me right off the more I think about it. It seems perverse.

AIBU?

Wow, shocking how easy you have found it to underplay a filthy perverted view @ArcticSkewer

Pseudo incest is now called "age play" yes? Vile

Like I always say ... 'if you can imagine it. someone is doing it'

I'd pass on this one

I can't believe you are asking.

It wouldn’t be for me, I’d feel so unsexy. However, I think it’s a bit of a reach to presume he’s imagining sexually abusing his own daughter - I don’t think it’s the case at all. I think it’s a weird power play that wouldn’t be sexy to me at all but I don’t think it’s really out there or unusual, and I don’t think it’s sinister unless you have seen other suspicions about him. But as I said, wouldn’t be for me.

Oh come off it.

How is it not about paedophilia?? Only young children call their father “daddy”. A grown man wants someone to call him that while they’re having sex, and he’s not thinking about a child?? Come off it. It’s gross and also gross how you play it down to be something completely harmless

@beastlyslumber

When you say they’re ‘open’ about it do you mean they tell you about it? Unfortunately for some people involving others unwillingly is actually part of the thing. I personally think it’s disgusting, but it may be that being ‘open’ around friends and family is a way to add to the excitement and humiliation, while basically crossing the boundaries of others. I’d be saying straight up ‘why are you telling me you dress like an infant? I don’t care and don’t want to know.’

Blimey, me ex and I called each other baby all the time. Lock us up, we're clearly inveterate paedophiles.

@ArcticSkewer

Then why use the terms daddy/daughter/little girl etc?

And have the woman 'pretend' to be a child?

There are plenty of other terms that indicate dom/sub that could be used

Because that’s exactly the same thing? Don’t be daft

@Lockheart

Doyou also pretend to be a baby?

Any man whose testicles and libido don't immediately shrivel up on being called "Daddy" or being spoken to by another adult in a childlike voice isn't a man that I care to be around .

Yes, just like strangling and choking is called breath play, Paedophilia is age play and so on.

It makes it easier to normalise and push further boundary if it has a nicer name.

Your premise is that wanting to be called daddy means someone is a paedophile. Because in your view, daddy is a word that can only be used by an underage child to their father. So why isn't it also true of boy, girl, baby etc? All those words mean underage people. Why is daddy bad but baby ok?

Because paedophilia involves an adult who is sexually attracted to children. Calling somebody a name or wanting them to call you a name isn’t necessarily a precursor for sexually abusing children. It’s usually some sort of reenactment of a feeling or power play. Much like teacher student role play is much more likely to be linked to the idea of sexual awakening in adolescence and ‘taboo’ situation than a deep seated urge to rape schoolchildren.

The daddy thing likely comes from the same power reassurance place that it does when you hear ‘say my name’ or similar in films. It’s likely to be linked to an urge to feel important or dominant in that moment, not an aberrant sexual interest in children.

No. And the OP wasn't asked to act like a child (that I know of).

Didn't take long for all the apologists for male fetishists to come out waving the flags did it?

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Just to add I dont think its paedophilia.

Its not.

But the people pretending it has nothing to do with acting out or role playing paedophilia are daft at best

Cool girling at its finest

I'd feel sick. YADNBU

YANBU it’s weird AF and I have never understood how it is so normalised.

@Lockheart

Not yet.

infantilism where a person dresses as a baby I find odd
Personally I am into BDSM - I am sure some find that odd but who cares

calling EACH OTHER baby, which has long been used as a term of endearment, is not the same as a man calling a woman he has sex with little girl and her having to call him daddy.
I would be very surprised if you can’t see thy

It’s not cool girling to point out that he isn’t a paedophile - in response to a poster who literally asked ‘how is it not about paedophilia?’ It’s not about paedophilia because it isn’t paedophilia.

Do I find it creepy and a turn off? Yeah. So I would move on. But do I think he’s a paedophile or some sort of closet rapist based on once asking his girlfriend in a talk about sexual fantasies to call him daddy? No, probably not.

As someone who was sexually assaulted by my father then I find this utterly repulsive. I had an older boyfriend once who tried that role and he was swiftly kicked out.