AIBU?
Would you prioritise your grandchild's birthday?
BrocoliTrees · 21/09/2022 07:51
Would you choose going to a friend's wedding (not close friends) over your grandchild's 6th birthday party? Even if the wedding invite came first, knowing the date of your grandchild's birthday, would you check to see what would be happening for their birthday? Being a Saturday too.
Bit more context... what if you would also be moving to another part of the country from said grandchild the following week.
Interested to know opinions.
BrocoliTrees · 21/09/2022 08:00
The2Omicronnies · 21/09/2022 07:55
It would depend on the relationship. My own parents, I know, would absolutely check in and likely miss the wedding. My in laws wouldn’t even consider the child’s birthday
@The2Omicronnies this is exactly the situation. My parents want to be part of their grandchild's birthday. With my inlaws, it's sad that their grandchildren aren't a priority. Not just this, lots of other things too.
Imthedamnfoolwhoshothim · 21/09/2022 08:01
Dacadactyl · 21/09/2022 07:58
I'd prioritise wedding.
However, I would never move to the other end of the country from my grandkids. It happened to us and I was mightily pissed off when they moved.
WTF. Why should someone tie themselves down for grandchildren?
properdoughnut · 21/09/2022 08:01
BrocoliTrees · 21/09/2022 08:00
@The2Omicronnies this is exactly the situation. My parents want to be part of their grandchild's birthday. With my inlaws, it's sad that their grandchildren aren't a priority. Not just this, lots of other things too.
The2Omicronnies · 21/09/2022 07:55
It would depend on the relationship. My own parents, I know, would absolutely check in and likely miss the wedding. My in laws wouldn’t even consider the child’s birthday
Invite them round another day?
CremeEggsForBreakfast · 21/09/2022 08:01
Another one for wedding! By 6 most families I know have stopped inviting the grandparents to the party and celebrate with them separately - with tea together after school or cake with lunch at the weekend.
What time is the wedding? If it was afternoon, I might drop presents round in the morning but I would still go to the wedding - particularly if that invite came first!
starrynight21 · 21/09/2022 08:02
I've got grandchildren and no I don't always see them on their birthdays - maybe when they were tiny I did, but as they got older it was less likely. I'm more likely to take them to the pictures or out for lunch, a couple of days before or after the birthday. I'm always aware that kids like to have their friends over, grandma not so much.
Why don't you ring your mother and ask her to come over and have a birthday meal with the 6 year old ? Or suggest that she takes them out for a movie and lunch ?
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