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whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 20:39

We've had a fairly good relationship with our neighbour up to now, so am genuinely curious as to whether my view is skewed or not.

We live in a semi detached and have done for the last 10 years.
There have been occasions over this time where we've helped next door out, usually with things like appliances having broken and pests in the garden or house. We've never asked a thing of next door as we generally get on with our own stuff or hire someone to fix it ourselves.

Now onto my issue.
Next door has rabbits. They are those small rabbits, even though fully grown. They are allowed to run free in the garden over the daytime, even with everyone at work/school.

Recently, a neighbours cat has shown interest in the rabbits, so understandably next door is worried about this and has decided to make the garden 'safe'. The plan, as we were told it, was it put anti cat spikes on their shed and the shed next door (not ours, the other side). I thought it was weird at the time, thinking just having them on the shed wouldn't do anything but didn't say anything.
Next thing I get a message a couple of weeks ago to say the workmen are coming, could they access the shed from my garden. I said no problem, just to tell me when they needed to come in and I'd put the dog inside, as I wasn't working that day. I double checked that they were just going on the shed, and they said yes!
I was putting some stuff away upstairs and looked out the window, and noticed the workmen had put the spikes all round the top of the fence on their other neighbours side, and the back, and that they were now measuring the fence on my side. So I went out, and asked if they were planning to put them on our fence, he said yes, that's what they'd been paid to do. He said 'well that halts my next question, as I was going to ask if we could put them on your side of the fence, as it is the flat side'
I explained that I'd been told they were just going on their shed, not the fences, and as the fence is under our ownership, we weren't happy about them being on there at all, let alone our side, especially as we hadn't been asked.
The workman was fine, said no worries, they'd pack up and let the neighbour know and that as the fence is ours, they couldn't continue.

The neighbour messaged the same day, asking us to reconsider and at least think about it.

Fast forward to this weekend, where after us having reiterated our point that we didn't want them on our fence. We explained that we don't like how they look, don't want the screws coming through to our side, and also don't think that they are actually going to fix the problem. We've now had a barrage of stroppy messages blaming us for the money they spent on materials, that the rabbits now can't run free because it's not safe and that we've ruined their lives.

So, AIBU to think that having rabbits running around the garden, regardless of cat spikes, is a bad idea? That we're not dicks for not wanting spikes on our fence? And that they should have been honest from the start?

Thank you to anyone who got this far 😂

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NancyVicious · 19/09/2022 20:41

They're batshit. Don't let them stick spikes all over your fence

JanFeb · 19/09/2022 20:44

YANBU

MacarenaMacarena · 19/09/2022 20:44

I agree with you - I'd be very unhappy about them putting spikes all over my fence. It's asking too much of you.
They're very rude.

AbcMurders · 19/09/2022 20:44

They’re in the wrong here on several fronts - don’t cave in!

Chocolatesandroses · 19/09/2022 20:47

YANBU what a terrible idea ! Surely their garden is gonna smell as well . I think your not being unreasonable at all not to want spikes on your face. I honestly can’t see how cat spikes is gonna solve the problem surely if a predator wants to get in , it will .

Crumpleton · 19/09/2022 20:48

YANBU..
Bit dramatic of the neighbours to say you've ruined their lives.

I'm not 100% but thought the only thing allowed to top fences inorder to stop someone/thing getting over fences were those hard rubber spiked strips.

LimpBiskit · 19/09/2022 20:49

Buy a pet fox

ChilliBandit · 19/09/2022 20:49

They are batshit. You did nothing wrong. It will all blow over when they realise cats easily find a way around cat spikes anyway. They are sly creatures.

Cw112 · 19/09/2022 20:50

Not sure why they can't invest in a large enough run for the rabbits? Surely they're at risk for other predators out in the garden anyways that spikes won't help with. If the fence is under your ownership they should have got your permission in advance.

Proteinpudding · 19/09/2022 20:50

You're not being unreasonable. If they want a fence with spikes on it, tell them they're welcome to put up their own fence. I'm sure they won't bother.

pictish · 19/09/2022 20:50

Yanbu - I wouldn’t agree to spikes on my fence for the next door’s rabbits either.
They’d have been quicker, safer and cheaper to have built an enclosure for them to run around in.
If a cat doesn’t get them a fox will.

StoneofDestiny · 19/09/2022 20:53

YANBU

whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 20:53

Cw112 · 19/09/2022 20:50

Not sure why they can't invest in a large enough run for the rabbits? Surely they're at risk for other predators out in the garden anyways that spikes won't help with. If the fence is under your ownership they should have got your permission in advance.

This is what I said, to which they told me that they shouldn't have to be confined to a run when they could make the garden safe with these spikes and I'd ruined the lives of the rabbits.

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whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 20:54

Proteinpudding · 19/09/2022 20:50

You're not being unreasonable. If they want a fence with spikes on it, tell them they're welcome to put up their own fence. I'm sure they won't bother.

This was my last response. If they were so set on spikes, they can build a fence up to ours, as then we couldn't do anything about it.

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Aubriella · 19/09/2022 20:55

YANBU at all. Are the spikes even legal? Our neighbour has some kind of burglar/cat deterrent but it’s not spikes.

whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 20:55

Crumpleton · 19/09/2022 20:48

YANBU..
Bit dramatic of the neighbours to say you've ruined their lives.

I'm not 100% but thought the only thing allowed to top fences inorder to stop someone/thing getting over fences were those hard rubber spiked strips.

This is what they have. The long strips with tiny spikes on.

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whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 20:57

Cw112 · 19/09/2022 20:50

Not sure why they can't invest in a large enough run for the rabbits? Surely they're at risk for other predators out in the garden anyways that spikes won't help with. If the fence is under your ownership they should have got your permission in advance.

I also pointed out that birds of prey could still get them as they aren't very big.

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feckoffbrian · 19/09/2022 20:57

And how do they stop the rabbits tunneling???

Honestly, rabbits need space but ruining your fence and saying you are ruining their lives is a bit OTT.

Aquamarine1029 · 19/09/2022 20:57

that we've ruined their lives.

I would have burst out laughing if I had heard that. RUINED their lives? 🤣🤣🤣

Ignore the cheeky, entitled fuckers. The sound unhinged.

feckoffbrian · 19/09/2022 20:58

Start sending links to rabbit recipes.

www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/slow-cooked-rabbit-stew

whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 20:58

feckoffbrian · 19/09/2022 20:57

And how do they stop the rabbits tunneling???

Honestly, rabbits need space but ruining your fence and saying you are ruining their lives is a bit OTT.

They have astroturf which they don't seem to try and dig through. They do chew the fence and their shed though.

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whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 20:58

feckoffbrian · 19/09/2022 20:58

Start sending links to rabbit recipes.

www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/slow-cooked-rabbit-stew

This made me laugh so much 😂😂😂

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Aquamarine1029 · 19/09/2022 21:00

Astroturf with rabbit shit all over it? 🤮

They really are unhinged.

whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 21:01

Aquamarine1029 · 19/09/2022 20:57

that we've ruined their lives.

I would have burst out laughing if I had heard that. RUINED their lives? 🤣🤣🤣

Ignore the cheeky, entitled fuckers. The sound unhinged.

I think they meant we'd ruined the rabbits lives, rather than the peoples lives, but still super dramatic!
I'm sure the rabbits would rather they weren't chased round the garden by a cat, which they've sent me footage of!

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whatstheproblemguys · 19/09/2022 21:01

Aquamarine1029 · 19/09/2022 21:00

Astroturf with rabbit shit all over it? 🤮

They really are unhinged.

They hoover it to clear up the rabbit crap.

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