I (36) fell out with my sister (23) about 6 months ago, we haven’t spoken since. Prior to falling out, me, my sister, my other sister (30) and my mum had planned a trip to Paris to celebrate my youngest sisters 21st (belated due to covid).
After the falling out I decided not to go and pulled out. It was a big falling out, family agree she was the a-hole in the situation and without giving every little detail, it boiled down to me feeling like I’m always there when she needs help e.g uni work (we did the same course), boyfriend trouble, any time she was upset, etc, but then talking to me and treating me (and everyone else in my opinion) like crap. She honestly won’t even ask you how you are when meeting up and just flat out lied to my face. I’d had enough.
Fast forward a couple months and the airline cancelled the flights (karma??) so now none of them are going. But, and here’s now where I’m feeling hurt, my mum and two sisters and planning another trip for next year, just the 3 of them. I still get on with my mum and other sister. I’m not sure what I expect? I don’t want to go, well I would want to if we hadn’t fallen out, but I’m worth more than being spoken to how she speaks to me and will not pretend it’s ok, like the family seems to.
AIBU?
AIBU?
To feel hurt they’re planning holiday without me?
MarvelMom · 16/09/2022 08:50
Am I being unreasonable?
1620 votes. Final results.
POLLMarvelMom · 16/09/2022 09:59
@TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination I think I’m thinking of it as an entirely different holiday, and feel like I’m being ostracised, rather than a replacement, because it’s so far away.
For clarification, 3 of us sisters in total, one of my sisters is 30, the one I’m not speaking to is 23. The holiday is a belated 21st for her. I pulled out of the holiday but it wasn’t cancelled because of that. It was cancelled coincidentally a few months later by the airline.
MarvelMom · 16/09/2022 09:59
@TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination I think I’m thinking of it as an entirely different holiday, and feel like I’m being ostracised, rather than a replacement, because it’s so far away.
For clarification, 3 of us sisters in total, one of my sisters is 30, the one I’m not speaking to is 23. The holiday is a belated 21st for her. I pulled out of the holiday but it wasn’t cancelled because of that. It was cancelled coincidentally a few months later by the airline.
MarvelMom · 16/09/2022 10:09
I feel like it’s worth knowing, I did say to her a few weeks after, if she wanted to talk about it then we could, she didn’t take me up on it.
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