I (36) fell out with my sister (23) about 6 months ago, we haven’t spoken since. Prior to falling out, me, my sister, my other sister (30) and my mum had planned a trip to Paris to celebrate my youngest sisters 21st (belated due to covid).
After the falling out I decided not to go and pulled out. It was a big falling out, family agree she was the a-hole in the situation and without giving every little detail, it boiled down to me feeling like I’m always there when she needs help e.g uni work (we did the same course), boyfriend trouble, any time she was upset, etc, but then talking to me and treating me (and everyone else in my opinion) like crap. She honestly won’t even ask you how you are when meeting up and just flat out lied to my face. I’d had enough.
Fast forward a couple months and the airline cancelled the flights (karma??) so now none of them are going. But, and here’s now where I’m feeling hurt, my mum and two sisters and planning another trip for next year, just the 3 of them. I still get on with my mum and other sister. I’m not sure what I expect? I don’t want to go, well I would want to if we hadn’t fallen out, but I’m worth more than being spoken to how she speaks to me and will not pretend it’s ok, like the family seems to.
AIBU?
AIBU?
To feel hurt they’re planning holiday without me?
MarvelMom · 16/09/2022 08:50
Am I being unreasonable?
1620 votes. Final results.
POLLMarvelMom · 16/09/2022 10:06
@Mrsjayy @MessyBunPersonified Like I said I don’t know what I’m expect, I not expecting them not to go. I’m not expecting them to cut her out. But I do feel like they ignore and accept the behaviour. I’ve got a feeling that I didn’t know what to do with, seems shake it off is the answer.
Thinkingblonde · 16/09/2022 12:09
You fell out with your 23 year old sister and then opted out of going on holiday to celebrate your youngest sisters 21st birthday right? The trip was then cancelled altogether and now you’ve heard that your mother, youngest sis and another sis are planning another holiday without you?
Don't you think your youngest sister must have been very hurt by your decision to cancel and probably doesn’t want to take the risk of it happening again.? I know I would have been.
The 23 year old sounds immature but hopefully that will improve as she grows older.
Thinkingblonde · 16/09/2022 12:14
I’m sorry, your OP is misleading, it reads like there are four of you.
Vikinga · 16/09/2022 12:24
It doesn't.
Thinkingblonde · 16/09/2022 12:14
I’m sorry, your OP is misleading, it reads like there are four of you.
Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 16/09/2022 10:10
A lot of surprising responses here, telling OP that she is wrong and the younger sister is just ‘immature’.
No one else is bothered by the 75 year old grandma story?
OP your sister is more than ‘immature’ she’s selfish and unpleasant and seems like you’re the first one who’s had enough. The problem is that your other family members haven’t stepped up in the way they ideally should - ie telling 23yr old sister to pull her socks up and behave appropriately or else. A family needs to work together when one is out of line, rather than continuing to accept the status quo, especially as she’s in the wrong.
You need to work out if your mum and other sister would isolate you rather than her - and then decide if so what you are going to do, be isolate or get a truce and have higher boundaries.
MarvelMom · 16/09/2022 10:06
@Mrsjayy @MessyBunPersonified Like I said I don’t know what I’m expect, I not expecting them not to go. I’m not expecting them to cut her out. But I do feel like they ignore and accept the behaviour. I’ve got a feeling that I didn’t know what to do with, seems shake it off is the answer.
Dacquoise · 16/09/2022 13:13
@Dixiechickonhols , I don't get the impression they do anything about her behaviour from the Ops posts.
MarvelMom · 16/09/2022 10:06
@Mrsjayy @MessyBunPersonified Like I said I don’t know what I’m expect, I not expecting them not to go. I’m not expecting them to cut her out. But I do feel like they ignore and accept the behaviour. I’ve got a feeling that I didn’t know what to do with, seems shake it off is the answer.
AryaStarkWolf · 16/09/2022 12:32
It actually does a bit
Vikinga · 16/09/2022 12:24
It doesn't.
Thinkingblonde · 16/09/2022 12:14
I’m sorry, your OP is misleading, it reads like there are four of you.
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hellosunshineagainxxx · 16/09/2022 08:58
She is 20/21 and you are 36. She is going to be a bit self absorbed and selfish. Make up with your sister but give less of yourself to the relationship until she matures a bit.
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