To think they should sack her?

[Yellowdove]

Colleague in work seems to lie a lot about her home/ family life that are easily proven to be untrue. However, she is really good at her job and has never lied about a work related issue (as far as we know). My point is how can we trust her if she lies about such pointless stuff in such a compulsive way?! HR seems to be saying as a it isn’t a work issue there’s nothing we can do. But how is it not a work issue?

I think HR would be a lot more interested in your actions tbh.
you and aunt are gossiping about her, you are approaching hr based on what your aunt tells you. This is harassment.

Ok so lies where in work she tells stories about her 4 year old twin daughters when she has one 4 years old son. Lying about being in a same sex marriage when she is married to a man. Not small lies. Not things that are easily explained away

Oh and after you Aunt gets sacked, your colleague can complain about how you have been using your family to check up on, then spreading rumours about her.

Not convinced HR would like that.

Maybe she thinks you are really nosey and doesn’t want you to know anything about her, because she can tell you are a nosey shit.

I note that you haven’t told her the truth about knowing her childminder?

How do you know these things are not true? Have you any knowledge outside of what your aunt has told you?

Does no one really think it’s very strange behaviour? Would you honestly be happy with your very sensitive data being “looked after” by someone so out of touch with reality? Really? I don’t believe any of you tbh

I think it is an issue, it is an indication of instability which could be critical in your work setting. I also think your Aunt is exonerated, she has not revealed anything private.

How come?

Perhaps she doesn't want to share her life with her colleagues, and would rather make things up. I can see the appeal of that.

I agree, it would be a massive red flag for me in any setting, especially a position of trust. Be careful she doesn't know you can show she's lying.

Karma?

Her Aunr should not be discussing her clients private lives. It’s information she only knows because she is a child minder.

Maybe she just doesn’t like Op (I can see why) and makes stuff up to wind her up.

Why is your aunt talking to you about this woman and her children? Is your aunt a registered childminder ?

Would you be happy about your childminder gossiping with family members about you?

There's only one person that should be sacked here and it's not your colleague.

I hope colleague doesn't recognise herself from this or your aunt might be losing a client.

And also I didn’t realise childminders where part of some kind of secret service. They are obviously bound by iron clad confidentiality agreements I wasn’t aware of. 🙄

I would fire my childminder actually, if they were gossiping and sharing confidential information.

You seem fixated on her (despite saying she’s v good at her job). Clearly you aren’t HR or her boss so it’s nothing to do with you.

And yet you are gossiping on a public forum - I wouldn't trust a gossip with my personal data... especially one who is sharing second hand information that you have had validated

Our really sensitive data is looked after by many people we have no clue about.

Chances are some have MH issues or addiction problems or are wankers outside work or perfectly lovely.

When has anyone ever known all the individuals who handle our data.

I wouldn’t want my data handling by you or your Aunt.

I think if this person is good at their job and doesn't lie in work, then what they say about their home life frankly is non of your business, and you are being v weird to consider this an HR issue.

The sack???? For doing nothing wrong is ridiculous. And you have no idea why she is saying these things (perhaps she knows you will gossip about her and is feeding you more and more ridiculous things for a laugh, to see how quickly the gossip mill works!)

What happens when you challenge her on the lies?

I don't think the Aunt can be considered the villain here, she may just have said "I've got her three here" or something, I'd be very surprised if there was a rule against a casual comment.

No not really. The lies of an immature 16 year old who was very unwell shouldn’t be used against them years later when they hadn’t done anything wrong. It was unprofessional of the HT sadly. Luckily it was seen for what it was by someone with more authority

Has she been doing the job without disclosing or lying about sensitive data?

Yes?

That's your answer then.

I don't owe anyone in my work life details about my personal life. It's absolutely no one's business

So you handle data and think only the secret service have professional guidelines and basic customer confidentiality?

Ok then. What a pile of shit this is.