Should I be worried about this neighbour?

[gonewithtthewind]

Posting in this section as I wasn't sure where to post!

I dunno if I'm just being silly, pregnancy hormones could be playing a part in my worry!

I live in a cul de sac - the house which is opposite me to the right has an old man who lives there, I think he lives on his own but I'm honestly not sure. I've never spoken to him, a lot of my neighbours are older so they all do seem to talk to each other so I've kind of told myself if they aren't worried then I shouldn't be but I'm not sure?

Basically he always opens his blinds early in the morning, around 7am and doesn't shut them until really late. He also obviously has lights on at night time. He does have nurses go in sometimes but I'm honestly not sure how often that is. This sounds like I've been stalking him I know but you just pick up on these things, especially since I'm home all the time now!

The past 3 days he hasn't opened his blinds once, no windows have been opened, he hasn't been out to mow the grass (which he does multiple times a week) and no lights have been on. His security alarm is still flashing from 3 days ago when we had a power cut! I don't know if I'm just overthinking this? Like he could have gone on holiday? I don't know but he doesn't seem to have any family it seems and his car is still outside. I keep worrying something has happened to him! I think I'm going to go and ask the neighbours today when they're out because they do talk so surely theyd know if he's just on holiday or if we should be worried about him? I feel so silly and my partner has told me I'm overthinking it! Does anyone know if there is anything else I should or could do? Should I even be worried or am I just being silly?

What a shock OP

There was nothing you could have done and I’m sure he would have appreciated the fact that you did check on him

Of course it is ok to feel sad, but what you have done has given him dignity.

You did your best when no one else bothered OP. We worry about being nosy or looking foolish I suppose. I was shocked to hear of a 60 year old who lay dead in her council flat for 2 years! The neighbours alerted the authorities but nothing was done.

Oh Op, that is a sad update, but bless you and your neighbours for caring and for drawing the police's attention to it. May he rest in peace.

So sad. Please don’t feel guilty. There was no way you could have known and checking sooner wouldn’t have changed the outcome. You did a good thing today and your actions meant he was found sooner than he would have been otherwise. 💐

What a sad ending but at least you cared enough to notice. You did a good thing and saved him lying there for weeks. I’m sure you feel very sad just now but calling sooner wouldn’t have made a difference to the outcome. 💐

It's very sad but even one day wouldn't have made him less dead when they found him. I'm sure OP will trust her instinct in future and speak to neighbours sooner if there are similar concerns about a neighbour. Other neighbours were also worried but didn't reach out. Often in these situations people have a shared private concern but wait for someone else to be the one who questions things. Perhaps they also didn't know what to do or who to speak to.

nothing you could have done OP. If it was curtains you were waiting on he would have been gone anyway. Bless you for alerting the neighbours and investigating. I hope you are taking care of yourself and try not to dwell on it

That's really sad, but I have to say I hope that's how I go, in my own home, relaxing in a chair, watching TV. RIP though, poor guy.

Because she didn’t know him well and there could have been any number of explanations. It wouldn’t have made any difference anyway. Why comment something like this when we now know the outcome? OP has already said she feels guilty (which she shouldn’t). Leave her alone.

Well done OP. You noticed, you cared, you raised the alarm and you brought the sad situation to the attention of those who need to know. As I said earlier, you have been a good and kind neighbour 💐

I'm so sorry OP. Please know that going around sooner would not of changed the outcome and you did everything and more. There's so many who wouldn't of done what you done. I hope you are ok.

Hugs @gonewithtthewind x

Thank goodness you noticed and checked it out. Well done

How can he be unwell enough to need carers in yet be able to mow the lawn numerous times a week ?

Sorry saw the update after posting. RIP.

Oh OP I'm so sorry but realistically there's nothing you could have done any differently

That's exactly the way most of us probably want to go ... Just peacefully pass while watching TV

You and your neighbors sound lovely... I know of a instance where someone wasn't discovered for ten days

Ffs there's always one.

Have a heart and don't be so god dam cruel. It just isn't necessary.

What a shock for you OP. Thank you for caring and doing the right thing. There’s nothing you could have done to save him and he passed peacefully in his own home which I’m sure is what all of us would like. Take care 💐

So sad! But you noticed and you acted so try not to feel bad. As others have said, as least he died in his own home, hopefully swiftly and peacefully.

@Member869894 would you be calling the police for a welfare check on a neighbour, who you have never spoken to,who hadn't opened their curtains for 1 or 2 days? If so, your in the minority. Your comment is disgusting, trying to make to op feel bad when she already feels guilty. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Don’t be a tit

Should she have called the police the minute he was late opening his blinds? It would definitely be a couple of days before you'd even register it surely.

Oh that is a sad outcome.
But you cared enough to make that welfare call.
You did a kind thing.
The saying 'the kindness of strangers' works really well for you today ♥️