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Should I be worried about this neighbour?

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gonewithtthewind · 11/09/2022 07:58

Posting in this section as I wasn't sure where to post!

I dunno if I'm just being silly, pregnancy hormones could be playing a part in my worry!

I live in a cul de sac - the house which is opposite me to the right has an old man who lives there, I think he lives on his own but I'm honestly not sure. I've never spoken to him, a lot of my neighbours are older so they all do seem to talk to each other so I've kind of told myself if they aren't worried then I shouldn't be but I'm not sure?

Basically he always opens his blinds early in the morning, around 7am and doesn't shut them until really late. He also obviously has lights on at night time. He does have nurses go in sometimes but I'm honestly not sure how often that is. This sounds like I've been stalking him I know but you just pick up on these things, especially since I'm home all the time now!

The past 3 days he hasn't opened his blinds once, no windows have been opened, he hasn't been out to mow the grass (which he does multiple times a week) and no lights have been on. His security alarm is still flashing from 3 days ago when we had a power cut! I don't know if I'm just overthinking this? Like he could have gone on holiday? I don't know but he doesn't seem to have any family it seems and his car is still outside. I keep worrying something has happened to him! I think I'm going to go and ask the neighbours today when they're out because they do talk so surely theyd know if he's just on holiday or if we should be worried about him? I feel so silly and my partner has told me I'm overthinking it! Does anyone know if there is anything else I should or could do? Should I even be worried or am I just being silly?

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BigPants2022 · 12/09/2022 11:49

@gonewithtthewind thank you for updating. You're a good neighbour. Such a heavy thing to have gone through so be gentle on yourself and talk to friends and family x Thoughts with his family and friends too. RIP.

Glamorgans · 12/09/2022 18:30

Every evening I put something in my recycling (I'll save something during the day!) outside my front, where due to the position of the (elderly, lives alone) neighbour's house, my neighbour can see me and I'll wave, and I can see her silhouette waving back. I go over once a month for a catch up and cuppa, so we're on good terms!

She has my home number and mobile for anything but since her husband passed away I've always done this little evening wave - just to reassure myself she's okay... my husband thinks I'm daft and I was going to stop, but because of this thread I'm going to carry on - you never know when you might be needed.

LadyEloise1 · 12/09/2022 18:50

@gonewithtthewind
Well done you for caring. 💐
May your neighbour rest in peace..

Dipsydoodlenoodle · 12/09/2022 21:08

gonewithtthewind · 11/09/2022 16:42

I'm sorry it's taken so long to update you all - I really wish I was bringing you good news but it seems he passed away whilst watching tv at some point. I couldn't hear the tv on when I went round, I've been really sad all day and just feel so guilty that I didn't do something sooner! It's devastating

Oh I'm so sorry to read this. Thank you for starting the actions to find him. Its better that you found him now than in several weeks.

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