Should I be worried about this neighbour?

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Posting in this section as I wasn't sure where to post!

I dunno if I'm just being silly, pregnancy hormones could be playing a part in my worry!

I live in a cul de sac - the house which is opposite me to the right has an old man who lives there, I think he lives on his own but I'm honestly not sure. I've never spoken to him, a lot of my neighbours are older so they all do seem to talk to each other so I've kind of told myself if they aren't worried then I shouldn't be but I'm not sure?

Basically he always opens his blinds early in the morning, around 7am and doesn't shut them until really late. He also obviously has lights on at night time. He does have nurses go in sometimes but I'm honestly not sure how often that is. This sounds like I've been stalking him I know but you just pick up on these things, especially since I'm home all the time now!

The past 3 days he hasn't opened his blinds once, no windows have been opened, he hasn't been out to mow the grass (which he does multiple times a week) and no lights have been on. His security alarm is still flashing from 3 days ago when we had a power cut! I don't know if I'm just overthinking this? Like he could have gone on holiday? I don't know but he doesn't seem to have any family it seems and his car is still outside. I keep worrying something has happened to him! I think I'm going to go and ask the neighbours today when they're out because they do talk so surely theyd know if he's just on holiday or if we should be worried about him? I feel so silly and my partner has told me I'm overthinking it! Does anyone know if there is anything else I should or could do? Should I even be worried or am I just being silly?

I would just knock on his door and if he answers just say you noticed the alarm had been flashing a few days so wanted to make sure everything was okay.

I would knock on the door, if he’s fine then no harm done and you’re now a friendly face he knows is a good neighbour x

You're observant OP and that's a good thing. Please check in with his neighbours if you don't want to knock on his door. He may be indisposed and need help.

I'm not sure! They only seem to go in once or twice a week at most. It seems like they may go in to do blood or something though x

I'm going to knock on in about an hour or so! I don't wanna knock to early. Just to make sure he's ok! If I look like a weirdo then so be it at least I know he's ok!

It maybe because The Queen’s death back in the day people did this to mourn/show respect but I’d still check in on him

The fact the alarm hasn't been reset is odd.
If there is no answer when you go over what will you do ?

Neighbour of ours, 68 and apparently in good health died in his sleep. Another neighbour noticed his lack of appearance and called the police. They broke in and found him. Heart attack apparently, it happens.

I'll probably call the police for a welfare check if there is no answer. The alarm feels like the main thing to me because surely you'd turn that off or something I dunno!

This is what my partner said it may be!

Just....knock on the door

I would check on him. My elderly mum lives on her own and I would be so grateful if one of her neighbours noticed something unusual and went to check in her. She would be grateful too!

I hope it goes well when you knock OP. I think you are doing the right thing in checking.

Knock now most elderly people do he up with the lark

Definitely knock, I used to have a very private, reclusive older man who lived in a very overgrown house opposite mine, I noticed his garage door had been left open overnight and through the following day so went across to check, knowing he would be annoyed with me, but actually found him (after an extensive hunt through his jungle garden) having fallen off a ladder the day before, dislocated his hip, bashed his head and had been unable to get up for 24 hours (through a heavy rainstorm). Ended up with ambulance, air ambulance in the field behind and fire crews to cut the trees down to stretcher him out. Definitely check!! 🙂

I think it is really nice that you have noticed and are concerned. I live on my own, would appreciate someone keeping an eye out for me, and would not mind being checked on. You sound like a lovely person.

Please check. A number of years ago I visited my mum on a bank holiday to take her out for lunch. She was still in bed and I quickly realised something was wrong. Called the ooh but then called an ambulance. She had pneumonia and was very ill. If I hadn't been off that day I probably wouldn't have phoned her until the evening when back from work. I lived 16 miles away and work was 30 miles the other way. By then it might have been too late.
The consultant said she had been suffering in silence.

I’d also knock OP.

People used to half close the curtains when someone died. Not leave them completely closed.

Please check. I hope someone would on dm.

Yes, I thought it was halfway as well.

Op, my neighbour usually takes my bins in on a Friday morning, one morning he never so I felt silly but I had to ring the hospital I know he gets his chemo at just to check on him as it was eating away at me. Thankfully he was at his friends down the road and he came to mine and said he was just out and sorry to worry me but no he isn't dead" haha god bless him. I was worried just wanted to know he was okay, He has no family so I feel I need to look after him
Can never be to safe xx

Absolutely check, it's not weird or annoying other than kind and neighbourly

What happened when you knocked?
Very glad you're checking on him.

Omg is he ok now? 🧡