SIL wants me to apologise to her DD

[cheathimsilly]

I took her DD to a film whilst my DS was at school. It was a baby friendly showing, to be specific here. My own (baby) DD came along

I bought sweets along but she wanted popcorn and I fancied some too, so we got a large popcorn and a drink to share

Within 15 minutes of the show starting, she said she was scared. I said it's fine, there's a lot of funny stuff. Sit tight and enjoy her treats etc

She said again 5 minutes later, I don't like it, I'm scared. I said please will you just give it a try? Low and behold, 5 minutes later she's giggling at some of the film and fine for the rest of it

Then the credits came up, and she said she was terrified! I said what of? She said the screens gone black

My niece is 7.

Another time it might be worth checking Common Sense Media first. It suggests that The Dark Crystal is suitable for ages 10+
www.commonsensemedia.org/movie-reviews/the-dark-crystal

My nearly 7yr old would be terrified of that film! Bit of an odd choice. But yes, you should have taken her out.

Don’t be daft! It depends on whether the person is enjoying it or not. Some people enjoy being scared, many of us don’t. I went to see Alien, as an adult, and walked out a few minutes in. Still never seen it and no desire to. Because I know myself and what I like.

People saying this film is scary, I just don’t understand. O loved it my kids loved it and my grandkids (4-5) love it.

Can you not take them with you?

Newsweek has picked up on this thread. Only know because I googled the film as I've never heard of it!

You are very unresonable.

Sorry but YABU.

That film does have a number of bits in it which I can see many 7 year olds would find scary and a quick google suggests that it isn't recommended for any children under 8. I can understand you trying to encourage her after she said it was scary the first time - but you should have taken her out when she said it again. So yes, I'm with your SIL. You should apologise.

Your SIL sounds like a brat who is blaming you and your niece sounds annoying. I would not be apologising! No wonder kids are such ninnies these days!

Sounds like she's playing up to Mum

OP what you're suggesting calls for you to be able to see the operation of your nieces mind. Just because you don't like the over riding consensus, does not make you right. No / I'm scared etc is not open to interpretation. Is this what you're teaching your children now? 7 year olds are capable. No one is suggesting you did this on purpose but wrong is wrong. If a child tells you they are scared believe them please.

I think, as usual, many posters have not bothered to given even the opening post a cursory read, let alone clicked 'see all'.

YANBU, I wouldn’t offer to take her again.

You messed up.

Apologise and move on.

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I think this is good advice

I'd also not take Dneice to cinema again Or always insist that SIL or DBro (her parents) come too so they can take her out if she doesn't like it or doesn't like the dark that happens in cinemas as she's very sensitive. Really hee parents could have should have known this about their own child. Make sure you travel there in separate cars if you do go to cinema with Dneice and SIL in future so that they are free to leave anytime they wish without everyone having to leave.

Even Disney films often have a scary bit at the beginning or midway (think Finding Nemo!) - part of the fun for DCs is that they have mum there to cuddle up to... A bit of peril is always introduced ..

Dark Crystal!??? YABVU . To those of you who haven't seen it - Google it and tell me if you think that's suitable for a child.

Just dont take her to the cinemas anymore

I wouldnt appologise

Yeah sorry @cheathimsilly , that shit’s going to haunt her forever. Honestly just say sorry (not that she was upset but that you didn’t take her at her word and take her out of it) if she was an adult she would have just walked out, but she was sort of reliant on you to allow her escape.
It’s not just her by the way- that film is famously a bona fide freak show - 15 reasons dark crystal was the scariest move of all time
I would watch it now, I’m sorry I’m even thinking about it at this hour- already cant sleep 😳

I think many posters have missed the bit about her SIL being the one who chose the film in the first place. For that reason I think she should be the main one to apologise to her DD first. Surely she knows her own child better than anyone, and would know it'd be an unsuitable film for her?
I definitely think the OP made an error of judgement; but so did her SIL. Ultimately the buck stops with the parent here.
OP, you can learn from this. Maybe don't agree to babysit your niece for a while. Enjoy your own baby.

Had her Mum agreed she could see it?

Just got a flavour of the film from the link @Fullupdowntown1a1 posted.

OMG!! Unsettling, disturbing, freaky - I’m not surprised she was scared.

Just apologise to mum & daughter.

Think OP checked out of this thread a while back. I don’t think she ever had any intention of apologising. All her comments suggest she believes she knows what was going on in her niece’s head better than the girl did herself.

My adult child still won't watch that film!
It is creepy in part (the odd noises Skeksis? make) really freaked my child out and still do.
Yabu if your niece said she was scared. Apologies are needed imo.

This puppets in this film are freaky af! WTAF were u thinking?
Apology definitely needed, although too little too late. Your poor niece will have night terrors for life. Well done. If I were your SIL I would b mad as hell with you