Would you attend a wedding and not even give a card ?

[bridezilllaaaa]

I got married not long ago. I had around 90 guests.

I had a card box on display, but noticed that around 20 guests didn't even give us a card.

I didn't have a present list or anything like that. The invitation specified that no presents were required, but if people did want to give something, then cash would be appreciated. (Worded much nicer than that ).

I definitely didn't expect money from everyone, but perhaps a card ?

We gave wedding favours etc. We had no distinction between evening and day guests etc. We just had everyone join us for the entire day.

You said you didn’t require a gift … people just did what you said…

Check with the Bestman, my brother was best man recently and loads of people gave him the cards, particularly if they had cash in them

OP - I totally get where you're coming from, but if you've told people not to bring gifts, then checking to see if anyone's left you a bank transfer or not isn't really on.

As for cards - "wedding cards" aren't really a thing. They exist, sure, but they seem to be a recent invention rather than an established gesture.