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How did she decline so rapidly?

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Maggiethecat · 09/09/2022 09:19

Not really trying to know the cause of the queen’s death although I have wondered but can’t get my head round that picture of her greeting Liz Truss to her death 2 days later.

Initially thought it must have been something acute like a stroke or heart but then it seems like she has been ailing (haven’t really taken note, other than palace statements of mobility issues).

Perhaps she had been bedridden for weeks and made a huge effort on Monday to fulfil her last duty but I’m inclined to think had that been the case more of her family would have been near.

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AlisonDonut · 09/09/2022 09:35

I said to my OH when I saw the Liz Truss photo that it was photoshopped.

It just looked so wrong.

loudbatperson · 09/09/2022 09:36

I think lots of people, even much younger, can go very quickly.

My own mother was her normal self busy as ever then developed a heavy cold and died overnight the same day. She was only 60.

When I go, I would like to be similar, rather than a slow and steady decline and loss of independence.

Swimmingpoolsally · 09/09/2022 09:36

From her hands it was end stage cancer, when my grandmother had the same I was told by the doctors it was because her organs were failing. It’s a sure sign that both death is imminent and it’s end stage cancer.

LT2 · 09/09/2022 09:36

I also believe the 'hanging on' theory. My father had terminal cancer. We booked our wedding for 8 months time, not knowing how long he had (he didn't want to know). Less than 4 months after the wedding he died. He was dancing with me on that night. After our wedding day his health declined rather quickly and was bed-ridden for the final few weeks.

ChagSameachDoreen · 09/09/2022 09:36

Teddletime · 09/09/2022 09:28

Sorry to hijack your thread but I wanted to ask about the corgis. She bought a new puppy fairly recently I think. Last couple of years. Who will take them?

They'll be sent to Battersea.

GoneWithTheWine1 · 09/09/2022 09:36

She didn't look the picture of health two days before though. That massive bruise on her hand, all that weight loss.

she's been declining since Philip died, and at least she died peacefully.

bellac11 · 09/09/2022 09:37

I wondered this too, apparently I read that she had been out walking or moving about with the dogs on the estate, not sure if that was before she met Truss or afterwards, but clearly at that age you either just die as your organs start to shut down or perhaps a quick heart attack

As others have said, its what I would want.

She certainly looked incredibly ill in the pictures of meeeting Truss, perhaps she just managed a few minutes for photos and a discussion with her but that might have been it. Perhaps even getting dressed was a major undertaking

MiseryWIthAStent · 09/09/2022 09:38

It happens like that frequently, I worked in care for years, honestly it was usually people with dementia that had a

starrynight21 · 09/09/2022 09:38

At that stage of life, you can die very quickly. My Dad was 89, spent a happy day going to second-hand shops with my sister, had lunch out, went home and watched TV with Mum. Went to brush his teeth, and literally dropped dead at the sink. He'd had a massive ruptured aortic aneurism, totally unknown to anyone. A good way to go - I hope something similar happens to me when the time comes.

MiseryWIthAStent · 09/09/2022 09:38

Slower decline. Pressed post too soon.

inkworks273 · 09/09/2022 09:38

It's happened with my gran. She was at the bingo the night before she died. Woke up in the morning not being able to breathe well and was gone that evening.

CaveMum · 09/09/2022 09:39

I believe she hung on to get shot of Boris - once the promise of him going earlier in the summer was there you’d do your darnedest wouldn’t you? I mean who’d want that buffoon representing you as one of the chief mourners or reading a eulogy?

Badfootkk · 09/09/2022 09:39

Teddletime · 09/09/2022 09:28

Sorry to hijack your thread but I wanted to ask about the corgis. She bought a new puppy fairly recently I think. Last couple of years. Who will take them?

The staff, as they did before.

vroom321 · 09/09/2022 09:41

CaveMum · 09/09/2022 09:39

I believe she hung on to get shot of Boris - once the promise of him going earlier in the summer was there you’d do your darnedest wouldn’t you? I mean who’d want that buffoon representing you as one of the chief mourners or reading a eulogy?

I can believe this

KimberleyClark · 09/09/2022 09:41

It could have been acute pneumonia. My 93 year old mother was sitting up in a chair talking one night, the following morning she was found unresponsive in bed and passed away peacefully around 1pm. They do call it the old man’s friend.

Beseen22 · 09/09/2022 09:42

I feel like it's been a sudden terminal event. She was pictured standing up 2 days ago and that would fairly unusual in the case of malignancy, there's usually a more traceable decline in function. That's not to say it might have been a more sudden event secondary to a malignancy such as sepsis or bleed or pleural effusion. They sent the helicopter down for Charles at Dumfries House at 0645. I feel like they have gone in in the morning and there's been a massive deterioration so they've called the family. I just think if it was a malignancy usually there's a bit more time and the other royals would have been sent for the day before.

sunglassesonthetable · 09/09/2022 09:42

My Uncle was in his late eighties when he died. He had been a Farmer all his life. He had been shopping, got out of his car on the drive and dropped dead from a massive heart attack, no illness whatsoever. My Grandmother died like that as well. About two weeks before she died she had gone with my cousin through the big municipal cemetery, they missed the gate locking time and she climbed up and over the seven foot high gate with the immortal words ‘Their not getting me yet’. She was close to 80 and had been in the WAAF, the Women’s Auxiliary Airforce. She is buried in that cemetery with the WAAF insignia on her gravestone.

Fabulous.

randomsabreuse · 09/09/2022 09:42

With the weather in North East Scotland yesterday you'd not be sending a large proportion of the line of succession in a helicopter. Loads of thunderstorms, low cloud, mountainous area, very bad idea. I'm surprised so many were in 1 car tbh!

girlmom21 · 09/09/2022 09:42

It could have been a stroke or heart attack but there was talk of all the weight loss over the last year etc so it could have been something like cancer.

I hope when they said she was comfortable they meant it.

newgraduate2022 · 09/09/2022 09:42

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PurpleDaisies · 09/09/2022 09:42

CaveMum · 09/09/2022 09:39

I believe she hung on to get shot of Boris - once the promise of him going earlier in the summer was there you’d do your darnedest wouldn’t you? I mean who’d want that buffoon representing you as one of the chief mourners or reading a eulogy?

A lot of people talk about this hanging on thing. Why would someone hang on to see out a bad prime minister but not to say goodbye to a beloved family member?

I dong out any stock in that sort of theory. When your time is up, that’s it. Not your choice.

Funkyslippers · 09/09/2022 09:42

starrynight21 my dad was the same but he collapsed one day, once he was conscious we thought he was getting better but died very suddenly the next day

Swimmingpoolsally · 09/09/2022 09:42

GoneWithTheWine1 · 09/09/2022 09:36

She didn't look the picture of health two days before though. That massive bruise on her hand, all that weight loss.

she's been declining since Philip died, and at least she died peacefully.

It wasn’t a bruise, it was haemorrhaging. It’s very common at the very very end with cancer. It will have been on her body too as her organs failed. As said. My grandmother had it. Anyone who has sadly witnessed someone with it would;d recognise it immediately and knew she was at the very end.

girlmom21 · 09/09/2022 09:43

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Why would they be put down?

vroom321 · 09/09/2022 09:44

What the hell?? What kind of vet would put healthy dogs down because their owner has died?

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