Queen Passing but Not feeling It – AIBU

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Now don’t get me wrong, of course it’s a massive loss to the UK, commonwealth and to her family, I get that but for me personally I’m just not feeling it. I think I have so many matters of my own, work and family to deal with and worry about that I just can’t relate to it.

Only today three hours before the official announcement, all five main UK TV channels were nonstop talking about the queen and we have gone into what I can only describe as a “24hr Queenathon” where in respect, TV is in a loop just talking about the same thing over and over constant. We will have weeks of this now and a bank holiday so more business interruption at a horrendous economic time and I’m sick of it already.

It's not that I’m uncompassionate, I got very upset recently over some of the atrocities that children in Ukraine have faced from Russian aggression, they have something to really worry about at night, that really upset me but with the Queen passing I’m just not feeling it. I will celebrate the life of the Queen, she has been amazing, but I can’t relate to mourning over her, I just can’t.

My Sister-in-law today has been in tears over the Queens death, half of me feels like saying “just get a grip, you're lucky that’s all you need to cry about” of course I won't, will just nod and say it's very sad but I just think, yes Queens been incredible, let's celebrate her life but as for mourning, shouldn’t that be for direct family only? AIBU?

Finally, at 96 I feel she had a really long life, worked hard but the best of everything. Some good people just don’t get a fraction of that, maybe that’s also a factor for me. Anyone else feeling the same or am I being uncompassionate?

Totally understandable Wearethepigs! I'm so sorry for what you are going through.

It's sad for her family but she had a very long and luxurious life ,all the main channels have had rolling coverage/ special programmes for days now ,and it's going to carry on untill her funeral at least,they could just keep it to one channel .

Having lost my own mum, at a relatively young age, less than a year ago. I find the crying and blubbing of people who didn’t know this very elderly woman to be ridiculous and faintly irritating.

I do feel sad for her family, as I do any grieving family, but unless you knew the queen personally, you are not grieving. To act like you are is insensitive and silly.

So true

I'm sorry about your Mum, I hope it gets easier for you, it's not easy 🌺

I agree.
Performance grieving.
Like you Iost a parent too soon, seeing people sobbing and " grief stricken" over someone they never met is weird, and yes, insulting to those who have actually exerienced such a loss.
I don't dimish the pain of those who were close to her, but I don't understand the outpouring of the public.

It's not just performance grief it's mandatory mourning. People are being given no choice but to be involved. It's absolutely ridiculous. I can't stand it when the press talk about a nation in mourning. Fuck off with telling me what I am or what I should be feeling. We live in a democracy. I am no one subject.
I'm sorry for her family and I acknowledge it's the end of an era etc but I don't feel any different between the Queen dying and any other old person.

I've left two Facebook groups because the admins have posted things along the lines of 'we're all in mourning, so let's post about the Queen/post photos of the Queen/post (awful) poems about the Queen'. No. Left, and not going back, WTF is wrong with people??

Ew really? Fucking weird.

It comes to something when the BBC have to ask the public to stop leaving out marmalade sandwiches.
Has the world gone mad?
Leaving a sandwich out for a 96 year old who died last week 😮

I really wish the RF could've asked the public to donate to a children's charity instead of flowers wrapped in plastic left all over everywhere.
What a smart and forward thinking move that would've been, signalling a new Monarchy and change
As it is, there's plastic everywhere and rats gorging themselves

I really wish the RF could've asked the public to donate to a children's charity instead of flowers wrapped in plastic left all over everywhere

I know, it's strange that they wouldn't do that.

There was an entire thread on here about the sandwich. Got a bit heated. (the thread-not the sandwich)

I suspect they want the piles of flowers to show how 'popular' they are

I'm a bit late to the party!

Was the consensus it was a noble thing to do? I find it bonkers

Mixed, and very divisive!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4630669-someone-has-left-a-marmalade-sandwich-outside-buckingham-palace?page=1

I really wish the RF could've asked the public to donate to a children's charity instead of flowers wrapped in plastic left all over everywhere

Absolutely Roussette, but then they wouldn't have had a pic of themselves laying the flowers (or god-damned marmalade sandwiches or whatever) to post all over the net

Can anyone top this for the most nauseating attention seeking award ever:-

Morning TV, Holly Willoughby:-

“We have been so upset by it all, We went today and the Children and I we laid our flowers and paid our respects”

A picture accompanied the post of her and three children guessing all age 3 to 5

FFS

Sorry but come on, pay your respects to someone that passed over if that’s what you really want to do, don’t bring the children into it and don’t bloody well publish pictures and make a feature of it.

It’s got ridiculous

And as for Flowers in plastic and sandwich’s left for the rats, if Charles wanted to do good I agree the message should have been make a donation to a charity rather than flowers. Do some good.

People always lay flowers as a mark of respect. It just seems wasteful to you OP because millions of people have left them in a few places all in the space of a few days. But it's no different to the millions of people who take flowers every day to cemeteries and crematoriums.

Now MN is black! Stop please!

Not sure if it was just coincidence, but the self scanner machine I used in Sainsbury's was all black too !

When is tv going back to normal? All 5 terrestrial channels are showing Queen related guff at the moment. I think they’ve totally misjudged this. I don’t know anyone following every detail like this.