Queen Passing but Not feeling It – AIBU

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Now don’t get me wrong, of course it’s a massive loss to the UK, commonwealth and to her family, I get that but for me personally I’m just not feeling it. I think I have so many matters of my own, work and family to deal with and worry about that I just can’t relate to it.

Only today three hours before the official announcement, all five main UK TV channels were nonstop talking about the queen and we have gone into what I can only describe as a “24hr Queenathon” where in respect, TV is in a loop just talking about the same thing over and over constant. We will have weeks of this now and a bank holiday so more business interruption at a horrendous economic time and I’m sick of it already.

It's not that I’m uncompassionate, I got very upset recently over some of the atrocities that children in Ukraine have faced from Russian aggression, they have something to really worry about at night, that really upset me but with the Queen passing I’m just not feeling it. I will celebrate the life of the Queen, she has been amazing, but I can’t relate to mourning over her, I just can’t.

My Sister-in-law today has been in tears over the Queens death, half of me feels like saying “just get a grip, you're lucky that’s all you need to cry about” of course I won't, will just nod and say it's very sad but I just think, yes Queens been incredible, let's celebrate her life but as for mourning, shouldn’t that be for direct family only? AIBU?

Finally, at 96 I feel she had a really long life, worked hard but the best of everything. Some good people just don’t get a fraction of that, maybe that’s also a factor for me. Anyone else feeling the same or am I being uncompassionate?

The first miracles are already happening.

Not at all. It's quite a measured, respectful response, OP.

It's a sad loss, and the end of an era, for the country indeed. I agree with a pp that 'grief stealing' is featuring with a minority at the moment. People not prominent in the public eye or even connected to the Queen, wearing mourning, something they would not consider for their own family.

I think that's normal. people don't know the queen personally so I don't get all the fb posts about how devastated they are. Plus, she lived to 96 and died peacefully with her family around her which is the ideal way to go!

You put it perfectly OP, I feel 100% the same.

Am IThe only one who thought Liz Truss’s use of the word “devastated” was inappropriate? Surely “deeply saddened” would have been better. It’s not devastating when a 94 year old dies except maybe to those closest to them.

96 not 94. Apologies.

Have you considered just turning the TV off? Or using some of the other 300+ channels? Or streaming things to watch?

And Trump and Farage can fuck right off - grandstanding at the grave so to speak.

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National mourning isn't about personal grief, it's about marking the loss to the nation.

But when people who never met the woman take to social media declaring themselves "devestated", "heartbroken" and saying "its like losing a member of the family" (which it really, really isn't") that's not about "marking the loss to the nation" is it? They're making it about them.
Also, the concept of "national mourning" suggests that the nation is one hive mind, that we all the same and there's something wrong if we don't wish to join in with the collective displays of grief.

YABU to start yet another thread, when you could have joined in on the others, saying the same. You get called the thread police, of course, for pointing out the obvious. You clearly think your ambivalence at the death of the longest reigning UK Monarch is more significant than others. No matter what any of you say, its impact will override your discomfort.

I feel the same OP. I didn't know her so why would I grieve.

Hopefully this will be a time for change. I still cannot comprehend why we still have a one family that hundreds of years ago won a battle, so we gave them loads of land and riches, and now hundreds of years later they still represent the terrible inequality we have in this country. Perhaps now Charles will stop the RF charging rent to wind farms and encourage tidal hydroelectricity so that we can stop making the "few" so incredibly rich with our reliance on gas and oil.

OP

'Finally, at 96 I feel she had a really long life, worked hard but the best of everything. Some good people just don’t get a fraction of that

You make perfect sense OP
The few posters gnashing their teeth and rending their clothes over her death - that's all about something else whether they realise it or not

With you OP, I was a bit 🙄over the whole 10 days of mourning. Reading what the days consists of like her body being flown up and down the country before her final resting place. Maybe the new streamlined slimmed down modernisation will mean we don't have 10 days of mourning in the future. Think its a bit excessive really.

"They're making it about them"

The irony goes off the radar on this one 🙄

@neverbeenskiing

Also, the concept of "national mourning" suggests that the nation is one hive mind, that we all the same and there's something wrong if we don't wish to join in with the collective displays of grief

That's the intention - it's an attempt at thought control . It works on some

Neverbeenskiing - There will always be people who make it about themselves no matter what the situation. We now have a culture where it's all me me me where people play their lives out on social media for "likes".

Best to just scroll past or block those people.

YANBU OP

My very much loved dad died the week before Diana. Seeing all the grieving for her - someone who most people have never met - while my lovely dad’s passing went unnoticed made me feel sick to the pit of my stomach. And angry too.

The irony goes off the radar on this one 🙄

I don't think it does.

I trust you'll be posting that same first sentence on all the more pro monarchy leaning threads on MN then? You wouldn't want it to look like it's not actually the duplication you have a problem with.

You're correct. I should have said it goes off the scale. 👍

Yes, if people are asking if they are being unreasonable. I may even cut and paste other bits of mine, seeings as I will be using them a lot.

I feel the same. I have a lot of stress and worry at the moment that is making me upset.
My mother phoned me in tears saying "it's such a shock." I gave her some words of comfort, but thought that it wasn't a shock that a 96 year old woman has died.
It makes me appear cold hearted, but I just can't feel it.

Just AIBU? There's plenty of duplication in Chat too. Surely they also deserve to be included in this drive for efficiency?

I don't read chat.

I quietly cried at home for most of the evening which really surprised me. I wasn't performance grieving or plastering it all over social media, it just hit me in a way I didn't expect. I probably watched too much news yesterday, the final photos of her taken a few days ago really got me. It's just sad.