I have a DS Monty who is 14 and DSS Boone who is 15
DP moved in with me and Monty when Monty was 5 so has been the main father figure to his life ( his bio dad is not in the picture ). DP is involved in Boone’s life but because his bio mother lives so far away joint Custody was never a option.
Boone’s bio mother has had a offer for a job in another country and it would be crazy for her not to take it (she will be away for 3 years but will come back for periods of time) and the original idea was for Boone to come with her but last minute he has had a change of heart and Doesn’t want to go anymore so of course me and DP offered for him to stay at ours until she’s back (we do live 5 hours away from Boone’s house so he will have to move schools either way)
Both boys only have 3 months between them so Boone will be in Monty’s year at school which Monty is not best pleased about. He’s complained about having to share a room with Boone (we have a 3 bedroom house and my DD needs her own room) and I think having to take Boone “under his wing” is making DS annoyed which I’ve questioned why and he doesn’t have a reason why not he just doesn’t he said.
Both boys don’t know each other well (they have seen each other at Christmas and DP’s family get togethers) but do know each other kind of well Just not in a brotherly way of course.
Boone is staying at ours no matter what and everyone else is happy about it, am I being unreasonable expecting Monty to be okay with this (I get this is a massive change for everyone) he’s just acting like this will “ruin his life” and I don’t want Boone to have to feel unwelcome in our home.
AIBU?
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Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 18:43
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLSunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 19:13
@SleepingStandingUp how you phrased that was really helpful thank you 😊
I don’t think he is worried about his dad (he knows how much he lives him and the issue seems to be more with school and bedrooms)
Bedroom wise both are quite small rooms so separating it would make both sides very hard to have a bed and clothing unit in.
i did word that wrong of course he won’t look after him but they will need to walk to school together with monty’s friends until he settles in more (there’s no point driver as it’s a 10 minute walk at most). Schools been finalised and Boone has his time table to start in 2 weeks and is in a few of monty’s classes
Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 19:18
Me and DP are considering splitting our bedroom up for Monty and Boone and us moving in monty’s room but this will take a few weeks to be completed
PopPopPopP · 07/09/2022 20:01
How old are Monty and Boone?
CheeseSaltDelicious · 07/09/2022 20:02
"DS Monty who is 14 and DSS Boone who is 15"
PopPopPopP · 07/09/2022 20:01
How old are Monty and Boone?
Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 20:03
@Unexpecteddrivinginstructor DS walks with his two best friends and with my DD and her friend and both don’t seem to mind so I can’t not get Boone to go with them
Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 20:03
@Unexpecteddrivinginstructor DS walks with his two best friends and with my DD and her friend and both don’t seem to mind so I can’t not get Boone to go with them
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Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 20:08
@Stripedbag101 they lived 5 hours away so made it hard for DP to visit with his 9-5 job but he always goes in the holidays to see him - Boone went on our family holiday a few years ago but the boys were about 10 so got on fine. We used to go on little family days out at a beach and it’s near boone’s house so we would pick him up on the way but after covid we haven’t gone back to the beach
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