I have a DS Monty who is 14 and DSS Boone who is 15
DP moved in with me and Monty when Monty was 5 so has been the main father figure to his life ( his bio dad is not in the picture ). DP is involved in Boone’s life but because his bio mother lives so far away joint Custody was never a option.
Boone’s bio mother has had a offer for a job in another country and it would be crazy for her not to take it (she will be away for 3 years but will come back for periods of time) and the original idea was for Boone to come with her but last minute he has had a change of heart and Doesn’t want to go anymore so of course me and DP offered for him to stay at ours until she’s back (we do live 5 hours away from Boone’s house so he will have to move schools either way)
Both boys only have 3 months between them so Boone will be in Monty’s year at school which Monty is not best pleased about. He’s complained about having to share a room with Boone (we have a 3 bedroom house and my DD needs her own room) and I think having to take Boone “under his wing” is making DS annoyed which I’ve questioned why and he doesn’t have a reason why not he just doesn’t he said.
Both boys don’t know each other well (they have seen each other at Christmas and DP’s family get togethers) but do know each other kind of well Just not in a brotherly way of course.
Boone is staying at ours no matter what and everyone else is happy about it, am I being unreasonable expecting Monty to be okay with this (I get this is a massive change for everyone) he’s just acting like this will “ruin his life” and I don’t want Boone to have to feel unwelcome in our home.
AIBU?
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Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 18:43
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLSunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 19:22
@ancientgran he needs to walk with Monty for the first few days so he knows the way (is used to the area) and so he can get to his first class on time - this is only temporary until Boone knows the way
Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 19:25
@Tollystar This has been a very sudern change -and we only found out about it about a week ago so have been rushing things as fast as we could
we have a spare bed that was monty’s old one so putting that bed in Monty’s bedroom is the easiest solution right now - even a sofa bed will take a while to be ordered and delivered
Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 19:25
@Tollystar This has been a very sudern change -and we only found out about it about a week ago so have been rushing things as fast as we could
we have a spare bed that was monty’s old one so putting that bed in Monty’s bedroom is the easiest solution right now - even a sofa bed will take a while to be ordered and delivered
Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 19:22
@ancientgran he needs to walk with Monty for the first few days so he knows the way (is used to the area) and so he can get to his first class on time - this is only temporary until Boone knows the way
Isthisreasonable · 07/09/2022 19:41
When you rearrange the bedrooms Monty must get first choice of bedroom. If he's not got any say in everything else that's being dumped on him this is the very least you can do to offset all his sacrifices
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Sunnymother1 · 07/09/2022 19:22
@ancientgran he needs to walk with Monty for the first few days so he knows the way (is used to the area) and so he can get to his first class on time - this is only temporary until Boone knows the way
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