To ask you to give me the best parts of single life?

[newsinglelife]

I am leaving a very unhappy and toxic relationship in the next few months. Having made this decision finally today after months of unhappiness, arguments, and emotional abuse I feel as though a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.

I am going to find things right financially but I'm going to make it work, for my 2 girls. I will be a newly single mum to them both.

Please tell me a) this is going to be OK as I'm having a little wobble, and b) what are the highlights of single life? 🙂

*Find things tight financially

The highlight is that you will get to live your life the way you want to and nothing is more rewarding then that!
You will be more then fine 🥰

You will be freeeeeeeeee

Freedom and in control. Being able to give your DC 100% instead of whatever is left over from energy invested in a bad relationship.

This just made me smile properly for the first time today after a lot of tears.

Total and complete freedom; never having to check in with anyone or organise plans around them. Being able.to go where you want to eat, on holiday, at the weekend etc. Watching whatever you want on tv. Not cleaning up after another adult. Wine, pizza and film nights on a friday all your choice. No snoring from the bed next to you. The excitement of never knowing what could happen with an attractive stranger

@HangOnToYourself

That all sounds amazing 😊

Single life at times has been very iffy - like being down to my last £ 100 and no job on the horizon. I can safely say that however bad it has been - arsehole neighbours/managing agent/managers, bills, illness and the rest, I have NEVER once thought 'I wish I was back with ex.' In fact, my overriding thought has always been, 'Could be worse, could still be married and having to sleep with ex.' Even when my MD, who was doing business deals with ex's company, told me that ex had just made his first million. As my brother observed, 'So yesterday he was a twat. Today he's a rich twat.'

Serious side, I didnt have to maintain a relationship ao my relationship with my kids seems so much better than my married parents relationship with me.
I feel relaxed at home. Not battling anybody lazy, not trying to be "heard," not experiencing resentment. I can eat what I like, been vegan been keto 🤣🙈 sometimes I have cake for dinner. Bed to myself. Nobody snoring. I can watch crap on netflix in to the small hours, I can stay in bed drinking coffee till 11 on Saturday. I can buy myself nice clothes. If there's a work do, I don't have to promise to be home early. (My kids are teens).
Decor to my taste. I save on the things I want to save on and splurge when I want to splurge. Not answerable to somebody who would say the joy out of new pair of boots.

Congratulations on being single my friend.
👍🏻🥂🍀

I mainly love not having to answer to anyone, if I want to go to bed at 7pm I will rather than having a nagging man tell me I must stay up and keep him company. Not having to run my life around him, being able to eat what I want rather than making food only he liked. Freedom and less stress

This.

Just all exhaustion and wasted energy living with an arse, and arguments and nastiness. All that, just GONE.

being able to create the atmosphere you want at home.

Weekends being a thing to look forward to, rather than dread as He is there.

Becoming your own person again

Being in control.

Your house is a home again.

I'm currently in a relationship after being single for 6 years...can you tell I'm missing a few aspects of it 😂😂

Star fishing over the WHOLE bed!

you will never be as lonely as you have felt over the last few months. There is nothing lonelier than being in a bad relationship

Financially things were v tight when dc smaller but we are ok now and I would have busked with a tin whistle qnd some knock knock jokes before I would ever have thought "I shouldn't have left him".

Like a pp, I never ever regretted leaving. Even when things were tight, I finally had the head space to enjoy the cripple things in life. Cup of tea and q cross word. Going for a run. Joining library. Never ever felt "ill swap this peace for fewer money worries"

I've been doing this for a while as he's not been in my bed for a while but YAY to this! 😀

@Bananaman123
going to bed at 7pm with a cheese toastie and a glass of Rioja and your iPad with loads of night cream on and your hair up. Bonus with cat or dog on bed for company with only a blissful sleep to look forward to until morning

The SIMPLE things in life

@J0y

Finances are my biggest worry and the main reason I haven't made this decision sooner. I have 2 DDs, one pre school age so FT childcare, so it's going to be tight financially but I can't use that as a reason to stay in this hell any longer. I will make it work. I have a relatively well paid job and I'll claim whatever help I can on top of that.

I left an abusive relationship nearly 6 years ago and have been single through choice since. Pros

1. I regained MY identity, the things that make me me and I enjoy.
2. I don't live in fear, emotionally or physically.
3. I don't live frustrated
4. I can make my own decisions for me and the kids.
5. I rebuilt my friends and support network.
6. I erm have enjoyed figuring out some self-entertainment.

I'm not going to lie. It is NOT easy, they're will be bumps and shit periods but I also recall the exact moment I just knew everything was going to be OK. If you know there will be shit moments you can prepare yourself to know it won't always be that way. I would never change my decision now.

Financially I'm better off as a single parent than I ever was with him.

I've been single for a very long time and I still never get over how amazing it is. It's a complete luxury to not have to live with someone else, just fabulous.

@HangOnToYourself
i get that 😭but I’m old now 😭

I can't use that as a reason to stay in this hell any longer

Trust me, the stress being lifted from your shoulders is worth it and you can then concentrate on you, the DC and building a new life.

I will make it work Attagirl. You WILL make it work.

Everything