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To ask you to give me the best parts of single life?

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newsinglelife · 06/09/2022 18:26

I am leaving a very unhappy and toxic relationship in the next few months. Having made this decision finally today after months of unhappiness, arguments, and emotional abuse I feel as though a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.

I am going to find things right financially but I'm going to make it work, for my 2 girls. I will be a newly single mum to them both.

Please tell me a) this is going to be OK as I'm having a little wobble, and b) what are the highlights of single life? 🙂

OP posts:
Always4Brenner · 09/09/2022 15:25

Even though technically I have to be homeless before I can carry on joint tenancy had to be split up, I’ll get there.

SkirridHill · 09/09/2022 19:49

newsinglelife · 09/09/2022 09:40

I'm having a huge wobble this morning. 😥

I'm swinging between I can't wait to get away from him and how the hell will I do it all on my own .... It's so hard.

I've found it so much more manageable without the ex being involved. DD and I have our own timetable and we get on with it. It is tiring but then, with no-one else at home if I want to climb into my pjs and go to bed at the same time as DD, I can.

Not having to watch someone endlessly scroll through a Netflix menu only to choose the same fucking show every night. I'd forgotten about that.

QueenoftheNimbleFlyingCat · 09/09/2022 20:10

Just being able to breathe for the first time in years. Don't get me wrong, there has been many low points and dramas since we split but just coming home and being able to close the door and breathe. I eat what I want, go to bed when I want and parent my children in the way that I want. There is no screaming and shouting and no walking on egg shells it's bloody marvellous.

Deereemer · 09/09/2022 20:10

Not being used and abused.
Meeting yourself again
Meeting the right person

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newsinglelife · 09/09/2022 20:34

isthistheendtakeabreath · 09/09/2022 14:28

From someone whose husband recently walked out out of the blue leaving me with 1 year old twins and an older child also working full time you are capable of so much more than you can ever imagine and stronger than you'll ever think you are

@isthistheendtakeabreath

Oh my, I'm so sorry that happened to you. You must be an incredibly strong woman Flowers

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isthistheendtakeabreath · 09/09/2022 20:55

@newsinglelife

Thankyou

All I would say is there was an atmosphere at home too which I just put down to tiredness and relentlessness of 3 young children. Now he's gone - as much of a shock as it was that he actually did it - I can see that our lives will be better in the long run. My twins especially seem significantly less anxious than they were. It's amazing and sad how much they can already sense at a young age.

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