Separate bedrooms = happy marriage?

[DreamToNightmare]

For the last week I have been sleeping in our eldest son’s room (sofa bed) and Good Lord, I have been sleeping so soundly!!

Normally I’m disturbed by my husband’s snoring, his fidgeting, his getting up for a wee twice a night and feeling chilly because he likes the bedroom window open a little at night.

It’s been like heaven this last week not having to deal with that!

This morning he joked about me preferring to share a room with our son than him and I laughed it off when inside I was thinking “Hell yes I do” 😂

Im due to move back to our bedroom tonight and feeling a bit disappointed because this set-up is glorious.

Last night, once the children were asleep, me and DH went to our room, we watched the latest episode of a series we are watching amongst chatting about our days, then we had sex, then we said our goodnights and then I left and went to my sofa bed, read a few chapters of my book before then settling down and getting a wonderful sleep.

My husband has bought me up a cup of tea in bed this morning and now he’s downstairs dealing with the children and their breakfasts etc.

Its bliss and I could certainly get used to this.

I’m sure having separate rooms in the unspoken rule of happy marriages 😂

Take it in turns with the available spaces?

DH and I have had our own rooms for 18 months now and I'll never go back. We had mostly slept separately for years but then we moved into our first (owned) house and decided to share a room. We got a big bed, a decent mattress, separate duvets, etc but it just didn't work. I am a terrible sleeper and he snores/farts/talks/flails around. In order to sleep properly, I need a black-out eye mask, the window open, brown noise playing from my phone, and DH likes to watch TV until he falls asleep.

When I first suggested it, he was a bit put out but after one night apart, he said it was a revelation! I used to wake up furious every morning because I was so exhausted so every day started with sniping at each other. He would be pissed off because I'd wake him 5 times a night to stop him from snoring/pushing me off the bed. Now we both sleep well and it has made no negative difference at all to our feelings for each other - in fact, I wake up happy to see him!

Another insomniac here. At the moment I use hypnotherapy audios and earphones so that blocks out DHs snoring. I can totally see why people do separate beds. It’s hellish with no sleep

So I’ve been back in the Marital bedroom for the last 3 nights and it’s been miserable!!

We are both having disturbed nights and have been awake from 4.30am because our fidgeting and moving is waking each other up and then we can’t get back to sleep.

After a really long time of sleeping separately and soundly, I’ve been exhausted the last few days and so has m DH.

So the chat we had just before 5am this morning was all about how we sleep so much better when we are apart and that we should make it a permanent arrangement. I was so relieved not only because I much prefer it, but because now my husband sees the benefit of it too.

We are so tired.

I cannot wait to go to bed alone tonight though 😂

Awwwwwww..pleased for you.Must admit know how you feel now.We've finally got our big lump of a Dalmatian to sleep in the lounge with his own duvet instead of in between us in bed..talk about a good night's sleep, it's heaven🙂

Finally