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HolyCow83 · 2022-08-30T22:18:23+00:00

DH and myself take in turns to cook evening meal for ourselves, me 4 days a week him 3 days. Im on mat leave right now. We have 2 small kids, I make their food most evenings. i do grocery shopping online most weeks. DH does not like this as thinks i am controlling and he doesn’t know what to cook if he didn’t do the shop. We have a grocery list and each can write something when we need it. This week he requested to do the shop (at the actual shop) when we needed it. He agreed to go tonight. I went for a run and he fed the kids, as I do once a week. When I came home he did bath time, put toddler to bed and I put baby to bed. Then he went and did shop, for 2h. At 10pm I’m hungry so make pasta and eat although it’s his turn to cook. 10.30pm he comes home and I help put things away (I’m tired, this is pretty much bedtime). I notice he’s bought reduced fat coconut milk and just ask him not to take offence but that he gets full fat in future as it’s just not as good. He goes crazy yelling waking up the baby, throwing yoghurt on the floor saying I’m controlling and he “can’t stand it anymore”. I do not get it. I didn’t ask him to shop at night time. I usually do kids dinner it’s just tonight he did it. He always gets in such a crazy stress these days. Aibu?

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 01/09/2022 00:04

Ffs all the parking tickets I am asked to cancel because customers have spent to long in the shop and it turns out they were just parked there whilst they conducted (or tried to set up ) an affair. I must tell parking Eye to reduce the length of time one can park for.

stillvicarinatutu · 01/09/2022 01:06

sweeneytoddsrazor · 01/09/2022 00:04

Ffs all the parking tickets I am asked to cancel because customers have spent to long in the shop and it turns out they were just parked there whilst they conducted (or tried to set up ) an affair. I must tell parking Eye to reduce the length of time one can park for.

I'd just shag in the car - no one would dare knock to give me a ticket 😂

Teeturtle · 01/09/2022 04:15

mathanxiety · 31/08/2022 18:03

@giveovernate - the point is that two hours is at least one hour too many to do grocery shopping. Its not too many if you've kind of checked out of home life. It's enough time for a long chat with someone willing to lap up your 'hard done by' narrative too.

That is a daft comment. It would be nigh on impossible for us to complete shopping in one hour as it is a twenty minute drive there and back. If we had to go for milk then an hour is feasible, but only if it is quiet and no queue at the till, a full shop would be much closer to two.

giveovernate · 01/09/2022 06:30

Comedycook · 31/08/2022 20:11

Keen to do the food shop and it took him two hours? I'd be suspicious he took that time to meet someone or call someone in private?

Yep deffo full on affair! 30 mins shop, 1hr shag, 30 mins travel! As I said up thread, opened my eyes to the fact my DH has been shagging in Tesco car park for years! I'm going to LTB!

Tuilpmouse · 01/09/2022 07:07

Comedycook · 31/08/2022 20:11

Keen to do the food shop and it took him two hours? I'd be suspicious he took that time to meet someone or call someone in private?

As people keep posting on here... 2 hours door to door isn't unreasonable at all. It takes me 20 minutes to drive to the nearest main supermarket... so that's 40 minutes gone for starters. If I'm doing a weekly shop that hasn't been planned around (clearly it wasn't due to the calls) and it's a shop I'm not very familiar with (as they normally shop online this seems to be the case here) then the shop itself can easily take an hour plus.

You and @mathanxiety are projecting serious paranoia here.

Backtobacknow · 01/09/2022 08:35

Tuilpmouse · 01/09/2022 07:07

As people keep posting on here... 2 hours door to door isn't unreasonable at all. It takes me 20 minutes to drive to the nearest main supermarket... so that's 40 minutes gone for starters. If I'm doing a weekly shop that hasn't been planned around (clearly it wasn't due to the calls) and it's a shop I'm not very familiar with (as they normally shop online this seems to be the case here) then the shop itself can easily take an hour plus.

You and @mathanxiety are projecting serious paranoia here.

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Agreed total projection and totally ridiculous!

xogossipgirlxo · 01/09/2022 15:14

Comedycook · 31/08/2022 20:11

Keen to do the food shop and it took him two hours? I'd be suspicious he took that time to meet someone or call someone in private?

You can't be serious. Grocery shopping can take up to 2 hours. Mine does and it's not like I shop for 10 people. Just two adults.

mathanxiety · 01/09/2022 15:40

It's the people who are saying, based on their own location and distance from the supermarket, that two hours is a perfectly reasonable amount of time to spend shopping who are projecting here.

The OP mentioned how long he spent shopping but didn't say 'he spent two hours, as usual'. She mentioned it because it seemed to her to be a long time.

Why was this man so keen to leave the house for a long shopping trip, apparently without a list or any real idea what he should buy, so he needed to keep on checking back, late in the evening on the one night in the week when his wife goes for a run?

To punish her for going for a run and leaving him to parent and take care of chores around his home. He also didn't cook even though it was his night, leaving the OP wondering what was best to do about food, and hungry.

To meet up with someone or have a long phone call.

Both.

blockpavingismynightmare · 01/09/2022 16:51

Rubbish

giveovernate · 01/09/2022 17:06

mathanxiety · 01/09/2022 15:40

It's the people who are saying, based on their own location and distance from the supermarket, that two hours is a perfectly reasonable amount of time to spend shopping who are projecting here.

The OP mentioned how long he spent shopping but didn't say 'he spent two hours, as usual'. She mentioned it because it seemed to her to be a long time.

Why was this man so keen to leave the house for a long shopping trip, apparently without a list or any real idea what he should buy, so he needed to keep on checking back, late in the evening on the one night in the week when his wife goes for a run?

To punish her for going for a run and leaving him to parent and take care of chores around his home. He also didn't cook even though it was his night, leaving the OP wondering what was best to do about food, and hungry.

To meet up with someone or have a long phone call.

Both.

My god! Imagine having such an active imagination as you!

I'm hoping that OP isn't reading your batshit crazy theory!

You really need to get some grip on reality counselling!

The "authority" with how you speak is mind blowing.

I presume you've had someone have an affair, whilst in a relationship with you? But stop projecting please!

giveovernate · 01/09/2022 17:08

@mathanxiety stop misinterpreting OP as well, she said it because, she meant.

This is batshit crazy nonsense.

Midpmcoffee · 01/09/2022 17:08

@mathanxiety

Usually you’re pretty sensible
not on this thread!

Midpmcoffee · 01/09/2022 17:09

I think classic case of controlling partner and other partner at end of tether, left to get a break from op, came back, more nit picking and behaved like a tool.

but My sympathies firmly lie with the dh.

DogInATent · 01/09/2022 17:23

This is batshit crazy nonsense.
Normal For Mumsnet.

mountainsunsets · 01/09/2022 17:26

mathanxiety · 01/09/2022 15:40

It's the people who are saying, based on their own location and distance from the supermarket, that two hours is a perfectly reasonable amount of time to spend shopping who are projecting here.

The OP mentioned how long he spent shopping but didn't say 'he spent two hours, as usual'. She mentioned it because it seemed to her to be a long time.

Why was this man so keen to leave the house for a long shopping trip, apparently without a list or any real idea what he should buy, so he needed to keep on checking back, late in the evening on the one night in the week when his wife goes for a run?

To punish her for going for a run and leaving him to parent and take care of chores around his home. He also didn't cook even though it was his night, leaving the OP wondering what was best to do about food, and hungry.

To meet up with someone or have a long phone call.

Both.

😂