To be pissed off with this Mum

[Theblacksheepandme]

My teenage daughter went to her friends house yesterday and stayed over. She came back today and said she had a fall. Both her knees were really cut up and one of her hands. Anyway accidents happen but I am cross at how her friends Mum handled it.

My daughter said both her knees were bleeding quite bad and she went to the bathroom to clean up her knees. The Mum asked if she was ok and walked off when my daughter asked if she had a first aid kit. My daughter had to ask for antiseptic wipes and if she could have plasters. It took them ages to find anything. She was handed one small antiseptic wipe and told that she couldn't have the plasters that were big enough to cover her cuts when my daughter asked but given lots of little plasters. These plasters weren't great and both knees on her tracksuit bottoms had blood on them due to this.

AIBU that I am cross that they were obviously too mean to give her two large plasters to put on and she had to ask for all of this. She went to the nearest town with her friend today and went to the chemist herself to buy two large plasters for her knees. When she came home her knees were oozing and had lots of fluff stuck on them from the inside of her tracksuit bottoms. I am not going to say anything but I am quite cross about it. I know if this happened in my house that I would have made sure her daughter would have been cared for.

I know my daughter is a teenager and I don't expect her to be babied but certainly provide suitable plasters and something to disinfect them to avoid infection. She said she kept having to ask and had to use kitchen towel in the beginning as that was all that was handed to her. Her friends Mum is a dentist and I would have thought she would surely know the importance of disinfecting and covering deep cuts.

I don't have any of that stuff in my house.

I certainly don't use plasters.

If not drying after a good airing and cleaning then maybe I would consider going the the chemist.

Grazed knees as a teen? And a teen who needs a plaster?

Maybe it's just me

Our local pharmacy sell steri strips too.

Surely at 14 she can cope

She did cope. She went to the shop and bought her own dressing.

I'm in my forties and if I fell and cut myself as a guest, I'd ask the host for something to cover it with, particularly if I was staying the night and didn't want their bedding or my clothing to get blood on it.

I would keep a very open mind about that with a 14 year old daughter!

Ps daughter is 13 and would be horrified to have plasters on her knees 🤣

But they did give her some plasters, just not the size the DD wanted. Maybe they didn't have any bigger and dd was mistaken in what she saw. Nicotine patches look a lot like big plasters, so do loads of other things. Maybe the mum didn't have the big plasters dd thinks she saw.

Anyway, I personally think it's all a big non issue. A cut is a cut. No big deal. Can't get what all the fuss is about.

@TiredzzZZ
I'm beginning to think you are the friends Mum by your comments.

So in summary

A 14 year old cuts their knee
Adult asks if they are ok
Adult gives 14 year old an antiseptic wipe and some plasters.

Adult is being criticised for not having done more - bigger plasters, more antiseptic wipe, kinder manner.

God the world has gone mad! Pampered teens become snowflakes

Another one who has never bought antiseptic wipes. I had plasters when my children were young, but my youngest just stuck them all over her teddies so I gave up. We currently have Savlon. I’m not entirely sure what it is, but MIL had loads of unopened tubes when we cleared out her flat after she died, so I put one in the first aid box (posh name for a box with some paracetamol, ibrofen, multivitamins, with probably one missing, and a deceased lady’s savlon)

Maybe the other mum thought your daughter wouldn’t like a fuss?

🤣🤣nope, definitely not!

Have the first aid kit rules changed again?

Was told on inspection once not to have plasters in a first aid kit in case of allergies.

Gauze, tape etc go for it.

But no, if an emergency, kitchen roll and tape perfectly fine until sorted.

Grazes do need to dry out.

This...

Edibles are very popular with 14-15 year olds when they aren't keen on vodka.

Meh. At 14 I wouldn't expect parental involvement for a grazed knee. Or two.
I also doubt she was told she couldn't have the big plasters. Especially if they went off to rummage around and find a plaster. How did she know they even had big ones if 'it took them ages to find anything'? They're not likely to bring them to her and say "oh look, we have big ones but you can't have any" Likely she asked and they said no they don't have any. Bit of distraction perhaps from the real version of events leading to 'needing' plasters. I'd say she'd know you pretty well and knew that THAT would be what you obsessed over 🤷‍♀️

Can't say I've ever put a plaster on a grazed knee. Knees aren't exactly conducive to sticking plasters. Bit of a wash, a pat dry and off you go.

I'm with you! 100% absolute bonkers

Even if an adult guest had badly grazed and cut their knees then surely their host would have been wrong not to offer up appropriate plasters if they had them?!

Wow, at 14 I’d be embarrassed if my mum thought I needed someone else to sot out a scrape. Of course I’m a dinosaur 🦕 and we never saw the doctor for injuries unless it was turning green and falling of…

OP, may I suggest a little perspective on this?

Sort- that is

A graze is the most superficial of wounds. Clean it out for any grit and it will dry and scab over naturally. A plaster is just going to delay that process and possibly make it worse.

ToFindNewWays
Even if an adult guest had badly grazed and cut their knees then surely their host would have been wrong not to offer up appropriate plasters if they had them?!

Completely agree.

And the host did ask if DD was ok, DID offer plasters and DID give an antiseptic wipe! :) They just failed to hold DD on their lap, give her teddy and call an ambulance

No it doesn't as long as you still clean the wound appropriately to help prevent sepsis. Some prefer to use wipes for this others use different methods.

I'd just give an adult the first aid kit and let them sort themselves out.

The same as I'd do for a 14 year old. Why do they need adult help for a grazed knee?!

This poor Mum who had OPs 14 year old over for the night getting villified and being called a shit parent on a public forum....

I'd never go near your family again OP.

This is the weirdest, coldest and uncaring thread I've seen on here. My mum would have been set to maximum cluck if one of my friends had done that. Actually she'd probably still try to patch us up now at 35+.

As for the nutters accusing the 14 year old of drinking or taking edibles, sort yourselves out and let kids be kids. Not all kids are off their faces!

As for the "we don't have plasters" brigade. I literally don't believe you. My kids are always looking like I've battered them. If I left it for some of their scrapes to stop bleeding I'd be doing a fucktonne of laundry. Don't your kids climb trees, ride bikes/scooters, race, chase and have fun? They're either not very active or you let them wander round the place bleeding.

No, cos they're 14 and 25 so don't require plasters.