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To think that of your 12 year old makes dinner

278 replies

BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:00

The only correct response is "thank you"?

Dd made dinner for 5 tonight. Pork loin chops, corn cobs, broccoli, and roasted courgette and tomato in garlic.
DOD all the prep, timings and everything.
Dh was trying to be a spoony fucker, telling her she should do this and that, this was overcooking etc and she roundly said to stop "backseat cooking" and leave her to it.
The dog subsequently ate one of the chops while dd was in the loo and dh was in the kitchen.
Later, dd served up the chops but not the veg, but as she is having trouble with her tummy, popped to the loo again quickly. Dh commented that we were obviously having cold dinner tonight. I told him.tonshish, she has gone to a lot of effort for everyone and if his is too cold, pop it in the microwave.
Once dd was back and served up, she took one plate up to ds upstairs, put one plate aside for other ds whonwas ar work, and told DJ to come down and get his (he was upstairs by this point). Dh said, can you bring me mine like you did ds? Dd responded with no, you have been talking shit to me all night and I am not your slave.
Dh came down, looked at the dinner and said "wheres the rest of it?" meaning there wasnt enough and she had left off the tomatoes and chop. She explained that she had left the tomatoes off because she didn't think they were good enough. She had also taken the chop off his plate to replace the missing chop for (upstairs) ds as dh had been commenting in the cooking of it, so he was the one who could miss out. He then questioned why ds (the one working) got two pieces of garlic bread and he didnt. Dd explained that ds didnt have a chop (vegetarian) and had also not eaten lunch as we were out and had gone straight to work without eating so would be hungry. He complained he was the one that needed the most calories in the house.
Anyway, he needed up flopping the plate of dinner on to the couch and stating nah dont want it now and storming upstairs remarking he would just make his own.
Later he came down and went to take his plate off the couch to eat it, and found most of it gone as dd had fed it to the dog. He was then annoyed about that, even though he said he didnt want it!
Aibu to think he should have just 1)warmed int up if needed 2)just damn well said thank you and 3)if he was still hungry, make something else later and 4) not then stropped that dd fed his "unwanted" dinner to the dog!

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BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:01

Sorry for typos. Fat fingers on phone and annoyed! Dd is fine btw.

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GingerAndLemonn · 26/08/2022 22:02

He sounds like a prick

TrippinEdBalls · 26/08/2022 22:03

He sounds horrible but did she serve him corn on the cob and broccoli as his whole dinner?

Verbena1 · 26/08/2022 22:03

I am worried about your dog’s overconsumption of chops😂

CatherinedeBourgh · 26/08/2022 22:04

Your dh was a dick.

Then he'll complain that dd does nothing round the house, no doubt.

wonderstuff · 26/08/2022 22:04

He sounds absolutely awful, is he always such a twat?

SpeckofDustUponMySoul · 26/08/2022 22:04

Incredibly detailed account of food prepared by tween with stomach issues...

BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:04

TrippinEdBalls · 26/08/2022 22:03

He sounds horrible but did she serve him corn on the cob and broccoli as his whole dinner?

Sort of. Plus garlic bread. And roasted courgette. So very vegetarian, like older ds.

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Octomore · 26/08/2022 22:05

He sounds like a prick, and was definitely being unreasonable.

But I'm confused about why he didn't get a chop? Surely there was one chop for everyone?

Anothernosebleed · 26/08/2022 22:05

Well done to your DD for standing up to herself and not giving into his bullying.

MustardCress · 26/08/2022 22:05

He sounds horrible. He should fuck off and stop making other people’s lives a misery

MiddleParking · 26/08/2022 22:05

Your husband, your daughter and your dog all come off badly in this tale tbh. Actually so do both your sons a bit.

FrecklesMalone · 26/08/2022 22:05

What a dick

GingerAndLemonn · 26/08/2022 22:05

Octomore · 26/08/2022 22:05

He sounds like a prick, and was definitely being unreasonable.

But I'm confused about why he didn't get a chop? Surely there was one chop for everyone?

The dog ate one

daisymade · 26/08/2022 22:05

Your husband is a twat and a shitty father figure.
your dog shouldn’t be eating so much human food.

PeekAtYou · 26/08/2022 22:05

Appalling behaviour from your h. He's very lucky to have his dd cook dinner.

Sparklesocks · 26/08/2022 22:05

Oh bless her it sounds like she worked really hard on it, and your DH sounds like a right shit. She most likely won’t feel confident enough to cook for you again now.

mowly77 · 26/08/2022 22:05

I too hope she washed her hands a lot.

nevertheless that’s an amazing effort for a 12 year old and your DH is a twat.

CatherinedeBourgh · 26/08/2022 22:06

And in answer to your question, if anyone at all ever cooks you dinner, the only response is "thank you for dinner" regardless of who it is or their age!

BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:06

Verbena1 · 26/08/2022 22:03

I am worried about your dog’s overconsumption of chops😂

GrinGrin The dog does love a stolen chop!! In fact, he is a bit if a furry garbage bin and we have to be very careful not to put a plate within reach (hes a German shepherd so quite large and can reach the benches) and turn around it it's gone. Git.

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CanaryShoulderedThorn · 26/08/2022 22:06

Well done your 12 yr old. Couldn't you just eat around the table and share the food out then though? Would be a lot easier than taking dinner upstairs?

Navigatingnewwaters · 26/08/2022 22:06

I’d prefer it without the chop, well done her though, he acted like a dick.

BrutusMcDogface · 26/08/2022 22:08

Wow! Why was your son served his dinner upstairs? Is there something wrong with him that means he can’t come down and join the rest of the family?

also- your husband is a complete twat.

also- the way your daughter spoke to her father.

well done to her for cooking a dinner (my daughter is 12 and can cook pasta and sauce so far!)

Ragged · 26/08/2022 22:08

I'm proud of your DD, OP.

BadGranny · 26/08/2022 22:09

She’s a good kid for cooking a meal, and any decent father would have encouraged her while she was doing it, and thanked her afterwards, even if it was a bit iffy.