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To think that of your 12 year old makes dinner

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BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:00

The only correct response is "thank you"?

Dd made dinner for 5 tonight. Pork loin chops, corn cobs, broccoli, and roasted courgette and tomato in garlic.
DOD all the prep, timings and everything.
Dh was trying to be a spoony fucker, telling her she should do this and that, this was overcooking etc and she roundly said to stop "backseat cooking" and leave her to it.
The dog subsequently ate one of the chops while dd was in the loo and dh was in the kitchen.
Later, dd served up the chops but not the veg, but as she is having trouble with her tummy, popped to the loo again quickly. Dh commented that we were obviously having cold dinner tonight. I told him.tonshish, she has gone to a lot of effort for everyone and if his is too cold, pop it in the microwave.
Once dd was back and served up, she took one plate up to ds upstairs, put one plate aside for other ds whonwas ar work, and told DJ to come down and get his (he was upstairs by this point). Dh said, can you bring me mine like you did ds? Dd responded with no, you have been talking shit to me all night and I am not your slave.
Dh came down, looked at the dinner and said "wheres the rest of it?" meaning there wasnt enough and she had left off the tomatoes and chop. She explained that she had left the tomatoes off because she didn't think they were good enough. She had also taken the chop off his plate to replace the missing chop for (upstairs) ds as dh had been commenting in the cooking of it, so he was the one who could miss out. He then questioned why ds (the one working) got two pieces of garlic bread and he didnt. Dd explained that ds didnt have a chop (vegetarian) and had also not eaten lunch as we were out and had gone straight to work without eating so would be hungry. He complained he was the one that needed the most calories in the house.
Anyway, he needed up flopping the plate of dinner on to the couch and stating nah dont want it now and storming upstairs remarking he would just make his own.
Later he came down and went to take his plate off the couch to eat it, and found most of it gone as dd had fed it to the dog. He was then annoyed about that, even though he said he didnt want it!
Aibu to think he should have just 1)warmed int up if needed 2)just damn well said thank you and 3)if he was still hungry, make something else later and 4) not then stropped that dd fed his "unwanted" dinner to the dog!

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BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:09

The ds often cook dinner, so how do they come off badly?

And dd is scrupulously clean, so no concerns there, thanks. I only mentioned that for context of how annoying 1)Dh was saying it was cold and 2) explain the dog stealing the chop.

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Coughee · 26/08/2022 22:10

It all sounds completely miserable. The whole lot of it. Dad and daughter treating each other like shit, dog stealing food. Dinner on laps and in rooms.

ProbablyPossiblyPerhaps · 26/08/2022 22:10

Your husband sounds really juvenile and unpleasant - you're right that he should have thanked the person cooking and not constantly criticised and made snide comments.

The ds eating in his room and the acceptance of/ amusement about the dog eating what in the end amounted to a full human meal makes me feel that he's not the only unreasonable one though tbh.

shatitpleaseshanice · 26/08/2022 22:10

Even if it was a crap meal he still should have thanked her. It's a lot of effort for a 12 year old to go to. He sounds immature and ungrateful. Poor girl.

BrutusMcDogface · 26/08/2022 22:10

Oh and if she was desperate for the loo halfway through dishing up, one of her other family members should have continued dishing up instead of everyone just waiting. I was just thinking about what would have happened in my house if this was the case.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 26/08/2022 22:10

Your DH sounds annoying but tbh your DD sounds a bit of a pain too. All the wandering around with plates of food, cooking with a bad tummy, serving your DH about 40% of a meal (and no pork chop). He should have handled it better but I wouldn't put her in charge of the family main meal just yet.

xyzandabc · 26/08/2022 22:11

Your dd sounds awesome. Her insight and logic as to who got what on their plate and why was excellent. DH needs to shut up or do the cooking himself.

Blizzardbeach · 26/08/2022 22:11

I can think of something else that should go I'm your dog. Your husbands an absolute cunt.

HerRoyalNotness · 26/08/2022 22:11

I like the sound of your DD, she stood up for herself really well

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BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:11

For those asking, dd was aware ds was in the middle of something on the computer, so was being nice.

Dd and I were watching a movie together. Dh chooses to sit upstairs. Other ds was at work.

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JustLyra · 26/08/2022 22:12

So your DH stood and watched the dog take a pork chop and did fuck all?

He sounds like a charm

shatitpleaseshanice · 26/08/2022 22:12

Coughee · 26/08/2022 22:10

It all sounds completely miserable. The whole lot of it. Dad and daughter treating each other like shit, dog stealing food. Dinner on laps and in rooms.

Nah if my tween offered to cook for us I would celebrate it. Far from miserable. Possibly not well executed and the dad was a dick but you sound utterly snobby and rude.

Meals on laps isn't crime of the century. Some people don't have fancy dining rooms.

MiddleParking · 26/08/2022 22:12

BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:09

The ds often cook dinner, so how do they come off badly?

And dd is scrupulously clean, so no concerns there, thanks. I only mentioned that for context of how annoying 1)Dh was saying it was cold and 2) explain the dog stealing the chop.

The whole getting served meals in their rooms thing. It’s just rude and sounds pretty depressing.

Bonheurdupasse · 26/08/2022 22:13

Your DH sounds a bit of a that alright but just leaving one person (non vegetarian) without the chop is shitty.
If there wasn't enough for everyone who wanted one to have one, they should have been cut up and shared so that everyone got a bit.

Bonheurdupasse · 26/08/2022 22:14

*a bit of a twat

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 26/08/2022 22:15

God he's been a massive twat hasn't he. Does he cook much?

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BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:16

Re dd tummy. It's an ache, not the runs. She is 12, so probably related to that?

Re.not serving up for her, she is autistic so has a certain way things go on plates so we didnt want to disturb that and cause her upset.

And yes, I am proud of her cooking the meal, she did very well and it was delicious. She is quite skilled in the kitchen as has been helping in there from a young age. I didnt actually know she had fed dh meal to the dog!

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Hotandbothereds · 26/08/2022 22:16

Your DH is a twat, and since he was on kitchen duty when the dog pinched the chop it’s his own fault he didn’t get one - did he except someone else to go without for his mistake?

Is he always so lacking in support and appreciation when your kids are trying to learn something new?

Quincythequince · 26/08/2022 22:17

Your DH is a class A cunt.

toastofthetown · 26/08/2022 22:18

Honestly, no one comes off fantastically here. If there’s not enough food to go around, surely it’s split between the people rather than missing out our the person who pissed your off the most that day. As a vegetarian that veggie option sounds lacklustre to say the least. Your DH shouldn’t have been interfering. Your dog shouldn’t have eaten someone’s dinner. Your daughter shouldn’t have given her dad’s dinner to the dog. Why isn’t everyone eating at the table rather than at a screen.

riotlady · 26/08/2022 22:20

Is he normally like this? It must really grind everyone down if he’s so stroppy and critical all the time

OlderParents · 26/08/2022 22:20

I am in awe of your DD for standing up so reasonably to her father, repeatedly. Perhaps she has had a lot of practice.

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BlackShoes · 26/08/2022 22:22

toastofthetown · 26/08/2022 22:18

Honestly, no one comes off fantastically here. If there’s not enough food to go around, surely it’s split between the people rather than missing out our the person who pissed your off the most that day. As a vegetarian that veggie option sounds lacklustre to say the least. Your DH shouldn’t have been interfering. Your dog shouldn’t have eaten someone’s dinner. Your daughter shouldn’t have given her dad’s dinner to the dog. Why isn’t everyone eating at the table rather than at a screen.

There was loads of veg. Vegetarian ds thought it was great and thanked dd for cooking. Sorry a 12 year old produced a meal for the family that was "lack lustre" shes twelve, not a Michelin chef!
Yes the dog shouldn't have stolen a chop, but he was with dh at the time!
I have already explained ds was in the middle of something upstairs, so dd was being nice taking him dinner. Other ds was at work. Dd and I were watching a movie together. Dh chooses to sit upstairs!

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HaveringWavering · 26/08/2022 22:22

Maybe you’d all learn to be nicer to each other if you actually sat round the table and ate together?

yousolucky · 26/08/2022 22:23

Coughee · 26/08/2022 22:10

It all sounds completely miserable. The whole lot of it. Dad and daughter treating each other like shit, dog stealing food. Dinner on laps and in rooms.

This 🙁

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