To think this is unnecessary and a bit braggy?

[ThingInTheAttic]

Mum in my son's year whom I'm Facebook friends with has posted a gushing congratulations message to her DS on his GCSE results, details of said results and how proud she is of him etc etc.
The DS lives in the same house. She can literally just speak to him and tell him how proud she is, as I've done with mine. I can't therefore see any reason for posting to him on Facebook, other than it's a stealth brag.
I get that some people have hoards of RL friends/relatives all over the world etc and FB is a then a good way to let them all know family news, but she isn't in that situation.
She does tend to do this for every single thing the DS does well, and
I fully accept I may just be old and out of touch with how people use FB as I'm not one to splash every bit of my life all over it. I just don't get why she address congratulations to the DS? Just tell him to his face

Eeeh some miserable sods on mumsnet!

I think it's lovely to see people being proud of their kids and posting on fb!

Much nicer than the absolute attention seekers posting from hospital or how I'll they are with yet another migraine... !

Why would I go to the trouble of DMing them when more than one person wanted to see them?

I don't even know ho asked to see them now because the thread moved fast, and this shitty app doesn't even let me reply to individual people.
But as I said, it's AIBU so I knew I'd be told I'm bragging

I posted today, because my DC has done amazingly well for them. All passes. (Not 7-9s like many but to see the passes for English and maths - I cried!) It is an incredible achievement and I am very proud. I see many of my friends but not all on facebook and really wanted them to know. Most know of the difficult journey and have been routing for us. The messages are warm and thoughtful. My DC is so pleased that people who have known them or of them for their whole life wish them well.

Yet your son gave you permission to post it on a site viewed by millions each month?

I think you're itching for everyone to know your son's results and frustrated you don't have the balls (or permission) to celebrate his successes like this woman has.

You've started this weird humble brag thread which is cringe-worthy.

It's not even about her posting , FFS.

Bit it is though. You said

"The DS lives in the same house. She can literally just speak to him and tell him how proud she is, as I've done with mine. I can't therefore see any reason for posting to him on Facebook, other than it's a stealth brag.
I get that some people have hoards of RL friends/relatives all over the world etc and FB is a then a good way to let them all know family news, but she isn't in that situation."

You're backtracking now because you've realise how awful this post is.

Why are you on social media, scrolling through photos/ updates from other people if you don't like reading others news? It makes no sense!

I personally love seeing proud parent posts on results day.

That’s absolutely brilliant!!! Really happy for your son and my faith in humanity is restored.

My kids did really well, A stars and As and Bs and I know they could have done better if they’d put more effort in but they like socialising too much and they’re a bit like me - do enough to get decent results and that’s it. The friends whose kids have performed really highly have put a lot of effort and they deserve it.

"Yet your son gave you permission to post it on a site viewed by millions each month?

I think you're itching for everyone to know your son's results and frustrated you don't have the balls (or permission) to celebrate his successes like this woman has"

Er, yes, because it doesn't identify him and im not personally congratulating him in a public forum front of everyone, so it's absolutely not the same as what I was talking about
The rest of what you said is just standard AIBU.

Op YANBU.

My newsfeed is awash with these posts, doesn’t bother me at all, let them have their moment in the sun.
I’ve read and congratulated quite a few of them today.
the nicest one was of my great nephew, he’s 19 and autistic, very bright but exams are a struggle…he’s got a place at university.

I have to laugh, all those years ago in reception, it was the mums who were moaning then about the other mums and their FBragging who are all over my feed today…

im saying nowt online. I hugged him at the first result he told me. He laughed and said “if you’re pleased with that, just wait..” sure that grade wasn’t stellar, but it was a good pass… there were a couple even better and that’s even better. I’m just pleased he has enough to go on to do the next step.

i didn’t get the o levels I needed, I had to do an access course so good for him!

Absolutely this. DS received his A Level results last week and they were lower than he'd hoped. He really battled his way through college, just lost his way. His best friends mum knew this, yet still did a braggy/digging text to ask how he did, and how amazing her DS did. I'm pleased for him, he deserved to do well, but she knew how DS had done (he would have told his mate) so it wasn't really necessary.

I'm sorry I don't know how to reply to individual posts or quote people properly on this iPhone app, but wanted to say thank you to those who who congratulated my son, and also thanks to the person who apologised for not believing me.
Thank you all.

Agreed!

Thinking about it, does her son even have a Facebook account to read the message she wrote ‘for him’? Lots of teens don’t have Facebook so he’ll miss his very personal message from his mum that was clearly not for him to read. 😂

No way would I have wanted my exam results posted to millions of people on AIBU, even with the name redacted.

What a strange attitude your family has, despising someone sharing happiness with friends but craving online approval from randoms.

The rest of what you said in standard stealth bragging.

Are you friends with my mother by any chance 😂 this is part of the reason I deleted it 🙄

Odd thread

Annoyed at FB person, whom you can easily unfollow if you want, to then put own family results up here

I agree with you op. I have two friends who are absolutely lovely, kind generous people irl. But the stuff they post on FB has me cringing down to my toes. It's all gushing birthday wishes to their spouses and grown children who they spend time with every day. The worst is the happy heavenly birthday wishes for people who've been gone twenty years. Why? Who is it for?

I think it’s nice to hear about achievements. Maybe not every day, like some fb posters, but the big things like exams.

For those who said people shouldn’t do this as it’s insensitive to those who didn’t do well - are people supposed to say nothing of their successes in life just to protect the feelings of those who haven’t attained to the same level? How bloody absurd and ridiculous.

Point of FB us to brag and gloat about your white company lifestyle of affluence and glossy children whilst making sure everyone see how slim, rich,happy and holidayed you all are
#Blessed #FamilyIsEverything #makingmemories

hence I’m not on FB

I just don't get why she address congratulations to the DS? Just tell him to his face

You're being disengenuious here to say the least.

Of course you get it, you just don't like it and that's something else entirely.

She's proud of him and she wants people to know it. I doubt she thought about you and your annoyance for a second, because why would she?

I don’t have Facebook, but when we had a pet bereavement, someone we know posted that our dog had died, claiming some sort of right to seek sympathy through association. They got the spelling of our dogs name wrong in their rush for ‘likes’ and sympathy. They put on photos and people were saying ‘sorry for your loss’ to them. They were lapping it up. It was horrible. Our dog died very young after a short illness, we were genuinely dealing with grief, managing our children’s feelings and there they were in their element getting attention. Facebook can be a very toxic place where people lose all sense of normal boundaries.

You sound well jel.

Let her share her joy and be a proud mum!

I do agree with you op! I think it's fine to post saying you are proud of DCs exam results, well done too him. It's when it's written in a braggy tone! Plus your right, addressing it to the DC ( when he isn't in Facebook is just odd!
The people on here that are saying it's fine/ and nice are the people that probably do it themselves! 😆
I do hate Facebook!