To think this is unnecessary and a bit braggy?

[ThingInTheAttic]

Mum in my son's year whom I'm Facebook friends with has posted a gushing congratulations message to her DS on his GCSE results, details of said results and how proud she is of him etc etc.
The DS lives in the same house. She can literally just speak to him and tell him how proud she is, as I've done with mine. I can't therefore see any reason for posting to him on Facebook, other than it's a stealth brag.
I get that some people have hoards of RL friends/relatives all over the world etc and FB is a then a good way to let them all know family news, but she isn't in that situation.
She does tend to do this for every single thing the DS does well, and
I fully accept I may just be old and out of touch with how people use FB as I'm not one to splash every bit of my life all over it. I just don't get why she address congratulations to the DS? Just tell him to his face

Its cringe but this is how people use FB. Of one's children I can usually excuse but some people use it to straight up boast about themselves. I actually thanked my mother the other day for bringing me up to remember that 'self-praise is no recommendation'.

Haha she wishes.

That's not what I said. I said YOU ought to apologise because i think it's pretty low behaviour to accuse someone of lying about their child's results when you don't know me at all. I know AIBU contains some really shitty people though, so I shouldn't be surprised.

AIBU does indeed contain some shitty people.

For example, people who make sour posts about their so-called friends being pleased for their children. Some other people might think this is particular is pretty shitty.

Someone said I should post the results without the info that identifies him. Happy to do this, but I'm pretty sure you'll just say it's someone else's results

No, I believe it. And I think the issue here is that she'd like to post about it for obvious reasons (despite all the posters declaring themselves incapable of understanding them), but has it in her head that a superior human wouldn't. She's therefore pissed off that someone else doesn't give a fuck and is going to post about her son's results, as a proud mother, without even having the decency to feel shit about it.

It's jealousy, but of something else.

This...absolutely scroll by if it annoys you !

My old mum used to say ‘would she be popping that on a postcard in the VG shop? if not then nobody cares except the people sitting in her lounge’

So much negativity about FB on here - if you don't like what people post, hide them or unfriend them!

I only have close friends on my social media and I love seeing their/their childrens' achievements. I think it's lovely when people are so proud of their kids and what they've achieved.

You obviously don’t like this person if you can’t be happy for her sharing good news so why are you her friend on Facebook? Are you saying you only want to hear the bad news about her? Is that why you’re friends with her on Facebook? I agree with PP who suggested the OP is jealous of this ‘friend’

@ThingInTheAttic I think it’s much lower to post mean, judgmental threads on the internet about your ‘friends’ in the hope others will criticise them too than it is to disbelieve someone I have never met and has no proof.

I don’t really care what GSCE’s your son got, but just let your friend be proud and happy without slagging her off online.

Jeez, How many times? Can't you read?
It's not about her being proud. It's not even about her posting , FFS. It's literally just that I think it's weird to address a post to someone who you literally live with and can congratulate in person.
It's not even that important, yet in true AIBU style half the people choose to miss the point and call me mean spirited, jealous oh, and a liar when I mention my own son's results to show there's nothing to be jealous of.
And even that's wrong because by saying he got good results, apparently I'm bragging because I secretly want to brag, so this is the only way I can do it.
Have you actually listened to yourselves? Really?

Look who's talking about shitty.
You are shitty for even starting this thread!
A mum can brag all she wants about her child who's done excellent in his GCSE.
If you don't like it then scroll along you Negative Nancy.

What do you think Facebook is for if not an easy platform to share to multiple people things you want them to know? YABU

People always say ‘scroll past’ - but you do need to read and look at things first to know if they’re of interest. And once you’ve read it and it turns out to be pointless or braggy shit, too late. But to be fair, if this happens regularly with the same poster I do unfollow.
Someone on my FB posted a picture of her child’s half eaten dinner yesterday - literally just a photo of the dinner plate, her child was not even in the picture - and wrote something along the lines of ‘she ate all her chicken nuggets but didn’t like the mash today’. WTF? How can you think that would be of possible interest to anyone? Unfollow. People really have lost the plot when it comes to posting about their kids 😂 Give me a brag post about GCSEs over that kind of tedious, pointless crap any day.

Yeah, I feel the same about the wedding ones. So insensitive to those going through a divorce. Or the holiday ones, what about those who can't pay their bills, how must they feel?

Facebook should be misery only.

😂😂😂Shall it be renamed Misery-book?

tell her face to face then as you expect her to tell her son face to face. You do the same.

OP don't post the picture if you're on of those people who thinks a distinction in BTEC sport is 4 A*'s

I agree. I personally never would as I can’t help thinking there would be people who saw it and it made them feel shit about their own grades or kids grades.

My dd got her results today, she did very well, I didn’t feel the need to rub everyone’s faces in it tbh

To pretend it's actually to her son is silly. To have a brag is OK.

I have a super-bright DD who has been seriously ill for months. She did so well that I knew that posting anything would just be seen as blatant brag-fest. Then her school posted her results on their own bragging page and one of my friends tagged me. So now everyone knows anyway! I was trying not to be insensitive, and I know full well that a 4 for some kids is just as big an achievement as my DD's results. However, by trying not to hurt other people's feelings, I've played down her ability (publicly at least) for years. And that's not right.

And even that's wrong because by saying he got good results, apparently I'm bragging because I secretly want to brag, so this is the only way I can do it.Have you actually listened to yourselves? Really?

Yes. I'm fine with what I hear.

Although I didn't suggest you started this thread to brag here, I suggested you started it because you want to brag on Facebook but think it's beneath you. So you're annoyed that another woman doesn't give a fuck and doesn't accept your view of what's superior.

Yes, I can read.

And I think the question here is have YOU listened to yourself?

Each post sounds increasingly bitter and pissy, and you've had the audacity to call another poster shitty for suggesting you might have manufactured your child's results to make your point. My point was that making a thread to complain about a friend is far shittier. Sorry that's too difficult for you to comprehend.

And again, just to underline the point, I never, ever do proud posts on FB about my DC as I'd have fuck all to boast about. Both my DC have high needs and struggle with navigating even the basics of life. But still, I just can't begin to imagine posting in a negative way about a friend who's sharing something positive. But there you go.

Clearly they also congratulate them in person. I'm assuming you're not so dim that you think they ONLY congratulate them on FB....! I wish my friends happy birthday on FB even though I might be seeing them later for dinner etc. It's the same principle and it's really, truly not difficult to understand even if it's not something you particularly like. But you know this. It's just a way of being snarky about a friend.

I was going to reply to the OP again, but that would be ridiculous, as I could just send her a private message instead. After all, a public post addressed to someone isn't acceptable!

I've changed my mind now I've understood the thing that really irritates you! 😂I don't think it's unreasonable to publicly congratulate someone even though you could just do it privately. It happens all the time & not just on FB.