To think this is unnecessary and a bit braggy?

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Mum in my son's year whom I'm Facebook friends with has posted a gushing congratulations message to her DS on his GCSE results, details of said results and how proud she is of him etc etc.
The DS lives in the same house. She can literally just speak to him and tell him how proud she is, as I've done with mine. I can't therefore see any reason for posting to him on Facebook, other than it's a stealth brag.
I get that some people have hoards of RL friends/relatives all over the world etc and FB is a then a good way to let them all know family news, but she isn't in that situation.
She does tend to do this for every single thing the DS does well, and
I fully accept I may just be old and out of touch with how people use FB as I'm not one to splash every bit of my life all over it. I just don't get why she address congratulations to the DS? Just tell him to his face

YANBU
It’s so cringe!!

By all means post how proud you are but posting the results on social media is just so desperate!

We have to remember though that these are the sort of people who don’t have much going on in their lives or support in RL.
So they need to get attention from the internet.

It’s embarrassing to read but I do feel a bit sorry for them.

We have to remember though that these are the sort of people who don’t have much going on in their lives or support in RL.

You don't know anything about them.

Some people document their entire lives on Facebook.

There was a few people like this but some were hilarious as their lives were filled with so much drama, it was honestly like a Jeremy Kyle show.

One women would post about how Dave the bf has got a small Willy and can’t get it up for her but has no problem getting up for that slut Tracy - and then a few days later her and Dave are posting how in love they are and fuck the haters etc and then a couple weeks later he’s shagged someone else or stole from her and it’s a constant cycle.

I do miss it sometimes but I couldn’t deal with the attention seeking so I came off it.

Which would be better, offering encouragement to do better, or everyone does not celebrate any good results ?

I find this thread quite sad actually, As I said upthread I did post on FB to congratulate my DS, I asked his permission beforehand before anyone jumps at me.

I am EXTREMELY proud with his results, I am not close to my mother (i did actually message her but she hasnt replied) My ds's Dad is a heroin addict who has not bothered to even call to see if his kids are ok for the last 2 years so he doesnt give a fuck, neither does his family. I live 100s miles from all my extended family and the people on my facebook I know actually DO give a fuck. He has been congratulated by many and im bloody pleased, he deserves it!

At his age I was pregnant and living on the streets, I never even sat my exams! damn right im proud and no I wont not post how proud I am because there are some bitter people in this world.

If you all have 'friends' on SM that you are just there to slag off behind their back then please do those 'friends' a favour and delete them.

I've been loving seeing happy results in fb. They're varying from the 10 x 8s and 9s down to the child who really struggled but managed the 4 in English and Maths.
Parents are proud and people are congratulating the posts.
Not all parents choose to do it. Personally I don't tend to.

However there are a couple on my newsreels who normally do gushy "so proud" posts who have been quiet, so I'm not sure if they're disappointed of child has said not to put it on. Means I won't ask them when I see them in case, which, if it's the latter then I suspect there could be fall out of "nobody's interested, everyone's mean" which is awkward.

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Is it not worse for you to post here to get congratulations on your son's behalf than to post on fb for your actual friends to offer their congratulations?

It’s weird when they address people. Like even weirder when that person is dead and it’s like a letter to them.

like people gon be using Facebook in heaven!

The ‘happy heavenly birthday’ ones. What’s that about?

It's about grief.

So people are not allowed to show grief now either?

This place becomes more bizzare every day.

Maybe if others saw each other doing well, it may inspire then to do well or improve themselves too.?

I completely agree with this! I've loved seeing all the proud posts & so pleased for my friends children.

I know someone who writes like this on Facebook, as though she is addressing the person directly. She does it as she writes in a diary style and adds pictures and treats it as a diary and will periodically print pages off and keep them as a record of all things they've done or achieved as a family or individuals.

Her social media, her choice.

Why don't you just hide her posts? I'm sure she's told her son to his face as well as putting it on there. Maybe ask her why she's done it as no one here will know. How do you use your Facebook?

Wow!
I haven't put this on FB but my eldest got 3 x A* at A level last week (Oxbridge candidate).
Next child, GCSE results today - 8 x grade 9's, 3x grade 8's.

Proud as punch - especially considering we're dealing with neuro diversity and every challenge that that brings.

My view:
If I want to stick it all over social media that's up to me, If you're not pleased for my kids and their effort, with every challenge they've had then I guess you'd better unfriend me. If you're uncomfortable with my kids doing well it says more about you and I probably don't need you in their lives.

I've celebrated their friends and my friends kids who didn't do as well - (without these families knowing my kids results) - why? Because I love these kids and am equally as proud of them.

Take your negativity elsewhere.

Do you think the deceased relative is reading Facebook in heaven? Maybe they’ll even comment with an emoji from heaven?

So OP what kind of posts are acceptable on FB? I genuinely think that most posts on FB are sharing fun stuff,whether it’s exam results,sports competitions,birthdays,lovely holidays,cute pets etc ….all these posts can be considered Braggy but it’s people just sharing positive stuff about their lives !!! And yes that person ie my daughter could be in the same house but it still interests other people !!
Has got to be better than PA arguements that are really sad and depressing!!

So no one should announce any good news ever in case someone less fortunate sees it? Even if it’s as the direct result of their own hard work?

Nah.

That’s from the same school of thought that is plaguing threads at the moment, whereby some seem to think you’re not allowed to main about anything because you should be grateful you have a house/husband/MIL/cunt of a boss, as some people are homeless/widowed/without MILs/can’t find a job blah blah blah - cost of living crisis - yady yady yada.

All those things are shit, but they shouldn’t be used to silence those who aren’t in that situation.

There's nothing better than waking up and seeing your 'memories' on FB. I post all my days out, proud moments, disasters - more for myself than anyone else. If people don't want to read/react - fine, I'm not offended. It's my life story.

A good phrase to keep in mind is 'Comparison is the thief of joy'.

They all do and they closely monitor their parents accounts because as soon as the parent posts an unflattering (to them) picture they immediately message their parent to take it down.

But the other posts, they keep quiet about and secretly love it. Their confidence is so fragile right now that seeing their parents publicly declare how proud they are of their efforts and achievements really helps.

The worst is the happy heavenly birthday wishes for people who've been gone twenty years. Why? Who is it for?

These really irritate me too. I feel like I'm being mean for being annoyed by them though and try to tell myself that it's bringing them comfort in some way.

Some people do just do it for attention tho. MIL's dead DP was a violent abusive alcoholic and she was glad when he died. She only got back together with him in the end for the carer's allowance. Yet on FB it's "happy heavenly birthday darling I miss you every day xxx". Yeah you miss the money more like.