To think this is unnecessary and a bit braggy?

[ThingInTheAttic]

Mum in my son's year whom I'm Facebook friends with has posted a gushing congratulations message to her DS on his GCSE results, details of said results and how proud she is of him etc etc.
The DS lives in the same house. She can literally just speak to him and tell him how proud she is, as I've done with mine. I can't therefore see any reason for posting to him on Facebook, other than it's a stealth brag.
I get that some people have hoards of RL friends/relatives all over the world etc and FB is a then a good way to let them all know family news, but she isn't in that situation.
She does tend to do this for every single thing the DS does well, and
I fully accept I may just be old and out of touch with how people use FB as I'm not one to splash every bit of my life all over it. I just don't get why she address congratulations to the DS? Just tell him to his face

People always say ‘scroll past’ - but you do need to read and look at things first to know if they’re of interest. And once you’ve read it and it turns out to be pointless or braggy shit, too late.

These are hard times, to be sure.

But once you scroll, how long does it take you to forget it?

😂😂😂

People always say ‘scroll past’ - but you do need to read and look at things first to know if they’re of interest. And once you’ve read it and it turns out to be pointless or braggy shit, too late. But to be fair, if this happens regularly with the same poster I do unfollow.

Yes, it must be very difficult to just...keep scrolling and forget about it. Sympathies

I do no get why anyone has any interest is itsallaboutme book at all
dont even bother to look at it

Hate all this on exam results day, i always think of those that haven't done well and are breaking their hearts over it.
I did really badly in my exams in school and on results day sat bawling on the front steps. So many teachers came over to tell me it wasn’t everything while my best friend who got nearly the highest in the school sat agreeing with them. I’ve thought about how amazing she was so much over the years. People deserve to have their achievements celebrated, yes you can say it doesn’t matter to the person who did badly, and it really doesn’t, there’s ways around most obstacles, but the person who got what they wanted deserves recognition!

I like it because I get to see all my friends and their family's achievements...

It’s fb - that’s what social media is - just scroll on by like I do when I see the following…….

Poster ‘Just strolling through Oxford so glad that Billy will be studying here from September- so proud #makingmemories’

Reply - oh gosh Julie did he get into Oxbridge?

Poster ’I’ll PM you hun’

real story - DC got into Oxford Brookes (nothing wrong with that at all so just stop lying / bragging!)

I have to stop myself using the eye roll emoji.

My feed is mostly funny memes and pictures of cats, dogs and babies. What's not to like?

I am still with the non posting brigade….

There we go.
I had my son's permission.
No doubt I'll be accused of
1: bragging because I posted them- even though I've been asked to, and because I've been called a liar when I mentioned his results to show I wasn't jealous.
2: Using someone else's results.
3: something equally batshit because this is AIBU after all.

It is a bit weird to me OP, I get what you’re saying. There’s a difference between saying ‘so proud of my lovely son today, he’s done so well and worked hard’ than ‘dear son, you are so lovely and I’m proud of you for working so hard’. They’re both telling others but in the second one you’re pretending to address your son, when everyone knows you’re not really because he’s most likely next to you on the sofa. 😂

I know one couple that gush about each other on birthdays and anniversaries on Facebook but have a shit relationship in real life and don’t wish each other happy birthday or happy anniversary face to face. 😂 I do find it a bit funny.

I feel like I've been having to keep my mouth shut about DD since she started school and people started being nasty about her ability. I wasn't going to say anything on FB today, but the school got in there first. My friends know I have empathy for others and will be feeling for anyone who's less than happy. On balance, I don't think I should have to stay quiet about DD yet AGAIN when all of my friends are celebrating with their kids. So I did share in the end.

Fair enough. I apologise for not believing you. That's pretty damn impressive.

Before anyone comes along to say there's only 8 marks there not ten, the double science counts as 2 and there's a maths numeracy GCSE which isn't on there because he sat that months ago and got the results months ago.
Thanks again to the many posters who actually RTFT properly, understood my point and didn't stoop to nastiness.

Why do you think it's impossible to understand you and still disagree with you?

I'm interested that you care so much about what we think that you've taken the trouble to post proof of your son's results... but you can't understand why someone would post a happy message on a semi-private forum for people she knows and who opted to see her content.

You should have started a congratulatory thread for your son instead. We would have all joined in and celebrate with you and your son but instead you chose to be a bitter bug.

OP, I had absolutely zero interest in your son's results. And I fundamentally disagree with you about FB posts.

But all of that aside, congrats on your son's results. The format is SO different from when I took my GCSEs - A* weren't even a thing back then! But it looks as if your son studied some really interesting subjects, fantastic foundation for whatever he chooses to go on and do in the future. I'm actually quite envious - I would have loved to have studied some of those when I was at school!

Genuinely - and I'm not being sarcastic, and I know this isn't why you shared the screenshot - you must feel really proud of his achievements. What a wonderful start for him.

And now I'm wondering how that conversation went. "Darling, some women on Mumsnet don't believe you got top marks. May I share your results?"

"Sure Mum, I'm 16 and you know how much I care about what the women on Mumsnet think!"

I don't give a shit about your son's results OP.
IDK why you went through the trouble of posting them.

YES!

I don't mind a child brag. As the parent of a child who suffered with serious issues relating to low self esteem last year, giving a public pat on the back isn't a bad thing, if that's what you are into. I didn't publish my dc's result BTW, I phoned grandparents. The dc already knows how incredibly proud I am of their results.

"I don't give a shit about your son's results OP.
IDK why you went through the trouble of posting them"

Because someone said they wanted to see them.
It was no trouble.

but you can't understand why someone would post a happy message on a semi-private forum for people she knows and who opted to see her content.

She can understand doing that, doing it ‘for people she knows’....it’s the person addressing the post to her son that she doesn’t understand when she can just tell him to his face. If she wants to tell others on Facebook then do that without doing it as though she’s writing the message to her son. 🤣

You could have just dm’d them. No need to post to 12 million people. Stealth brag much?

It feels lovely when people congratulate you on good results. It feels even better when it’s your children. Even more so when it has taken a superhuman effort to get them. Why not spread the good news?