To think this is unnecessary and a bit braggy?

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Mum in my son's year whom I'm Facebook friends with has posted a gushing congratulations message to her DS on his GCSE results, details of said results and how proud she is of him etc etc.
The DS lives in the same house. She can literally just speak to him and tell him how proud she is, as I've done with mine. I can't therefore see any reason for posting to him on Facebook, other than it's a stealth brag.
I get that some people have hoards of RL friends/relatives all over the world etc and FB is a then a good way to let them all know family news, but she isn't in that situation.
She does tend to do this for every single thing the DS does well, and
I fully accept I may just be old and out of touch with how people use FB as I'm not one to splash every bit of my life all over it. I just don't get why she address congratulations to the DS? Just tell him to his face

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If she wants to tell the world yeah fine, but she addresses it to him, not like a 'hi all, Billy had some great news today he got ten A stars and I'm so proud of him'. To me that doesn't sound braggy at all. But addressing it TO HIM does, for some bizarre reason.

Well, if it's literally just 'addressing it TO HIM' that you think is boastful, and not the fact that she's sharing the news in general, then I don't really see your problem. Would you think it was weird if she'd got him a card? That would also be addressed 'TO HIM' so I'm not sure it makes a difference really.

What she's doing seems, to me, to be the social media version of sharing the good news with family and friends (which you have no objection to) and giving a card to her son.

I am amazed that anyone's teenage DC tolerate be used as social media fodder by their DPs. I respect their privacy and expect them to do the same.

You do know it's a choice to be friends with someone on facebook? No one is holding a gun to your head.

YABVU.

It's pathetic. It's the students that do the work, the results are theirs any parents posting them need a bloody stern word about boundaries.

Sorry I can't reply to individuals cos for some reason the mumsnet chat app won't let me quote peoples names or posts- but no, I don't find it 'common'. I just find it weird to address congrats to someone online when they're literally right there with you.
No, I wouldn't feel the same about a card because a card is given to the son, it's a private thing for him.

I bet she ll be the parent posting a picture of him in his new 6th form suit too, some waffle about how she knows he's going to do great things. How it wasn't 5 mins since he was starting school (picture of him starting primary etc).

Not going to lie- am jealous that I can’t brag, but sadly my DC results were awful… it is nice to see other peoples’ kids doing well, just sad for mine to not be able to have that feeling too. ( and yes, I am still very proud, but not of the results!).

Best to avoid social media on results day. I do. Kids have got enough on their plates without worrying whether their results will be Facebook brag worthy for their parents. It's cringeworthy.

They are allowed to brag about this. Their kids have worked hard and overcome so much due to covid. Scroll past if it bothers you

It's results day. Let her be proud.

I did post on fb about my dcs results, didnt say what he got just that he passed them all. Although a lot of other parents had already posted I waited till he was home and asked his permission first which he granted.

Why is a mum congratulating her son on his achievement on FB something you're annoyed about? You need a life OP.

And that's coming from me who don't even post on FB, I just scroll past and occasionally roll my eyes, you should try the same.

My friend's son did really badly at GCSEs a few years ago and at the time she put on a post about how results day isn't a happy time for some young people, that's its stressful, and that they face disappointment rather than celebration - it's one thing to think you've done badly and quite another to see it there in black and white. She went on to say that there is no one way to define success and a million different ways to be successful. I'm mangling it but it was really lovely.

Her DC took some time to reset and consider their options, took on an apprenticeship in a field that suited their interests and skills, and is now doing really well in a paying job with a bright future ahead of him.

I hope your DC finds their path too

Yes, this is my feeling. I try not to post too much that is personal. If I want to let particular people know about achievements then I'll message them/tell them in person.

This lot have had such a shit time, they deserve all the brags and congratulations on and offline.

I have congratulated and liked on these posts but only told people my DD's results in private where they have asked. She is a highly academic kid and although I am obviously proud am also conscious of others who may have put in a massive effort but are not academic.
That was fine until I just found out she's in the local papers blog as the school sent their high achievers to be interviewed by the reporter who was at the school.
I figure the people who care will ask, anything else is empty

This is my DD today . She should’ve been getting her GCSE results today, but didn’t, because she didn’t do them due to severe mental health difficulties. She feels like a failure, and is trying to put a brave face on and be happy for her friends, but behind closed doors she is devastated and so am I. I’m happy for all those that did well and don’t begrudge them celebrating their success at all, but I’ll be avoiding Facebook today for sure.

#thisone? As opposed to #thatone? It's worse when it's "this one though". Though what?

My friends dad used to post these kinds of gushy statuses. Anything and everything was a huge post about how much he loved his kids / grandkids, how he was so proud of x for doing y etc. Friend didn’t really use social media but when he died she really took comfort from his posts on Facebook, scrolling back through his feed was the warm hug she needed from him.

Perhaps just fucking scroll on by? Or block her if she’s that annoying. Why are you so bothered that affects you in NO WAY?

So sorry to hear that Mummy. I've suffered myself, but not when I was at school, that was many years ago. It's grim ,and I really feel for your daughter. I hope that there are better times ahead for her x

I wish your DD all the best. Everyone is good at something and she will find her place. There are more opportunities now than ever to learn outside of the typical school exam timescales It's just going too take a little longer. You can't focus on everything at once and for now her mental health must come first and improvements in that celebrated more than any one being able to recite a bunch of facts on a given day xx

Ugh, this is why I hate SM with a passion! Full, full, full of people celebrating this, doing that, buying this... I.e. spending money they can't afford and racking up huge debts for the sake of a SM post 😒 yawn.
I was listening to a podcast with Prof. Brian Cox yesterday who explained the 2nd law of thermodynamics, which roughly translates that things can only get worse. Perhaps I am the definition of misery (I don't care) but it brought me lots of comfort 😁
Anyway, like a lot of MN threads on here... people refuse to accept that they are only the main character in their own life and can't understand why other people wouldn't possibly be interested.

Catch and release....

1: Not bothered. Not annoyedI've repeatedy said that.
2: No need to swear at me.
3: Why are you so angry that it 'bothers' me? You could also scroll on by, yet you didn't.

No more photo at the front door