To think this is unnecessary and a bit braggy?

[ThingInTheAttic]

Mum in my son's year whom I'm Facebook friends with has posted a gushing congratulations message to her DS on his GCSE results, details of said results and how proud she is of him etc etc.
The DS lives in the same house. She can literally just speak to him and tell him how proud she is, as I've done with mine. I can't therefore see any reason for posting to him on Facebook, other than it's a stealth brag.
I get that some people have hoards of RL friends/relatives all over the world etc and FB is a then a good way to let them all know family news, but she isn't in that situation.
She does tend to do this for every single thing the DS does well, and
I fully accept I may just be old and out of touch with how people use FB as I'm not one to splash every bit of my life all over it. I just don't get why she address congratulations to the DS? Just tell him to his face

Did your son not do well? I don't see the harm in sharing how proud you are. Some people like to share achievements, what else is facebook for? It's to share photos, snippets of your life with people who follow you. I still have fb and share stuff from time to time, maybe it looks like I'm bragging posting a pic on hol or one of my kids achievements, if people bug you you can delete them. I deleted people who kept trying to share their pages selling things or people who constantly share those "share if you hate cancer" and such nonsense. You can just delete it completely if it bugs you that much. I like fb as I have friends and relatives all over the world, generally I like seeing what people are up to, their travels and even their children's achievements shock horror!

I have friends that do this too and it does irritate me a bit - it’s like the ones that post 60 holiday photos . The friend I’m thinking of is the same in real life and it irritates me then too. I think it just illustrates that we are fundamentally different characters and I let it wash over me because I know she’s genuinely lovely and would help me if I needed her and we have a lot of shared history . It’s just that she needs to put on a show of her perfect life .. I need to tell it how it is as a release valve - we just have different strategies

I hate Facebook and I think I’d feel the same as you but also that what it is there for. Lots of bragging. Perhaps we should just leave Facebook if we don’t like it. I am directing that at myself too. I get so wound up by it.

Doesn’t bother me. Sometimes you’re THAT proud you sure do want to shout it from the rooftops!!!

My sister put a status up about my niece today after getting her results and failing every single one (she has SEN and other barriers) but it doesn’t stop parents being proud at the effort etc.

On the stylistic point: "Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?" "No, Bill, this is for publication, you can't use the second person!"

On the substantive point: I think that when I post proud/happy posts about my DC, part of it is exorcising some childhood ghosts. Can't recall my parents ever showing much pride in my achievements, and certainly not to anyone else. I do vividly recall the many times when my mum told me to stop going on about things I was proud of myself. Don't want my kids to get any of that vibe at all!

I enjoy seeing the proud parents posts to be honest. I always get a bit teary seeing kids do their thing, whether it’s a 4 or a 9 achieved. I see them as an update to the round robin. The anniversary ones I do sometimes find a bit annoying- most likely depending on the wording. But then I’m lone parent to a high achieving child.. so maybe the anniversary ones nark me due to my ex being a complete twonk who left myself and DD to it?

You missed the point. I posted he got ten A* because someone said I was jealous. It was to illustrate that there's nothing to be jealous about.

Only a few people have done that today thank god. It’s so cringe. In a way it’s more awkward because the kids are young adults - they could tell us themselves if they wanted the world to know. The parents need new hobbies!

I love seeing the posts of proud parents and I also put a post congratulating my child not just on achievements but generally. I love seeing old posts. It reminds me in a way that photos don't.

Don't you understand facebook?

@ThingInTheAttic of course your son got 10 A* - how convenient for your point!

Her post doesn’t make a difference to your life - who cares!

Clearly not. However I did say in my OP that I might be old and out of touch with how FB works, so I'm not sure why you're asking...

I think it's cringe and shamefully obvious they're fishing for praise, but we all do things differently.

I don't think that one person should refrain from posting about success because another may have had a failure. I find people who make this argument equally cringe.

YABU

This is what a large portion of people do on social media

She is proud of her child

Stop being a misery fairy

And there's so many ways to post which aren't smug.

"Kate did really well in her exams, better than we hoped. She should be heading to college as planned in Sept"

Or

Kate has worked so hard and we are really pleased with how well she has done, hopefully she will be heading to college to do X

Honestly I think you sound a bit mean and small minded and remind me of my mother who seemed to think we'd get above our station if we got too much attention. If your own mother can't share and champion your results what is point of FB?

Fancy a parent wanting to publicly congratulate a child they're incredibly proud of.

Facebook is the worst.

Did he bollocks get 10 A* because if he did you wouldn't be upset by others posting their children's achievements

Of course your son got 10 A* 🤣🤣. Just like the men who post on here saying they do all the housework and all the childcare blah blah. Post a pic then!

FWIW I didn't post results because i don't think it matters. She did really well and I know the results of many other children whose parents posted gushy posts didn't do brilliantly academically speaking but enough to d0 what they want to do and good for them because of whatever obstacle they have overcome - mental health issues, confidence, lockdown etc. So stop being so mean spirited.

Anyway, thank you to everyone who replied, yes even those who have me down as a jealous, mean-spirited woman who really hates these people in RL and just can't bear to see anyone happy 😂
I expected that. It's pure AIBU. Clearly from the mix of answers I'm not the only one who finds it a bit cringe. Enjoy the rest of your day everyone x

Yes, I got your point, but I think you missed mine. You're clearly happy to share your son's achievements when it suits you.

Don't come at me for that, though. I'm not the one who thinks there's anything wrong with it.

Thousands of people have posted how proud they are of their children today, children who have performed at all ends of the grade spectrum.

Look away if you don't like it.

Before FB, some people would do this in person, which was worse, because then you had to pretend to be mildly interested and keep your face composed into the "correct" expression. Now you can ignore, mute, hit "like" and scroll on by as soon as you realise what it is (for an easy lif)e, or simply never look at FB at all.

I'm with you OP.

I also hate it when someone phones up/messages a radio station - 'We're just driving up to Scotland and I want you to tell my husband I love him so much and wish him great birthday. Can't wait for our break away'.

Tell him your fucking self, he's sat right next to you!!

It's for the same reason people sent their partners flowers to their workplace.

So everyone can obviously see what a wonderful person they are, of course.

I’m all good with folks who are proud of their children and wish to boast about it. So many shite parents in the world. I’ll take one like this woman any day op

If my DS does brilliantly next year (GCSEs) I will absolutely post that on FB because it will be the culmination of years of hard work and very well deserved. I will want my friends to know how proud I am, and I won't care if others haven't done so well. It's my proud mum moment!