DH accepted a new job offer 100 quid less per week but says it will eventually advance his career...

[Cruella78]

DH went back to college & studied a field related to his career... He recieved a job in his new field but the salary is 100 quid less per week that we can't afford!! He says that the salary will increase & also that he will have greater earning potential I the future... Aibu to feel uneasy about this? It feels risky.. His old salary was 80k per year & I am a sahm as I don't want to pay a fortune in childcare & we have no family support...

You'll be fine. The difference is only 10k, after tax that's only about 6k difference.

My thoughts also

I don't understand, how much are your outgoings if you can't afford what is a very modest salary reduction? You are still a high earning household.

What do you do all day while the kids are in school? There's so much part time work where you can easily earn enough to make up the "deficit". What are you going to do if your husband leaves you, or god forbid, becomes physically unable to work?

I am sure that the new job will pay off in the end, and if not then £100 week less on those figures is surely a relatively small dip than if he was on half the salary to start with.
If you are genuinly concerned about this (if indeed this post is genuine) then there are plenty of things you could do jobwise while your kids are in school, or take the time to retrain yourself so that you can have a career of some kind once the kids have grown up.

You sound very entitled, he's on a very high wage and is bringing in all the money to your household. He should be able to have a job that he enjoys.

You need a job

Honestly, I think you should be proud of your husband and take a bit of inspiration from what he has done yourself. If he could re-train while working (I assume?) then you can certainly do so while children are at school. Instead, you are whinging about a relatively small loss in income.

I doubt OP is genuine, but if you are, I'd suggest going back to work yourself

What can I do? I have no career or qualifications as such....

For starters, you can stop relying on him completely and get a job cleaning. Do you know how to clean, stuck up shelves or similar? Otherwise, cut your expenditure. No more nails and hair Appointments. No more coffee with friends. No take aways. Buy budget food. Cancel after school activities....

Good for him for not resting on his laurels and thinking about future earnings as well as now earnings.

Sorry, OP, I agree with others here. The childcare thing sounds like a bit of a cop out for why you cannot work. Apart from the fact that it loads all the earning burden on your DH, it also leaves you in such a vulnerable spot that it is just not sensible to ignore it.

Building up earning experience now will help with the short term finances but also put you in such a stronger place for the future. Did you never intend to go back to work?

I would definitely go back to work a bit yourself. The way the tax system works you would keep virtually all your income whereas taxes take nearly half his income. You would probably only need to work ten hours a week to make up £100 a week. In a few years you will have more experience so might be able to work towards a promotion, your dc will be at secondary school so won't need you as much. Your dh might even have a promotion and be back to his old pay.

You can definitely work with them at that age. It may not be a high flying career but you can earn £400 a month. There's a recruitment crisis everywhere, you're probably in a better position than a lot of the employers.

See if dcs school need lunchtime supervisors or if another local school does.

I agree with pps.

Instead of sitting there deliberating which job your DH can/cannot have, you need to get your own job. Your children are school-aged.

@Cruella78 it will definitely pay off. Maintenance engineers are needed where I work in bio pharma/vaccine. Def a step in the right direction.

Agree…designed to trigger

Even if he wasn't going to earn more, I think he - everyone - has the right to do a job as long as he can still contribute his expected share? I think this is you being unreasonable tbh

You really don't need to be a SAHM to children of that age, if you're that concerned you should look for work, he's still providing a good wage.

Get school hours job or evening hours job? Work in a local shop, cafe, clean for people? Every shop I go into at the moment has a sign asking for new people to join.

Maybe you should upskill if you’ve no qualifications, both your kids are probably in school so plenty of time for training/studying.

In the meantime, could you get a weekend/evening job in retail/hospitality/babysitting ?

Funny you mention that, he's also in a pharma plant.
No this is not designed to trigger, I'm a genuine poster & afraid he's taking a large risk...

I think he has his head screwed on. If the roles/sexes were reversed and you were the man, you'd be called a cocklodger at best.

I can't believe my eyes. £80k down to £75k... Oh my gosh! How will you cope?

A 70k salary is high. You are insulting some people on here with your posts although i suspect you know that.
Plus private health insurance is included - do you know how much that is worth?
If you want a higher income in your household you can get a job.

You earn nothing, yet think you have the right to say £70k isn't enough for you? Your attitude is so astounding I can barely believe its real.