DH accepted a new job offer 100 quid less per week but says it will eventually advance his career...

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DH went back to college & studied a field related to his career... He recieved a job in his new field but the salary is 100 quid less per week that we can't afford!! He says that the salary will increase & also that he will have greater earning potential I the future... Aibu to feel uneasy about this? It feels risky.. His old salary was 80k per year & I am a sahm as I don't want to pay a fortune in childcare & we have no family support...

Get a full time job. Even at minimum wage and after tax you would have more than £100 left after childcare. Plus if you're out of the house all day you'll make a saving on your utility bills.

So instead of £80k he is earning £74.8k and you are worried? Yes it will mean making aome
cut backs but honestly that isn’t a significant reduction in salary. I am the breadwinner in my family (hubby earns a bit over minimum wage) and recently too a job on £12k per year less for the same reason. We have no family support either and pay for all childcare including babysitting on the rare occasion we can get a few hours to ourselves.

you cut your cloth. We both work and therefore mitigate this. I am sure you could find something to do that would help bridge that £5,200 gap (part time work, reduce expenses, side hustle).

Get your arse back out to work lady. Nothing good ever came of being a kept woman!

I work in a call centre during school hours. 15 hrs a week and I earn about £18 per hour. It’s easy but boring. Fits round school hours so I can’t complain and the pay is great!

If you can't manage on a salary of 75k I feel sorry for you.

I guess you’ll have to get a job then.

How small minded of you to begrudge your husband a career opportunity when you don’t bring in a penny. Stack shelves at your local supermarket, work in a cafe on Saturdays. You’ll easily make it up if you act like an adult.

Agree with this^. How many people are on £80k anyway? You need to live in the real world.

I would get an evening job or weekend job to help out with the loss of cash. I don’t even earn £70k a year so he isn’t doing bad for himself

Yabu most households have both earning less than that wage combined. My fiance and i earn 70k combined and both work full time, manage bills and pay for childcare.

If you go an get a job in the evenings and weekends or better yet during the day and pay for childcare, you will more than manage!!! And also manage the shortfall. I do hope you havent given DH a hard time about this!!!

Totally agree with above. 75k is a huge salary

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Swings and roundabouts. Surely you could find pt work to make up difference if it is really an issue. Even if just two short days during school hours.

This thread is hilarious. Everything is relative. You wouldn't ask Prince William to get the bus to work
That said, you'll be fine. Get back into work - it actually provides a lot more than just financial benefit. Learn a skill yourself and see how you get on!

To be fair though, if your salaries are split fairly evenly you will be getting child benefit.

The OP’s DH is above the threshold.

So you are potentially £145 pcm better off than the OP. To us that is 2 or 2.5 weekly grocery shops.

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@SuperCamp extremely presumptuous of you, I am by no mean £145pcm better off than the OP. I only have one son and get £84 ish a month. Not that it matters whether or not i get it, this isn't the fact at hand here. The DH is sole wage earner and the OP is complaining because he's taken on a job that in the long run will ultimately be better. I have no choice but to work, i really wish i could have been a sahm but im ultimately the 'breadwinner' for want of a better phrase! The fact is the OP COULD go and get a job and in most cases still be financially better off than most people even if she worked around the children's school hours and earned minimum wage. The fact that i get child benefit is irrelevant...my childcare costs vary from month to month and only just cover 2 days a month which is absolutely nothing when he does 3 days a week (we are lucky to have grandparents mind him the other two days).

I can hardly believe what I’m reading! Your children are seven and ten and you don’t do any work outside the home! What on Earth are you doing whilst they’re at school all week? Support your husband and get off your backside and get a job. At the very least you could be a lunchtime supervisor. Set a positive example to your children with a ‘can do’ attitude.

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I know it is doable with shift work depending on the shift.
I work 2x 12 days followed by 2x 12 hour nights and DH works 9-5:30 and we have no family around.

My shift pattern is four cycle so starts a day ahead the next week. We have 3 kids (9,7,15 months). Older two over the year season dependent do swimming, tennis, (both weekday afternoons) soccer, Rugby,Taekwondo, Cricket. We have two childminders. One looks after the baby 3-4 days a week and the other used to look after the older two but now takes them to the two weekday activities on the weeks I'm working days.
DH does the weekend activities if I'm working nights or days at the weekend. It is doable but can be a logistical nightmare if they have hobbies/activities that they need to be driven to.

So how much is this worth to you??

I think you're worrying about a marginal /non-existent decrease.!
Even without this... It's 60£ in real terms....

Around here that's one evening pub shift......

I worked when we met, I stopped working after dd1 as the company I worked for folded & I was made redundant. My redundancy money went towards our deposit for our first home. When we met I actually earned significantly more than him for your information as he was an apprentice, we've been together 24 years, since we 18 to be precise.

And £70k split also means noone is paying higher rate 40% tax on £20k+. Which is another reason why it makes more sense for op to start earning again.