DH accepted a new job offer 100 quid less per week but says it will eventually advance his career...

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DH went back to college & studied a field related to his career... He recieved a job in his new field but the salary is 100 quid less per week that we can't afford!! He says that the salary will increase & also that he will have greater earning potential I the future... Aibu to feel uneasy about this? It feels risky.. His old salary was 80k per year & I am a sahm as I don't want to pay a fortune in childcare & we have no family support...

Can you not work weekends to make up the difference? How old are your dc?

I mean it depends where you live of course but I fail to see the issue of going from 80-70k tbh. Especially if it’s temporary. You can always work if you need more cash.

What can I do? I have no career or qualifications as such....

you can pick up work in a supermarket, or bar work or any number of unskilled jobs. Then when he's more established you can retrain.

Do nights in a supermarket or something then.

If your husband works regular office hours, you could look for evening or twilight shifts in supermarkets or care homes. You'll be tired with looking after the children in the daytime as well, but your income would increase by more than £100 a week.

Sorry I'm digressing a bit... Just wondering I guess if anyone did similar & did it pay off in the end... Dc aged 7 & 10.

Surely you can see that your financial future is better this way?

Has there never been a time in your life before when you've had to cut back on spending?

Have you ANY plan for ever working again...that sounds quite lame to be honest and also leaves you quite vulnerable. And I'll probably have my arse handed to me on a plate but here goes....your husband seems to have a bit of hustle and ambition in him, he's an already high earner and can progress further and you come across as quite passive and intersted in things staying the same. That kind of disparity in outlook can make for marriage trouble in my experience.

Is there something you arent telling us. Because that's a huge wage compared to most of us. There must be something you can cut back on .

You don't need many qualifications to get a part time job in retail or hospitality/catering if you go for customer service side

Pay what off?

If it's an extension of an engineering qualification it'll absolutely pay off. People are screaming out for engineers of every description right now.

Where did you work before children? Everyone has skills. There's a shortage of staff in many places.
There might be some wfh jobs.

If the children are now 7 & 10 and now in school you can at the very least work a part-time job. Start of volunteering or applying for local jobs to get a foot in the door of being back in work.

What's your plan then? Your children are pretty much at the age where they don't need you as much. Are you just planning to not work again, ever? What if you and dh split up? The sooner you dip your toe back into work, the better.

It seems reasonable to me. He will need to start at the bottom of a new profession but that salary will improve.

My thoughts exactly on this one. Sounds like the boy has his head screwed on.

Shop, cleaning , pub , childminding , call an agency and see what's available

I might be giving a different answer if your children were very little but at 7 and 10, you really need to think about your own life and ambitions outside of being a SAHM for financial AND other reasons.

My 16 year old son has just got a job for 10 hrs a week in a supermarket and he will earn around £85. He has no experience in anything just a willingness to learn and work hard. Surely you can manage something like this if the extra money means that much to you.

He's an electrician, worked for a large company for a number of years, then went back to uni to upskill & he's now moving into an engineering field... The job title is maintenance engineer. It's in the same location where he is currently working, he was approached by the head of the maintenance team.

School hours job, evening work, admin work at home? Do a course to increase your qualifications?

Tighten your belt

but in four years time you won’t need to be a sahm and it might get a bit dull.

You need to get a job. Your children are at school.

Goodness if the kids are in school then you have plenty of time to earn a few quid each week. Doesn't matter if you have no qualifications, a few hours on minimum wage would make up the difference quite quickly. What's the issue, exactly?

It makes absolute sense for your husband to do this. You have already said it comes with benefits and it is the right thing to do it will pay off

now he has finished and presumably has set hours can’t you work out what to do