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Neighbours Dog

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Rustpail · 25/08/2022 11:57

I'v name changed for this. But am at the end of my tether and need advice. I recently bought a flat, its lovely and I'm really happy with it, but my neighbour has an absolutely huge dog and I'm allergic. She insists on taking it out for a walk three times a day through the communal hallway and I find it quite intimidating and it is making me sneeze.

I wasnt told about the dog when I bought the flat, and it doesnt make any noise. Apparently she has permission for it and permission can only be removed if it is making a noise or fouling - but not for any other nuisance. What can I do?

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ScarlettnotOHara · 26/08/2022 12:28

I am wondering if it wasn’t the dog what else would be the problem 🙄 imagine living in a building with someone as entitled as this !

Miri13 · 26/08/2022 12:37

You really do come across as very entitled. Absolutely ridiculous. 🙄

DixonD · 26/08/2022 12:41

Stop being so dramatic and wear a mask when walking through the hallway. It’s not rocket science and your allergies should not prevent a neighbour (someone who doesn’t even live with you!) from owning a pet.

Taillighttoobright · 26/08/2022 12:42

The management company isn’t responsible for managing your allergies, OP.
try loratadine - it’s much less soporific than the Cetirizine.
and ask more questions next time.

DixonD · 26/08/2022 12:43

Rustpail · 25/08/2022 12:07

Antihistamines make me drowsy I dont think I can take them long term. I'd feel whacked all the time.

But surely if she's been given permission then they shouldve told me that they've granted permission for a dog in the building. I'll email the managing agent and ask why i wasnt told

🤣🤣🤣

You’re being completely and utterly ridiculous.

DixonD · 26/08/2022 12:45

Rustpail · 25/08/2022 12:18

@SolasAnla unfortunately the lease just says that dogs are allowed with permission, and that permission will be revoked for noise nuisance or fouling, which I find weirdly specific. This dog is a nuisance, just not in the ways listed.

For those asking I think it is a labrador, but I dont know that that matters.

I'm just so upset, I can't afford to move again, and I am so miserable. I just wished they'd told me.

The facemasks are a good idea- I might try that, then at least the owner might get the picture that i am not happy

And then you expect them to get rid? You’re unbelievable.

DixonD · 26/08/2022 13:07

Rustpail · 25/08/2022 18:05

Thanks for those who actually were helpful. Hoovering more is a good shout, the management company hoovers once a month, and I know my neighbour hoovers inbetween, but I am going to write her a note saying that she needs to hoover every day, she obviously knows its a problem because she is already doing it a bit but weekly is just not enough.

I'm going to get a mask and see what the GP says and then see where we can go from there.

I'm not going to check this anymore because some of the comments are a bit much

You’re a bit much OP. And a bit of a knob.

autienotnaughty · 26/08/2022 13:56

A large quiet dog in a flat is clearly a very well trained settled pet. Three walks a day is ideal for a lab. The communal area is not your property people can walk their pets through it.

bubblesandwineandallthingsfine · 26/08/2022 14:06

Perhaps you should of brought a flat that ha d a leasehold that stipulated no dogs

was the not not living there when you went to view? Otherwise it’s weird you didn’t get a reaction when visiting

dawngreen · 26/08/2022 14:42

If I had such a problem as you have , the first thing I would have asked about was are people allowed to keep dogs here. Other than moving or wearing a bubble suit I don't see what else you can do. I had to read this post twice to realise you were serious.

My fella has a allergy to dogs fur, but he manages fine. He finds his allergy is effected more by certain trees. Can you maybe try different meds for your allergy.

stockpilingallthecheese · 26/08/2022 15:43

Why bother asking OP - you clearly aren't willing to listen or accept the pretty unanimous opinion that you're being ridiculous. Did you just want or expect everyone to agree???

dawngreen · 26/08/2022 15:54

Why do you assume she hoovers because of her dog? Leaves and other rubbish blows in too. You cannot expect her to hoover daily in the communal areas. If I was her I would point out that you are the one with the problem so you should hoover daily?

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 26/08/2022 17:22

She could also be hoovering because she thinks her neighbour is a clarty mink.

Leafy3 · 26/08/2022 17:26

@SheldonesqueTheBstard what is a clarty mink ?!

WiddlinDiddlin · 26/08/2022 17:28

gatehouseoffleet · 26/08/2022 09:15

I have to say I think the vitriol on this thread is somewhat unwarranted. If someone had a disability, you'd be a lot more sympathetic. Well a serious allergy IS a disability but nobody cares when it comes to "fur babies" because their "need" to have a pet and take it everywhere outweighs everything else (and service providers pander to it).

However, the OP should have checked beforehand, as this is her home. That said, it doesn't really help. She could have moved in, a month later a flat goes on the market and several months later someone moves in with dogs. Maybe living in a flat isn't the thing to do with a dog allergy. A house would be better, where you have your own front door. Or a ground floor flat with its own entrance or patio doors so you don't need to use the main entrance.

IF she had a disability.

IF.( Because she does not in fact, have a disability. )

Then she'd need to find a house or flat that didn't prevent her from mitigating that disability. Ie one that doesn't allow dogs in communal areas.

If I buy a third floor flat in a block with no lift, does that mean the OTHER residents should cough up to fit a lift, or carry my fat arse upstairs every day, because I have an actual disability? Would i have the right to evict the person in the ground floor flat so we can swap properties?

No. Disability does not trump common bloody sense or other peoples rights. Stop being silly.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 26/08/2022 17:41

Clarty mink = filthy article in posh leafy

CactusBlossom · 26/08/2022 17:46

The dog is not causing a nuisance and has every right to be there. See your GP or pharmacist to ask about allergy medication. Did you ask whether there were any pets before you moved in? I can't see why anyone would tell you if you didn't actually ask. Do you have problems walking down the street if there are dogs? Is it possible there is something else causing an allergic reaction, soft furnishings, air freshener and the like?

Leafy3 · 26/08/2022 18:16

@SheldonesqueTheBstard nothing like mumsnet to make me realise how un-posh I am!

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 26/08/2022 18:30

I’m as rough as a badger’s leafy

The filthy article is the posh bit. 😉

Clarty mink is the norm for up here. Country scottish.

You can substitute mink for moch. 😊

I doubt that the dog is the reason she’s hoovering the landing weekly. 😏

thesurrealist · 26/08/2022 18:58

and don’t get me started on dogs in John Lewis brushing against clothes…..

Mine prefers Mountain Warehouse

dawngreen · 26/08/2022 20:24

Bye heck lasses its a dog not a mink. But the picture of a guy covered in mud has started me laughing now.

ItsJustASimpleLine · 26/08/2022 20:38

I don't understand what you want to achieve. Do you want her to get rid of her dog?

Notanotherwindow · 26/08/2022 20:38

She quite rightly going to tell you to sit on it swivel if you put a note like that through her door.

She's doing nothing wrong, whatsoever. Your allergies are not her problem. If they are so severe then YOU should have asked about any dogs in the building before buying the flat. It is your responsibility.

You knew when you bought it that dogs were allowed with permission. She has permission and she has lived there longer than you. You have literally no case here. None at all.

It is no one's fault but yours that you have bought a flat that is unsuitable for your needs. She has no obligation whatsoever to make any changes to her routine. She is doing everything right. If you want any cooperation from her, I suggest that you may wish to refrain from telling her what she 'needs to do.'

gaymeanshappy · 26/08/2022 22:35

I want to know your age, OP. I am reasoning you must be over 16 as you have bought a flat.

And it has taken you this long to realise that the world doesn't revolve around you?

I am amazed honestly. How dare a neighbour have a dog without telling your royal highness (although that is not a great comparison, as the queen by all accounts is quite classy and accommodating to other's needs)?

Do you really think that you looking a bit less than gruntled is going to make the neighbour think she must change her lifestyle due to you? Why do you think others see you (or should see you) as so special?

Snaketime · 26/08/2022 22:49

Wow could the world revolve around you anymore. How the hell do you think k hayfever sufferers go on every spring/summer. These of us worse effected are miserable for 6 months of the year. Antihistamines always make me drowsy, but I can't refuse to leave my house, I have to go to work take my kids to school, I don't tell my neighbours when to mow their lawn or when not too.
If it is that bad, why don't you vacuum the communal hallway yourself. You are the one with the problem.