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Rustpail · 2022-08-25T10:57:46+00:00

I'v name changed for this. But am at the end of my tether and need advice. I recently bought a flat, its lovely and I'm really happy with it, but my neighbour has an absolutely huge dog and I'm allergic. She insists on taking it out for a walk three times a day through the communal hallway and I find it quite intimidating and it is making me sneeze. I wasnt told about the dog when I bought the flat, and it doesnt make any noise. Apparently she has permission for it and permission can only be removed if it is making a noise or fouling - but not for any other nuisance. What can I do?

mountainsunsets · 25/08/2022 18:35

Rustpail · 25/08/2022 18:05

Thanks for those who actually were helpful. Hoovering more is a good shout, the management company hoovers once a month, and I know my neighbour hoovers inbetween, but I am going to write her a note saying that she needs to hoover every day, she obviously knows its a problem because she is already doing it a bit but weekly is just not enough.

I'm going to get a mask and see what the GP says and then see where we can go from there.

I'm not going to check this anymore because some of the comments are a bit much

Bloody hell. If I was your neighbour and you asked me to hoover everyday, I would stop hoovering altogether.

If YOU want it hoovered, do it your bloody self.

Leafy3 · 25/08/2022 18:35

and I know my neighbour hoovers inbetween, but I am going to write her a note saying that she needs to hoover every day, she obviously knows its a problem because she is already doing it a bit but weekly is just not enough.

Wonder what your neighbour did in a past life to deserve you?

Amazon has loads of hazmat suits available- recommend you buy one.

And perhaps an etiquette book.

shrodingersvaccine · 25/08/2022 18:41

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SheldonesqueTheBstard · 25/08/2022 18:44

Some of the comments are a bit much?

The only ones that have been questionable are yours.

However you’ve managed to pull out my inner Nan today so well done.

WiddlinDiddlin · 25/08/2022 18:44

You would absolutely be told where to stick the vacuum cleaner if you told me to hoover the entire communal hallway daily!

If you want it extra cleaned, you do it or you pay for it!

You are well on your way to making yourself deeply unpopular with at least one neighbour and probably all of them - given you have no choice but to share communal access, I think you're going to cause yourself some long term stress and misery!

But perhaps you enjoy that eh?

I hope your GP tells you to stop being a dick and use antihistamines that do not cause drowsiness.

XenoBitch · 25/08/2022 18:46

I am waiting for this in AIBU... (fictional by the way)

I will give as much detail now as not to drip feed.

Around 8 years ago, DH and myself moved into this wonderful flat that we shared for 5 years until he sadly passed from cancer. I suffered a huge breakdown as a result, and a friend of mine suggested I get a dog to keep me company. DH always loved Labradors, but thought that because we did not have a garden, that we should not have one.

After hours of research and looking, I found an adult lab in a rescue who was given up after her owners could no longer look after her. The rescue were fine with me taking her on despite living in a flat. We live very close to a lovely big park. I also checked the terms of the lease of the flat and building. It was all good, and a few weeks later, I brought the dog home. She has never messed in the communal hall, and she has probably barked a handful of times since since I got her.

I WFH, and I take her out to the park several times a day. She fit into my life and schedule wonderfully, and we have so far had 2 years together.
Our building management company sends a cleaner to hoover the communal area once a month. Sometimes it is not enough, so I have been dusting and hoovering the communal area myself weekly.

A few weeks ago, a lady moved into the flat at the end of the hall. Whenever I have passed her, I smile but she just scowls at me. Recently, she has started wearing a mask. I can only guess she has Covid and is taking precautions, or is CEV. I have also heard her sneeze a couple of times. I did think to put a note through her door asking if she needs anything.

Last night, a note came through my letterbox. It was from my new neighbour, demanding that I hoover the communal area daily. The reason given was that she is allergic to dogs, and my lab (who she described as huge and intimidating) sheds hair and dander everywhere and it is making her ill and miserable. She described my dog as a “nuisance”. I have permission to have my dog. The only way she could be described as a nuisance (and I have to rehome her) is if she repeatedly messes in the hall, or is constantly barking. She has done neither.

AIBU to tell my new neighbour to fuck off?

Soubriquet · 25/08/2022 18:55

XenoBitch · 25/08/2022 18:46

I am waiting for this in AIBU... (fictional by the way)

I will give as much detail now as not to drip feed.

Around 8 years ago, DH and myself moved into this wonderful flat that we shared for 5 years until he sadly passed from cancer. I suffered a huge breakdown as a result, and a friend of mine suggested I get a dog to keep me company. DH always loved Labradors, but thought that because we did not have a garden, that we should not have one.

After hours of research and looking, I found an adult lab in a rescue who was given up after her owners could no longer look after her. The rescue were fine with me taking her on despite living in a flat. We live very close to a lovely big park. I also checked the terms of the lease of the flat and building. It was all good, and a few weeks later, I brought the dog home. She has never messed in the communal hall, and she has probably barked a handful of times since since I got her.

I WFH, and I take her out to the park several times a day. She fit into my life and schedule wonderfully, and we have so far had 2 years together.
Our building management company sends a cleaner to hoover the communal area once a month. Sometimes it is not enough, so I have been dusting and hoovering the communal area myself weekly.

A few weeks ago, a lady moved into the flat at the end of the hall. Whenever I have passed her, I smile but she just scowls at me. Recently, she has started wearing a mask. I can only guess she has Covid and is taking precautions, or is CEV. I have also heard her sneeze a couple of times. I did think to put a note through her door asking if she needs anything.

Last night, a note came through my letterbox. It was from my new neighbour, demanding that I hoover the communal area daily. The reason given was that she is allergic to dogs, and my lab (who she described as huge and intimidating) sheds hair and dander everywhere and it is making her ill and miserable. She described my dog as a “nuisance”. I have permission to have my dog. The only way she could be described as a nuisance (and I have to rehome her) is if she repeatedly messes in the hall, or is constantly barking. She has done neither.

AIBU to tell my new neighbour to fuck off?

Spot on!

AffIt · 25/08/2022 19:12

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 25/08/2022 19:22

Rustpail · 25/08/2022 18:05

Thanks for those who actually were helpful. Hoovering more is a good shout, the management company hoovers once a month, and I know my neighbour hoovers inbetween, but I am going to write her a note saying that she needs to hoover every day, she obviously knows its a problem because she is already doing it a bit but weekly is just not enough.

I'm going to get a mask and see what the GP says and then see where we can go from there.

I'm not going to check this anymore because some of the comments are a bit much

I'd literally laugh my arse off and then completely ignore you if you asked me to hoover more

BobLemon · 25/08/2022 19:22

Shame the OP has declined to accept the Mumsnet Grip.

MissDollyMix · 25/08/2022 19:27

This is surely the thread for which this emoji was invented —> 🤨

Soubriquet · 25/08/2022 19:33

MissDollyMix · 25/08/2022 19:27

This is surely the thread for which this emoji was invented —> 🤨

We have our mn own

Crazycrazylady · 25/08/2022 19:34

Op
Honestly you surely understand that total strangers have zero obligation to you at all.. people are entitled to live their lives as they want and they have a well behaved dog that they appear to look after well.
wear your mask , take your antihistamine and please didn't make a fool of yourself in front of all your new neighbours . You're on a hiding to nothing here as your neighbour will just assume your unstable and ignore you.

YesitsBess · 25/08/2022 19:34

Pleeeeeeeeease let us all know how the note goes!

😃

SarahSissions · 25/08/2022 19:38

I can’t believe the couple of people who have said that this could be their neighbour! I thought OP was loopy enough, but the fact there could be more out there?

They walk amongst us…

XenoBitch · 25/08/2022 19:41

SarahSissions · 25/08/2022 19:38

I can’t believe the couple of people who have said that this could be their neighbour! I thought OP was loopy enough, but the fact there could be more out there?

They walk amongst us…

There was a thread a while back from someone who had a dog, and their neighbour wanted to be told the exact times the dog went in their own garden as their son was allergic. Ridiculous.
I do think in a lot of cases (OP included) are using allergies as a cover up for being scared of dogs.... or just hating them in general.

dribblewibble · 25/08/2022 19:44

Why can't you hoover and wear a mask and take an antihistamine?

Chocolatedip · 25/08/2022 20:13

You should have checked if there were any dogs before hand. You are being extremely unreasonable to your neighbour as this is your problem not theirs.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 25/08/2022 20:18

XenoBitch · 25/08/2022 19:41

There was a thread a while back from someone who had a dog, and their neighbour wanted to be told the exact times the dog went in their own garden as their son was allergic. Ridiculous.
I do think in a lot of cases (OP included) are using allergies as a cover up for being scared of dogs.... or just hating them in general.

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I remember that thread! And there were people who were agreeing with the pissing neighbours!

evilharpy · 25/08/2022 20:18

This has really got to be a wind up.

FantasylandEnthusiast · 25/08/2022 20:20

I honestly think if you posted a note telling me "I need to hoover daily" and complaining the way you have here, I'd post one of the dogs many times a day shits, through your letterbox, in response to your note.

bm2021 · 25/08/2022 20:21

I’ve read a lot of MN threads and I’ve never really and truly thought any are made up until now. Surely no one is this dense! If so I really hope the dog owner also uses this site and I can’t wait for her post when she gets the note through from the new lunatic neighbour 🤣🤣

katishot · 25/08/2022 21:10

but I am going to write her a note saying that she needs to hoover every day, she obviously knows its a problem because she is already doing it a bit but weekly is just not enough

No, she doesn't "need" to do that at all.
You are being completely and utterly ridiculous and I sincerely hope you are the dog-hating troll who pops up from time to time rather than a person who thinks their demands are reasonable.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 25/08/2022 21:38

I am going to write her a note saying that she needs to hoover every day

What a cheek! You're the one who is being paranoid about it so get your own hoover out.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 25/08/2022 21:38

PS: Do you need a book about how to create good neighbourly relationships when you've just moved into a building? Good luck with that.